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Illness and depression

Depressed girl heartbroken distressed

Asala mualaikum ,

I'm suffering from depression , sometimes I feel like committing suicide but thn I can't cause it's forbidden in islam , I'm suddenly suffering from health issues , I'm a teen girl

And I loved myself but now a days something really happening different with me , I'm growing a man like beard not as thick as men but kind of long hairs on my face where men used to have , I feel like I'm cursed 🙁 I'm losing myself , crying everyday in salah knowing that there isn't any cure for it , allah ( swt ) Said every illness has a cure , but I couldn't find any I pray to allah for a cure , I'm really in depression, thinking of giving my life by committing suicide but thn I will be in hellfire for forever hereafter , anybody can give any idea about it ? I'm losing myself everyday I cry I pray I make duas so that my situation doesn't go worsen still I can't be happy , I just think about it all the time , and I'm dying with a all time headache , I want to die actually

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  1. Dnt worry everything will be ok, do dua to allah inshallah all ur issues wil be resolved

  2. This will help you in sha Allah
    Umm Salamah (May Allah be pleased with her) reported:
    I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) saying, "When a person suffers from a calamity and utters: 'Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'un. Allahumma ujurni fi musibati, wakhluf li khairan minha (We belong to Allah and to Him we shall return. O Allah! Compensate me in my affliction, recompense my loss and give me something better in exchange for it), then Allah surely compensates him with reward and better substitute." Umm Salamah (May Allah be pleased with her) said: When Abu Salamah (May Allah be pleased with him) died, I repeated the same supplication as the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) had commanded me (to do). So Allah bestowed upon me a better substitute than him (I was married to Muhammad, the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ))

    This dua is for if something afflicts you like calamity or hardship

    Allah says in the Quran:“And whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty).

    And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine.”

    Also do dua like this
    And your dua is going to be accepted in sha Allah

  3. Dear Marzia
    Assalamalekum, cheer up you are not alone, girls having facial hair is very common. The clue is you are in your teen, as you are in your puberty stage your body is producing hormones called androgens it's a male hormone. our body produces both male and female hormones but during teenage/puberty when a girls is growing into a woman,due to hormon imbalance.exsessive male hormones causes facial hair in girls.
    Male hair fgrowth patters in girls are common. it's called hirsutism. Or hair shafts being overly sensitive to androgens.
    So don't worry once you cross the teenage years it will InshaAllah get better.& go away.
    I understand how it might be effecting you &!your self steam,But don't worry it just might be a temporary things.

    You can go see a doctor, have blood test done.once you cross your teenage years if it continues then you can have them removed from the root.their are quite a few natural remedy you can try too. You will also be able to remove them permanently by electrolyses or other means..
    You are right every illness has cure, believe in that.dont loose hope. Try not to think too much about it do what is necessary.crying and stressing over will get you nowhere it's causing you headache & suffering.
    May Allah make it easy for you.Continue with your SalaH and good deed.


    • I was about telling you the same thing too girls growing beards on their face is normal I've seen a few beautiful ones whom are married now. It's stops, sometimes it occurs naturally just like @ZS said and sometimes it's triggered when you try to shave the little hairs on your face. And then for your depression try not to be alone go with the du'a as @IK said but then when making that du'a put your complete trust in Allah do not have any doubts in your mind if the du'a will work, be 100% sure Allah listens to you,added to this recite the qur'an with love and you'll find your heart at peace InshaAllah. PS recite your qur'an everyday

  4. Wa alaykum salaam.

    You are going through the stage of puberty and ill be honest with you, i hated it so much too (I'm a girl too) i used to have soo much acne and tons of hairs gowing on my face. So yeah it was horrible and i used to cry-a lot. But eventually i got better and i did be patient and i did my part and took care of myself more. And Insha'Allah you'll be fine, too.

