I have been a serious sinner; how do I get my deen back?
Repent before the Day when Allah will Question you
salam alaikum!!
till now ie i am 19 years..Thers no limit to the sins i have commited !! I have stole money from my relatives,watched porn,broke my fast and hided it,lied to my parents and friends,showed off, and cheated my mother who has been sacrificing her married life for us. I have flirted with many guys.. And was madly infatuated to a muslim guy with whom i have had sex too !!!
but then i lost interest in him and i cheated on him by accepting another guys proposal(he dumped me ) . I then got bak to that muslim guy and this time we really did breakup.
I dont really remember wen,i changed and realised my sins.. i started repenting and started namaz. I cried those days wen i realised what i have been doing to my dear mother. I broke up wid tht muslim guy and started studying .Everything went on well..
But after my exam got over.. I wanted my ex back coz i knew he got a new gf. I stopped all the sins though.. But to get him bak,i again ended up having sex with him.But he did not look bak after he went home.And slowly i again started losing my deen. Cant help it. Again started uploading my fotos in fb . watching Porn ..
But somwer im really aware of wot i am doing. I am totally lost. I was very passionate about my course. I lost it too. I badly want to study . My parents are providing me with everyting i want,but i dont know what,i dont feel like studying at all.. I dont wannt to cheat on them again. I got into a new relation with a muslim guy,, he is a person who got religious lately.
But we both realised this would not work out. So we brokup after a month.We are still in touch though(with both of my exs).I hate the way shaythan is intruding my lives again. I want to be a deeni person. So brothers and sisters..,kindly tell me what i must do for forgiveness for these deadly sins and most importantly how not to go back to it. I want my deen back.
I believe in ALLAH and he is the one and only one who was there for me during my hard times and the one who wept my mother's tears. I have never associated him with anyone else. I firmly believe in him. But I am very prone to satanic influences. And please do tell me if I deserve to be married(as i have had sex with my ex) and whether i must tell my future husband about my past.(I dont want to cheat at any cost).
Please please please !!! Tell me ways i can purify myself and hold myself from going back to it. And i wish to start studying too. SO in short what i want is :-
1.What i must do to neutralise my past deadly sins
2.Whether i must reveal my past to my ultimate partner
3.How i can recover my lost deen
4.How i can get my lost passion to studies
5.And more things i must do to strengthen my deen
6. My mother is dear to me, I have cheated on her so badly,how can i seek forgiveness for that.
Thank you . Kindly reply as soon as possible as i badly want to get out of satan.
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Walaikumassalam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu.
Alhamdulillah my sister in Islam that you have decided to change. may Allah make it easy for you and us.
Firstly,
Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who, when they have committed Faahishah (illegal sexual intercourse) or wronged themselves with evil, remember Allah and ask forgiveness for their sins; — and none can forgive sins but Allah — and do not persist in what (wrong) they have done, while they know.
For such, the reward is forgiveness from their Lord, and Gardens with rivers flowing underneath (Paradise), wherein they shall abide forever. How excellent is this reward for the doers (who do righteous deeds according to Allah’s Orders)” [3:135-136]
Ibn Katheer said:
The words “and do not persist in what (wrong) they have done” mean: they repent from their sins and quickly turn to Allah, and they do not persist in their sin, rather they give it up, and if they do that again they repent to Him. Tafseer Ibn Katheer.
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: I heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) say: “A person committed a sin and said: ‘My Lord, I have sinned; forgive me.’ His Lord said: ‘Is My slave acknowledging that he has a Lord Who forgives sins and punishes for them? I have forgiven My slave.’ Then as much time passed as Allah willed, then he committed a sin and said, ‘My Lord, I have sinned; forgive me.’ His Lord said: ‘Is My slave acknowledging that he has a Lord Who forgives sins and punishes for them? I have forgiven My slave.’ Then as much time passed as Allah willed, then he committed a sin and said, ‘My Lord, I have sinned; forgive me.’ His Lord said: ‘Is My slave acknowledging that he has a Lord Who forgives sins and punishes for them? I have forgiven My slave,’ – three times…” [al-Bukhaari, Muslim].
Al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) included this hadeeth (narration) under the heading: “Acceptance of repentance from sins even if the sins and repentance happen repeatedly.”
