My parents don’t allow me to marry this Hindu girl who is ready to convert to Islam
“O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted.”
Assalam O Alaikum,
My name is Yousaf Shatam. At the end of my engineering course, I fell in love with a Hindhu girl (priya) and we both love each other a lot. I said to my parents (actually I was caught by them while speaking on phone in night time). I told them everything that I want her as my wife and she will convert to Muslim and i won't be happy without her in my life and everything. I even told them that I will still be thinking of her only even if I got forced married to some other girl. All that I said from my heart. My parents are not accepting our love and my mum keeps crying infront of me.... they are saying don't spoil everyone's life; leave the girl. I can't even ask such words from them. I can marry her by taking her away somewhere without anyone's knowledge but I don't want to do that. I really want my nikkah happening with their permission.
I promise I didn't follow her and ask her for love and even didn't do anything wrong, all just happened just like that. I believe in the words "ALL THE HAPPENINGS ARE WISHES OF ALLAH" and in my life, in my love I think the same. My parents are telling that you pray 5 times a day (I do my best in praying 5 times but sometimes I miss that even) but doing all these sin. Is loving and marrying the same girl is a sin in Islam? My girl had lost her younger sister recently in an accident. She is becoming and behaving like something, always thinking about her and saying to me she left me, she left me like that because she loved her sister a lot. If suppose she missed me too then she will take some other bad decision which i don't want to happen. What can I do now? I am totally in a confused state,
Please help me friends...
I can't cheat her also..... 🙁
Yusuf.
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Salaams,
If this girl is going to convert, she should go ahead and do so and not just to marry you. I strongly suggest you leave her alone if and until she does, because truly there is no place for you to be having any communication with her otherwise. As long as she remains Hindu, she is not even marriageable to you.
Honestly, I can't blame your parents for having reservations and not being in support of the relationship. She's not even a Muslim yet, so why should they be supportive? Even after she converts, I think it's only reasonable you postpone any plans for marriage for several months so that she can prove that her conversion is sincere and that she will still be a compatible for you as a Muslimah.
It's one thing to say that "everything happens is the will of Allah", but that doesn't mean that our acts of disobedience or going outside of Islamic boundaries are part of His plan for us as Muslims. If you are having a haraam relationship with a girl who is an idolater, you can't say, "Ah, Allah wills us to be together because nothing is preventing us from talking!" That's a gross misunderstanding of how Divine Decree is meant.
So the best advice for you is to repent for the errors you have made so far by engaging in these haraam interactions with her, and refocus on Allah. If He wills her to come to Him then there will be nothing to stop it, but you shouldn't be having any affiliation with her until that actually happens.
-Amy
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asalamu alaikum
thanks for your reply friend..
is that love is completely haraam in our caste??
looking forward for your reply.
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