    There's nothing wrong with removing facial hair or doing facials (applying tons of face masks and experimenting with different products or house ingredients for removing acne or brightening your skin and making it softer etc) you are allowed to remove face hair (I use threads to do plucking) so long as you don't pluck your eyebrow hairs, it's okay. Eyebrow hairs are forbidden to pluck in islam and altering the teeth. But other than that you are allowed to increase your beauty but remember to be modest like a muslimah should be. You are only doing a favor for yourself to look better (lower your gaze and be modest). Be patient. Insha'Allah you will be fine. Remember when you leave the house, don't adorn yourself (I.e wear tons of makeup and wear what you like to wear in the house like beautiful clothes). Don't try to drag haram intentions from the shaitan, because this will take you away from Allah and you will be punished in the Akhira for doing haram. Keep your imaan safe with Allah, keep away from non-mehrams. And remember you can do ANYTHING you want, but in islam there are limits too. We have to do everything the halal way.

    So again, you are free to increase your beauty. You can dye your hair too, but you aren't allowed to dye your hair black. and

    ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Allaah has cursed the woman who does tattoos and the one who has them done, the woman who plucks eyebrows (al-naamisah) and the one who has it done (al-mutanammisah), and the one who files her teeth for the purpose of beauty, altering the creation of Allaah.”

    (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5931; Muslim, 2125)

    "We have certainly created mankind in the best make and appearance. (Surah At-Teen: 4).

  5. Also with life in general, it will be fine insha'Allah. You will feel better. Keep being patient and know that Allah is with those who are patient. So if Allah isn't with you, you have nothing. So keep being patient and with patience comes great reward SubhanAllah. Reward whether in this life or the akhira. Allah will be there for you, you may not feel it during depression but If you keep fighting through it, with patience and salah, you will eventually see your life becoming better BUT it doesn't stop there (life is like a seasaw..It goes up and down) so there will be times where you feel happy- and when that time comes then be thankful for Allah for giving you the blessings but when you go down again, endure in patience, and inshaAllah, if you keep being mindful in both good times and bad times then Allah will always be there for you, he will rank your status in the akhira too and insha'Allah the shaitan wont be able to misguide you and Allah will protect you from falling into Severe major sins like Shirk, zina, murder etc.

    Remember keep learning about your deen and keep up worshipping Allah and never forget that Allah is there for you, and your only destination is the Akhira. Learn the Sunnah's of the Messenger (Salalahu alayhi wasalam) and follow his teachings and ways of life and read the Al Qur'an, be fearful of Allah in everything you do. And you will feel the difference, insha'Allah. If you sin, then repent and turn to Allah and avoid the sin again. "And Allah loves those who repent." and "Don't despair of Allah's mercy."

    “And seek help in patience and As-Salaah (the prayer) and truly, it is extremely heavy and hard except for Al-Khaashi‘oon [i.e. the true believers in Allaah — those who obey Allaah with full submission, fear much from His punishment, and believe in His Promise (Paradise) and in His Warnings (Hell)]”
    [al-Baqarah 2:45]

    “Surely, Allaah is with those who are As‑Saabiroon (the patient)”

    [al-Anfaal 8:46]

    “But if you endure patiently, verily, it is better for As‑Saabiroon (the patient)”

    [al-Nahl 16:126]

    “But if you remain patient and become Al-Muttaqoon (the pious), not the least harm will their cunning do to you. Surely, Allaah surrounds all that they do”

    [Aal ‘Imraan 3:120]

    “Verily, he who fears Allaah with obedience to Him (by abstaining from sins and evil deeds, and by performing righteous good deeds), and is patient, then surely, Allaah makes not the reward of the Muhsinoon (good‑doers) to be lost”

    [Yoosuf 12:90]

    “but give glad tidings to As‑ Saabiroon (the patient).

    156. Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: ‘Truly, to Allaah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return.’

    157. They are those on whom are the Salawaat (i.e. who are blessed and will be forgiven) from their Lord, and (they are those who) receive His Mercy, and it is they who are the guided ones”

    [al-Baqarah 2:155-157]

    And Those Who Strive For Us (sincerely) - We Will Surely Guide Them To Our Ways. And, Indeed, Allah Is With The Doers Of Good

    [Al-‘Ankaboot : 69].

    “…And whoever is mindful of Allah, He will make for him a way out. And will provide for him from an unexpected source.
    And when someone puts all his trust in Allah, He will be enough for him.” [Qur’an, 65:2-3]

    Strive for the Akhira, strive to be a better muslim! Aim for Jannah! You will be okay Insha'Allah.