He said in his Sharh (commentary):
We have already discussed this issue at the beginning of the Book of Repentance. These ahaadeeth (narrations) clearly point to that, and even if the sin is repeated a hundred times or a thousand times or more, and he repents each time, his repentance will be accepted and his sin will be erased. And if he repents once from them all, his repentance will be valid.
Sharh Muslim.
Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali said:
‘Umar ibn ‘Abd al-‘Azeez said: O people, whoever commits a sin, let him seek the forgiveness of Allah and repent, and if he repeats it, let him seek the forgiveness of Allah and repent, and if he repeats it, let him seek the forgiveness of Allah and repent, for it is like chains around the neck of man, and doom lies in persisting in it.
What this means is that a person will inevitably commit the sins that it is decreed he will commit, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “The son of Adam’s share of zina (fornication/adultery) is decreed for him, and he will inevitably come to that…” But Allah has given him a way out from the sins that he falls into and He erases them by means of repentance and seeking forgiveness. If he does that then he will escape from the evil of sin, but if he persists in his sin he will be doomed.
Jaami’ al-‘Uloom al-Hakam.
Although Allah hates sin and warns of punishment for it, He does not want His slaves to despair of His mercy. He likes the sinner to seek His forgiveness and repent to Him, but the Shaytaan likes it when despair fills a person’s heart and prevents him from repenting and turning to Allah.
It was said to al-Hasan al-Basri: Would not any one of us feel ashamed before his Lord to seek forgiveness from his sin then go back to it, then seek forgiveness then go back to it? He said: The Shaytaan would like you to feel that way; never give up seeking forgiveness.
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your first question 1.What i must do to neutralise my past deadly sins
The conditions of sincere repentance include:
- regretting the sins that you have committed,
- and immediately giving up that immoral action, and everything that leads to it such as contact, correspondence and dates.
- The conditions of repentance also include resolving not to return to this deed.
You also have to do a lot of righteous deeds, such as prayer, reading Qur’aan and fasting, so as to strengthen your faith and piety. Good deeds erase bad deeds and sincere repentance erases that which came before it, and turns bad deeds into good deeds. Allaah says – after mentioning the sins of shirk (associating others with Allaah), murder and zina – (interpretation of the meaning):
“Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”
your second question Whether i must reveal my past to my ultimate partner.
-NO you should not reveal it to him.
Ask Allah to forgive you for the sins you have done.
Make sincere repentance to Allah .
Ask Allah to conceal your sins.
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If i can i will answer your other questions later inshaAllah.
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May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family and Companions!
Subhan'ALLAH brother nice response
ASSALAMALAIKUM
1ST STEP 1ST-THAT IS THE RIGHT THING ACCORDING TO ALLAH IF YOU REALLY LIKE AND TRUST ALLAH AS MUCH AS YOU HAVE TOLD- THAT IS HIJAB- YOUR FREEDOM LEAD YOU TO ZINA -AND BREAKING THESE VERSES OF QURAN-AND DONT THINK THIS ALLAH SENT FOR JOKE-
THE CONCEPT OF BOY FRIEND AND GIRL FRIEND IS VERY FAR --FOR THE PURPOSE OF PURITY ALLAH EVEN THREATENS US WITH THIS.... Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin (Radhiallaahu Ánha) "Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said "Allah does not accept the prayer of a woman who has reached puberty unless she wears a veil."Sahih Al-Bukhari Volume 9, Book 89, Hadith # 293
Surah Al-Ahzaab, Verse #59
‘O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks ("Jalabib") veils all over their bodies (screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way Tafseer Al-Qurtabi) that is most convenient that they should be known (as such) and not molested: and Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful." SEE YOU GOT MOLESTED WITH CONSENT-THAT AGREED TO THE CRIME......
Surah An-Nur, Verses #30 and #31
‘And Say to the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent(like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, head cover, apron), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)
However, the most fundamental law of hijaab for women is declared in the following declaration of Allah Ta'ala: "And you women remain firmly within your homes" (Surah Ahzaab:33). Thus a woman must remain within her home and only emerge for that which the Shariah has allowed.
