I want to marry a Hindu boy who I can’t live without but I know it is not allowed in Islam.
Is my marriage permissible?
Assalawalaikum,
Whosoever is the owner of this site please answer my question as I am dying each and every day. I love a Hindu boy and I am a Muslim girl very close to my religion. He also loves me alot and want to marry me.
But I am in dilemma that is it not allowed in Islam because I don't want to make Allah angry but its also ture that I cannt live without him. Please help me to solve my problem; I will be very thankful to you.
- Aliya
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Salaams,
You already know the truth. He is haraam for you, you cannot marry him. Yes, you can live without him. Start working on doing that, and Insha'Allah a Muslim man who you will feel just as strongly for will be brought to you.
You say you are "close to your religion". To be honest, for you to keep entertaining the thought of being with this peson could seriously jeopardize your relationship with Allah. It isn't worth it, let him go.
-Amy
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you wont beleave that this was the same problem with my brother and i solved this problem,its long story so you have to mail me first in this (to share emails id are not permitted here Editor´s note)so that am not being a full to write this story without you getting it, so mail me and i il tell u through mail,and dont worry everything will be fine
Salam,
I love a hindu girl. I m v afraid, she loves me too.
But dont want to revert. Please help me , u said u solve ur brother's issue. 🙁
Momin, Wa Alaikum as Salam,
The answer is clear: leave her. A Muslim is not allowed to marry a Hindu and is not allowed to have relations outside marriage, regardless of religion.
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Sister Aliya, wa alaykum as-salam,
If this boy converts to Islam, you can marry him. That is the only way. Otherwise marriage to him is prohibited and you cannot marry him. Marriage of a Muslim woman to a Hindu is rejected by Allah and Islam and will never be accepted.
If he will not convert then you must end your relationship and contact with him. It may be difficult but you can do it.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
SALAM WAEL I KNW THIS IS THE ONLY WAY SHE CAN MARRY HIM IF HE ACCEPTS ISLAM
BUT MY "PERSONAL THINKING" IS THAT ITS VERY SCARY 2 GIVE OUR SISTERS N DAUGHTER 2 A CONVERT COZ IF IN THE NEAR FUTURE HE DISOWNS ISLAM THAT THAT MIGHT CREATE A DRASTIC
PROBLEM(ONLY ALLAH KNWS BEST)
Marriage of a Muslim woman to a Hindu is rejected by Allah and Islam and will never be accepted.....hmmmmm but some1 told me y
sister just perform Tahajjud namaz..., and ask the guidance of ur Lord., He'l surely answer u.,
You can't marry him unless he converts. You knew he was Hindu so why did you trap your self in a relationship that had one way?
I know that we as Muslim women don't like muslim men because of they way they behave and act and have the worst temper. So i understand you. I always wished to marry a convert instead of a muslim born man... That's is why you! me and every women i know will sell their husband fr a convert LOL
sister, im sorry if you have experienced an abusive/hypperaggressive muslim man that happened to be born to a muslim mother and thus put you off marrying another any other muslim men, but all men are not the same.
it is also not correct to say most muslim men from muslim backgrounds are abusive to women.
SALAM WOMEN SHE CAN MARRY A CONVERT
BUT MOST OF THE TIME PPL CONVERT JUST FOR MARRIAGE AND NOT FOR THE LOVE OF ISLAM
(NOT ALL PEOPLE DO THAT BUT SOME DO)
IF SUCH IS THE CASE OF THE ABOVE SISTER N AFTER MARRIAGE IF THE GUY REVERTS BACK 2 HINDUISM THAT ALSO IS THE PROBLEM (ONLY ALLAH HAS THE ANSWER FOR THIS)
BUT IF HE WILLS 2 CONVERT THAN THE SISTER SHOULD WAIT FOR A YEAR OR SO 2 SEE HOW DEDICATED HE IS TOWARD ISLAM N ONLY THEN MARRY HIM
sister, reverts dont just convert to islaam because of marrying, you shouldnt say that.
because wallaahi, muslims reverts are more sincere than we could ever be, most of them are like this.
this is the case.
try to get to learn a sister who became muslim years ago and what her experiences in life were, and i promise she will increase your imaan.
SALAM
thank for your reply ,
but im a male (haha)
"EVERY WOMEN I KNOW WILL SELL THEIR HUSBANDS FOR A CONVERT"
R U TRYING 2 SAY
1> THAT BORN MUSLIMS R NOT GOOD N CONVERTED MUSLIMS R VERY GOOD?
2>BORN MUSLIM DOSENT PRAY N CONVERTED MUSLIM DO?
3>BORN MUSLIM DOESNT FOLLOW QURAN CONVERTED MUSLIM DO?
4>BORN MUSLIM DOES NOT KEEP FAST CONVERTED MUSLIM DO?
WELL WOMEN I WILL "NEVA MARRY A CONVERTER COZ THEY MIGHT LEAVE ISLAM(ONLY ALLAH KNOWS BEST) "
N IF U THINK A CONVERTER IS BETTA THAN A BORN MUSLIM ?