    • This dunya is filled with trials and tribulations so don't surprised when your life goes down again.

      • I love stressing the importance of patience because walahi, your life is more easier if you follow the way of Islam. : D Keep being patient, and persevere in doing good. Remember the angels are writing down what you're doing every second of your life and you will bring out your book of deeds in front of Allah on the day of Yaumul Qiyamah either saying "LOOK AT WHAT I'VE DONE IN THE DUNYA!" flashing the book of deeds with a smiling bright beaming face or with a sad, dark and gloomy face hesitating to show your deeds.

        So you choose- temporary life over the akhira?

        But don't worry Ma'aam this life will be easy and peaceful too insha'Allah, so long as you refrain from the grave sins and worship Allah and keep your duty to Allah and be patient. Do whatever makes you happy but keep the limits of islam in too.

  6. Dear Sister.
    Please do not give up hope. Indeed Allah is most
    Merciful. Never stop making Duaa. Read durood sherif abundantly and read ayatull kursi all the time . I went though bad depression my self but it is only
    Allah that came to my rescue. Allah tests those whom he loves . One fine day yu r going to smile and You
    Will wonder in amazement as to how Allah rescued you.
    I will make Duaa for you

    Sister R

  7. I am sorry you are going through this. I am not a doctor but maybe your have an issue with your hormones. I suggest you talk with your mother and ask her to take you to a doctor. There maybe some medical issue that is behind the depression and hair growth. Also please know that Shatan wants us to be unhappy, so always try to look for the good in what Allah gives you. Everyone goes through problems in their lives so keep your head up. Duah and love. <- Your sister in Islam

  8. Why have you not seen a doctor yet? Your excessive facial hair growth most likely comes down to hormonal issues that duas and prayers aren't going to sort out for you. If you have issues with your hormones, you'll need medication and, most likely, laser hair removal.

    Please don't feel bad for your issues...many women have this problem and it's, thankfully, one of the easier problems to solve. If you'd just actually go see a doctor first, that is...

  9. Dear sis
    Aslamualiqum. MAY ALLAH make you stronger and happier . This is the shaitan that is making your iman weaker. I wish that ALLAH helps you.. Dont loose hope. Your beautiful as you are. I MYSELF been in the depression stage where i felt the same exact way. When i was 11-12 i broke my nose by a childish neighbor who threw a rock ( medium ) size aim to my face which aimed my nose making it extremly crooked unsemetric and ugly. Been made so many times where people called me witch and stuff and its very obivous( deformed) . I been mentally suffering for many years but still i try my best to keep myself strong. BECAUSE ALLAH test us in our daily lives. Dont loose hope. Talk to your mother and also check to the doctors , I think you probaly have hormore issues. 🙂 ALWAYS REMEMEBER YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL THE WAY YOU ARE . NO MATTER WHAT. we all are DIFFERENT and YOu are strong to OVER COME this. But i DO understand HOW you feel EXACTLy . Because every day i wish i had a straight nose. One little thing can mess you up. It is very Hard. I would say ., keep praying to ALLAH no matter what and talk with your mother. You need to also check to doctors for treatments. Please do reply my post so i can know someone has read it:) Thankyou

    • Assalaamualaykum Mahi,

      I just read your post and wanted to let you know that someone read it, because you requested that 🙂 Sometimes the original posters reply to the advice and sometimes they don't, but I think you gave very good advice to the sister.



  10. Assalaamualaykum Sister,

    I think you have been offered some great advice by your brothers and sisters. Basically,

    1.) Ask your mom/dad to make appointment with a doctor
    2.) Take any medicine the doctor prescribes
    3.) Do threading or waxing of hairs on face. Ask your mom how to do this...she probably knows! Try to do only those that really bother you. Some hairs might be insignificant and small, which you can hardly even see....leave those hairs alone and only do threading on necessary hairs.
    4.) Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful, Alhamdulillah

    I pray that Allah relieves you of this suffering very soon.



  11. Thankyou, i dearly appreciate it:)

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