BUT OUR FOREFATHERS IN THE SUB CONTINENT CAME IN THE OPEN AFTER THE FILM INDUSTRY INFLUENCED. SOME DO NOT LIKE SOMETHING TO BE TOLD WHICH EMBARASSES THEM AS THEIR OWN-FAMILIES WERE VERY FAR FROM HIJAB AND AURA AND THEIR CHILDREN -MY GOD FREE BIRDS LIKE THE ABOVE CASE GET ATTRACTED TO HARAM EASILY AS IF IT IS HALAL AND THEY WILL BE REWARDED FOR THE ACT-
IT IS NOT THE CHILDRENS WHOLE FAULT IT IS THE PARENTS CULTURE& FREEDOM THEY PLAYED WITH ISLAM AND WILL REAP THE FRUIT- WHICH HAS BROUGHT THEM DESTRUCTION ON ISLAMIC POINT OF VIEW-
IN ISLAM EVEN CORRESPONDENCE IS ALSO NOT ALLOWED........
LOVE BEFORE NIKAH IS NOT LOVE IT IS INFATUATION CLEAR CUT EMOTIONS OF EVIL-THOUGHT-
THIS ORDINARY THING CALLED CORRESPONDENCE IS NOT PERMIITTED-
Correspondence between the sexes is not permissible, because that provokes temptation and usually results in evil. If a man corresponds with a non-mahram woman in letters that are not seen by anyone else, that leads to many evils.
As for the love that stems from repeated looking, haraam mixing or correspondence, the one who does that is sinning to the extent that he does haraam things in his relationship and love.
Islam forbids a woman to be alone with a man who is not her mahram because of the fitnah (temptation) and bad things that result from that, such as attachment and the desire to look and touch, etc.
All of this results from the man talking to the woman in these private letters or conversations, especially if they are young and at an age when desire is strong.
Shaykh Ibn Jibreen (may Allaah preserve him) was asked: What is the ruling on correspondence between young men and young women, if this correspondence is free from immorality, love and desire?
He replied: It is not permissible for any person to correspond with a woman who is not his mahram, because of the temptation involved in that.
START HIJAB DONT EVEN LOOK UP AND SEE ANY EX OR WEX OR FUTURE GUYS-
DEDICATE BECOME LIKE PEARL IN A SHELL-MARRY A DEENDAR FELLOW BY PARENST ARRANGEMENT-DONT SAY A WORD ABOUT YOUR PAST TO YOUR HUSBAND LEVAE ALL TO ALLAH-
REGARDS
Masha'ALLAH brother
asalamu alaikum,
Your post was bit confusing few points i.e I badly want to study and i dont feel like studying at all.
Cut ties with your so called ex's. Shaytan cant doing anything as long as you don't give in to your desires.
IKHALAAS* (sincerity) - This is the answer, inshallah. Repentance with sincere sorrow in the heart for what has been intentionally done or not done according to the Commandments of Almighty Allah.
As we all know, Allah is the Acceptor of Repentance as long as it is with sincerity. The one who misses a single day of fasting has lost a lifetime of good deeds, yet it can and will be something that Allah may Forgive, provided - WHAT?
Provided, the person is truly and sincerely sorry and repentant for their shortcomings. Otherwise, it would be one of the things to cost a person time in the Hell-Fire. And trust me sister, this is no joke.
There is some very good news in this for you my dear sister - Allah is the Merciful, the Beneficent, the Acceptor of Repentance and above all, the FORGIVER.
In Islam, our bad deeds only become worse when we show them to others. Confessing in public and telling others about what we did in our so-called "days of jahaliyah" (ignorance), is not correct in Islam.
When a person repents of sin, talking about it afterward is another type of sin and exposes what Allah Ta'ala had covered for us.
Our prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, told us about the one who reveals their sins to others after they have repented to Allah:
"On the Day of Judgment, how will Allah conceal your sins when you have torn away the covering?'"
