He promised to marry me but now he is marrying a girl of his family’s choice.
Assalam O Alaikum,
I am a divorced girl. One and a half year back he came in my life. He proposed me, I refused him in the beginning by telling him that no one will accept me in his family but he said that he loves me and will marry me. But, for 4 months ago, I don't know what happened? Now, he wants to leave me and is going to marry a girl of his family's choice. But its not easy now, I can't live without him, every minute is like a mountain for me without him. I want to marry him please help me. Now when ever we talk he hurts me. He doesn't attend my call; he talks happily with everyone but don't want to talk to me. I am getting weak. Please tell me what to do? Since we work at same place so its becoming more and more difficult. Tell me what to do so that he marry me?
Thanks,
Afat46.
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Salaams,
If he has already chosen to marry someone else you have to let him go. You CAN move on, you CAN live without him. I understand it will be difficult if the two of you are working together, so it may be best you look for another job. At this point, if he is already engaged to be married to someone else, he shouldn't be talking to you or interacting with you other than what's absolutely necessary for work reasons.
Perhaps it is his fault, for making a promise to you he couldn't or wouldn't keep. Perhaps he is wrong for having gotten your emotions involved prematurely. However, his choice is now made, and your focus must be on your future...a future that clearly does not include him. The only One you CANNOT live without is Allah, so now would be an ideal time to seek refuge in Him and try to experience the indescribable and unwavering love HE has for you.
-Amy
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Amy i totally agree with you,...I am sorry for your loss dear sister.Love is this way ,unfortunately you had a bad experience this time.But there is tomorrow and you dont know what Allah has willed for you.Keep trying to find someone for you in the best of manners,that is the way of Holy Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he will safe gaurd you from incidents like this by following his methods.It may be that Allah has willed for you to find someone better,i know its hard to believe right now but once you get past this and start talking with someone else and you start relating to one another,it happens.
best of luck
Salaam sister, Sorry that you are experiencing such hurt. It was wrong of him to pursue you and then leave you disrespectfully, unfortunately it happens. Forget him, it will be hard, very hard, but dont show him your weakness. Dont answer any of his calls even if he calls you a 100 times, dont text him, if you see him in the work place pretend like none of this has bothered you, pretend to be happy even if you feel dead inside, just dont give him the pleasure of seeing or knowing that you are sad about him leaving. It may sound random, but trust me not only will it help you move on quicker and inshaAllah find a spouse more trustworthy and loving, but will also hurt this guys ego and put him back in his place! He may even reconsider his decision, and if he does, break his ego and tell him to leave you alone...he dumped you now he can deal with it!!! If he doesnt reconsider, say alhamdulillah, and thank Allah that he showed his true colours and that you are now free to find your true soul mate who will treat you like a princess. Trust me, I have been there, been dumped after the crazy guy made me fall in love with him, I was just thinking today and it actually made me laugh, he had claimed to be so in love with me at one point that he said something cheesy like, when i die, i want you to hold me in your arms and want your face to be the last i see etc etc! And then he dumped me, and i cried and cried and begged him to take me back, but it only made him disrespect me and verbally abuse me, thecold hearted person he was. So learn from my expereince and dont make the same mistake, stay strong at least on the outside, and turn to Allah swt. Do lots of dua, keep doing dua and remain patient. The key is to cut off all contact, and if he tries to contact you, dont respond. Change your number, block him from your email if you can, and work towards moving on. Dont try to hold any hope for him, he simply is not worth it!!!
Asalamu aleykum warahmatulahi wabarakatu.i am very much stress about one boy,he always like to company me and interesting to sit with me,calling when iam in office or visiting my office waiting me untill end of my working hour,it's 8 months,if i look at him as he love me,all his action attracted my heart to love him.i was stress how do i inform him my feelings before he was not discuss or share with me about love,after i fall inlove deeply even though not informed him,he changed,not calling me like before,even not sitting with me like first time,today i saw him with another girl,i refused many but for my life he's my choice,iaw stress,i want to tell him that i love him but i fear becouse he might refuse,i need dua and advice please
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Wael
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Wacalaikuma Sallaam Dear Farxiya yarow we keep for you Du'aa Inshaa Allah & My ALLAH truly Bring For us the one u love & Much interesting but tell Him what ever u feel my be He can Help 2 u & Don't feel any Scare because love is exist All of the World & My Allah get out the stress & everything Bring For u a Bad
Your Sincerely ❥Love N Respect Urself❥
❥❥By♥Sallaam The-Fabulous❥