I CNT HELP IT THEN LOL
i m hindu boy n i think its not so true for all muslim man..
Sister, marry a MUSLIM man....
AA;
Why can not you live without him? I think if you just slow down, get back to your religion, think more about what you really want (This man or ALLAH's blessing) and the answer will be clear.
May ALLAH guide you to the correct path.
AA
Salaamu'alaykum my sister.
please allow me to tell you about legendary ansaari woman from the sahaabiyaat who was put in the exact same position as you were, whom Allaah is pleased with.
Her name is Al-Ghumaysaa or Ar-Rumaysaa or Ar-Ramlah or Sahlah, better known as Umm sulaim bintu milhaan an-najjaariyyah al ansaariyyah [ whom Allaah is pleased with].
she was the mother of Anas ibn maalik [ra], the close companion, Scholar, servant of the propeht[saww].
she was one of the few women of the ansaar whom accepted islaam at the hands of Mus'ab ibn 'Umair [ whom Allaah is very pleased with].
Umm sulaim was married to a rich bussiness man called maalik ibn nadhar, when he heard she became muslimah, he didnot like it at all, he started to abuse her, insult her, shout at her, and even started violence in the house, but she stood her ground and was patient.she kept on calling him to the deen, but he would reply very rudely, and she would tell him that he just couldnot comprehend the treasure she found [islaam].
then maalik got even more angryabusive when Umm sulaim started teaching her son Anas about Allaah and his religion, so one day maalik went out to one of his bussiness trips in syria, and he was murdered and robbed by some of his enemies.
after anas's father died, she dedicated him to the prophet[saww] to be his servant and to be with him all day for 10 years, and because of her sacrife, anas [ra] narrated 1000s of ahadeeth that we couldnot have known about.
this is from the womans virtues
so it was known in madeenah that Umm sulaim was a widow, and umm sulaim was not just any regular woman, she was the only woman whom the men fought over, competed to marry.
so the elite came and proposed to her, and amongst them, was a young handsome man called Abuu Talhah zayd who was a kaafir till now.
abuu talhah was one of those fortunate men whom every woman dreams to have in her lap.
he was one of those lucky men who WoWwed everysingle woman in the city.
he was young
he was handsome
he was very rich/wealthy
he was of noble/good manners
he was a ladies man
he was very charming
he was generous
he was loving
he was caring
he was romantic with women
he was intelligent
he was of good leneage
he was physically built
he was strong/brave
he was tall
he was a cheif of his clan
he was loved by his clan/people
he was a night
he was a night in shinning armour [literally]
he always smelt of the BEST/MOST EXPENSIVE perfumes available
he just had everything in this world
he just had it aaaaaaall as they say.
except eemaan, which is everything.
So when young Abuu talhah heard about Umm sulaim, and her desirable quilities she possesed such as patience, looks, intelligence, good manners etc, he went to propose to her.
so he went to Umm sulaim, and asked for her hand.
Umm sulaim was very flabbergasted, happy by this gesture.
and she replied "oh abuu talhah, i am like all other women, i would love to have you,I swear by Allaah your kind is never ever rejected, any sane woman would not reject you, BUT I AM A BELIEVING WOMAN, AND YOU ARE A DISBELIEVING MAN, YOU ARE NOT HALAAL FOR ME"
so abuu talhah, thought it was about money, and did not take her seriously, so he ran to his house and got gold and silver, and laid them out infront of umm sulaim, BUT SHE REPEATED THE SAME ANSWER, your kind is not rejected, but you are a disbeliever, leave.
so he left and kept comming back, untill she said to him, that her mahr would be his islaam [if he becomes muslim] and she did not want any yellow or white metals [gold and silver]
and then after a while he studied the deen and became one of the best ansaar and full of eemaan.may allaah be pleased with him
and umm sulaim got the most extraordinary mahr there could be in history.
but the mushaahid here is that DESPITE HOW DESPERATE Umm sulaim was to marry abu talhah and how much she fell in love with him, she was always loyal to her lord first and foremost as she knew that it is him [swt] who give and provide spouses.and she put her trust in Allaah.
so Allaah provided her a dream husband from where she could not expect.
Allaah promised in the qur'aan
"and whomsoever fears Allaah, he will make for him an exit, and he will provide him with sustainance without measure"
and whomsoever fears Allaah, he will make/gather his affairs easy for him"
so please sister, be like umm sulaim, and turn him down, Allaah has made it obligatory upon himself to find you a better husband, or if he becomes muslim, you will have a happy life together inshaallaah.
i hope umm sulaim[ra] has helped you with her situation.
Allaah ma'ak
@ Abu Az-Zbayr: what a wonderful story. I have heard sort of similar stories in which the man reverts and becomes such a practosng muslim, that he is better in his deen than even the woman he converts for and her family (my 2nd cousin got married like that and bec of him, her brother went to Syria etc and learnt about Islam and is now a shaykh in the UK and her husband goes for tableegh with him).