Ask yourself if you die today, are you prepared? you are still young but don't take life for granted.
start studying the religion from scratch. we only here in this world temporary, don't you wanna know whats gonna happen during and after death?
ma salama
assalamualaikum sister, calm down and u you wht Allah loves people who repent and i would suggest you to recite quran daily with there meaning and get into good company i mean make good religious friends , sister there are many people who are regreting for sins they did , but we must fight with our nafs and that is big jihad with ourselves, question urself is this life permanent , what will i answer whn i m alone in grave, dear sis u are very lucky and allah loves u and thats why u are here , the best thing in you is u acepted ur mistakes and want to repent for it, when u cry in namaz and repent allah will forgivr all ur sins even if those are bigger than mountains allah is merciful dear and he knows very well what u are within so relax and calm down , allah is with u forget ur past and move on . promise yourself u will be like a diamond which is precious and rare and will respect ur body and life allah has given u, smile 🙂 and its all over now u are realising ur mistakes thats big thing and now never go back to that , no matter what just ignore and keep one thing in mind allah is ever watching us and we must meet him oneday and nothing imoortant than allah as only allah loves us truly 🙂
jazakallah 🙂
Masha'ALLAH very positive attitude sister ...
Alaykumsalam,
You said, I hate the way shaythan is intruding my lives again.
Do not blame shaytan. Shaytan will always be with us, no matter how religious we are/become BUT shaytan will only 'wispher/call' and we have 'free will' to accept him or fight him. The people with strong Iman/faith would ignore/trash him by seeking refuge with Allah whereas those with weak faith or should I say, extremely weak faith( since Allah said Ever feeble indeed is the plot of Shaitan (Quran 4:76) )would follow their evil desires, which in the end has only themselves to blame. You can never blame shaytan because he only 'calls' and you do the actions, so whatever evil you do, blame yourself which inturn becomes a part of repentance.
And Shaitan will say when the matter has been decided: "Verily, Allah promised you a promise of truth. And I too promised you, but I betrayed you. I had no authority over you except that I called you, so you responded to me. So blame me not, but blame yourselves. I cannot help you, nor can you help me.I deny your former act in associating me (Satan) as a partner with Allah (by obeying me in the life of the world). Verily, there is a painful torment for the Zalimun (polytheists and wrong-doers, etc.)." (Quran 14:22)
ALLAHU AKBAR!
Shaytaan will say of that you mentioned?
Yea
thanks to everyone for this valuable respnses. let allah grand you more blessings! waiting answer for my other questins insha allah!
Even i did sins, but now in peace with grace of Allah..! Realize the love of Allah, He could have turned us into blind, deaf or even paralyzed for our mistakes..but he wants us to repent.. Keep repenting
SISTER WERE ALL FACING DIFFICULTIES BUT TO MAKE LIFE EASIER I REALIZED THE BEST WAY TO STAY IN TOUCH AND CONTROL OF YOURSELF IS TO 1. STAY AWAY FROM THE TV, NO EASTENDERS, NO MUSIC, DO NOT FEEL THE URGE TO READ THE FILTHY MAGASINES THE PUT ON THE SHELVES, THESE ARE ALL DISTRACTIONS.. FOCUS ON WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU AND WHAT BENEFITS YOU THE MOST..
PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS TRY TO USE YOUR QUALITIES FOR THEIR BENEFITS AND PLEASURE, STAY STRONG AND KEEP THE FAITH, SLOWLY SLOWLY YOU WILL REALIZE THAT YOURE OUT OF THIS FASSAD ILLUSION, THIS PERFECT LIFE THEY INDOCTRINATE US THROUGH THE MEDIA..
TURN IT OF AND READ THE HOLY QURAN, DO DUAS PERFORM YOUR SALAAT ON TIME AND INSHALLA ALLAH WILL GUIDE YOU..
Assalamu Waalaykum
It is important for you to know that shaytan does NOT make you do anything you don't want to do as he is commanded by Allah to give you free will as Allah gives us all. shaytan will give you the chance to sin but ultimately YOU must choose right or wrong. so the excuse shaytan made me do it is not valid.
follow the advise the brothers and sisters gave you above as it is very sound advise in the way that Allah is most forgiving and most merciful in every way. it is never to late to turn to Allah even if you comit the most horrible of sin He is willing to forgive if you just submit and repent.
If you take two steps to Allah He will take 4 steps towards you.
Walikum aselam
U know in Islam it said don't miss a prayer even if u can't move ur legs or hands ...in life we make mistakes, mistakes that can ruin us but in that moment 2 choices come in handy a chance to get right up or to stay down.. sister u only have to choose.... when u go into the true road of Islam always remember ALLAH is always merciful...
Askm, Thanks a lot for the post and comments. So much to learn. Very inspiring. May allah grant u all jannah!