He doesn´t love me but I want him back
I am 29 years old. I know this guy with whom I am in love but could not say this to him. He also likes me but not love. Recently his family are settling his marriage with another girl. He says he is also liking that girl. Now I am really broken heart.
For a long time I was praying so that I can get him, now that he is getting married to another girl I don´t see any hope. The marriage is still to be finalized. In this situation can I ask to Allah for any miracle so that he comes back to me and I get my love back.
Would that be haram or a sin knowing that he is liking another girl and I am asking Allah for him, since it might also dishearten the other girl. But I really love him and don´t want to loose him. I am praying by my heart and soul to Allah that something miracle happens and he comes to me. Please let me know what to do? I am so confused. I love him so much.
rrfatima
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Sister Fatima, it's time to let go of that guy and move on. As you said, his family is already settling his marriage to another girl, and he is happy with that. There's nothing more for you to do.
Rather than pray for Allah to change his heart and bring him to you, you should pray to Allah to bring you a good husband who will love you, treat you kindly, and be happy with you.
Wael
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RRfatima, Asalaamualaykum,
I am sorry that you are feeling this way. I am sure it is heartbreaking when love is not reciprocated, but all this having to proclaim that you are inlove in order for the other person to know that you are interested in them really is not from Islam. Having being brought up in a world of Hollywood and Bollywood has polluted and confused our minds - not just yours, but the minds of many of our brothers and sisters.
However difficult it is, I think the best thing for you is to break contact with this man be. He has made his choice by choosing to marry another girl. If you keep entertaining the idea of winning him back in your mind, all you will do is exhaust and hurt yourself. You will find yourself running after someone who has already removed himself from your life. This man has gone - painful though it is, its a fact. With time and faith, the pain will ease down and eventually you will not feel anything.
As Muslims, we need to look for a spouse who is a striving Muslim and of good character. Ask Allah to grant you with a spouse with these qualities. Seeing as it is Ramadan, use this time to meditate and to come closer to Allah. Focus on your relationship with Allah and try to occupy your time with good things, see good friends, learn about your deen. These things will not take away your pain, but they will give you something else more positive to think about rather than this man.
You will pull through inshaAllah, aameen. Make dua at Iftar for Allah to replace your pain with the sweetness of eemaan.
SisterZ
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May you get over this heart break and may allah grant you a better husband. ameen
thank you all for all your kind comments. Please pray for me so that I can overcome this situation......Its still difficult for me....May Allah bless me....
thank you all
I have been madly in love with this guy for the past 5 years...we met online .it was kinda weird.
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I understand ur problem.i am 18 yrs old and have been masturbation since I was 11.i wanna get rid of it but I think it has occupied my brain by now.i ask forgiveness everytime but tend to do it again and again.i do remember that it's a sin at the time of doing but i am weak.i cannot control.can anyone help me?will allah forgive me?..I am sincerely sorry for whatever I have done.i don't think allah still loves me.