Similar is the story of the muslim chaplain at my university, who became a muslim 13 years ago after he met the muslim girl who he wanted to marry and she refused and he went and studied Islam and leads us in prayer with such good tajweed! I met his Indian Muslim wife (the same girl) at the eid party he had for us at his home last night.
My high schhol Hindu classmate became a muslim 5 years ago and is better than most muslim guys who have proposed to me and I have rejected them because they are mostly muslim by birth and not practising it in daily life. Islam is not just a religion - it is a way of life.
@ Sr. Al-bahjah: Please stop "shouting" by writing in upper case, as Sr. Sara has told you below. You are only showing your ignorance and intolerance by behaving in such a judgemental manner. Apparently, you have never met a convert/revert. I wonder which country you live in. Allah has made us into communites so we can "recognise" each other as He says in the Quran - not to put barriers between us. WE have created the barriers when we behave in an intolerant fashion.
This sister has to take a deep look inside herself and make the decision, bec she is answerable for herself - she is only asking for advice - you are no one to tell her that your answer is a "strick no no no". Please learn not to judge - leave that for Allah. None of us is perfect....as Hazrat Essa AS said something similar to "let the one amongst you without a sin cast the first stone"
salam
n sorry for my writing in upper case letter , i apoligise for that n i was not "shouting" as u ppl term me
anyways my strict no no is for "muslim should not marry non muslim"its not for the above sister , she is mature , n can take decision on herself
its just that she can be dragedd away from her iman if she marrys a nonmuslim
the final decision is with her and her only no one over her can predict it.
salam
apparently, you have nenevr met a convert/revert
yes im a born muslim , n i hav neve met a convert/revert.
but what i hav read in the internet/some of the drafts over here , that some reverts(not all)
accept islam 2 get married n after marriage they dont practise islam n might return back 2 their religion back.(ONLY ALLAH KNOWS BEST)
imay sound judgemental/racist but im not "IM SCARED, COZ I TOO HAVE A SISTER N GIVEN HER HAND TO A REVERT N IN FUTURE IF THE REVERT LEAVES ISLAM THEN WHAT(ALLAH KNOWS THE BEST) ?"
this is only my opinion , n only what i feel, in no ways m i saying that converter to islam r not good as born muslim they r good some eg( YUSUF ESTAES , YAHAYA KHAN ETC....)
everone know that these converter have taken initiative to spread islam and they r doing it as much good n in some occasions better than a born muslim would have done.
I MAY SOUND RIGHT OR WRONG TO PPL BUT THIS IS JUST WHAT IS MY PERSONAL OPINION N I MAY BE WRONG ALSO.
IF I M WRONG THEN ALLAH PLZ GUIDE ME.
btw, the prophet[saww] said;
i entered paradise and heard some footsteps and said who is that, it was said that is Al-Ghumaysaa/Ar-Rumaysaa" Umm Sulaim may Allaah be pleased with her.
umm sulaim also participated in the pledge of pleasure.
the prophet[saww] said those who participated in the bay'atu-ridwaan, the pledge of pleasure were
all going to paradise and forbidden from the hellfire, EXCEPT the man with the red camel.
the pledge is described in suurah fath "Allaahs hand was over theirs"
except one misguided hypocrite amongst them who was named jadd ibn qais, who owned a beautifull, fat red she camel.
it was said to him, come so that the messenger of Allaah ask forgiveness for you like he did with the other 1400 sahabah, he said "that i find a simple thing i lost is more beloved to than that i go and seek forgiveness from that man[ the prophet[saww].
umm sulaim, the perfect muslimah, she has many virtues.
ALIYA A MARRIAGE BETWEEN MUSLIM & NON MUSLIM IS NOT ALLOWED
N THIS IS SAID IN THE QURAN THAT "A PERSON WHO IS A SLAVE BUT A BELIVER , IS BETTER THAN A NON MUSLIM"
N U HAVE SAID THAT "U R CLOSE 2 YOUR RELIGION"
IF ITS SO THAN ILL LIKE 2 SAY SOMETHING
1> U MUST BE PRAYING 5 TIME A DAY ? WILL THIS HINDU FAMILY ALLOW U 2 PRAY 5 TIMES A DAY
2> U FAST IN THE MONTH OF RAMAZAN? WILL THIS HINDU FAMILY ALLOW U TO FAST IN THE MONTH OF RAMZAN N DURING FASTING U CANNOT DO HARM EVEN NOT EXPRESSING LOVE TO UR HINDU HUSBAND WILL HE ALLOW THIS
3> HINDUS ARE VEGITARIAN N ALSO BELIVE THAT COW IS THEIR MOTHER/GOD ?
WHAT WILL U DO IN BAKRAH EID ? WILL UR HINDU INLAWS ALLOW U 2 QURBAN GOAT/COW THEY R VEGITARIAN
4> MOST IMP WHAT RELIGION WILL UR CHILDREN FOLLOW ISLAM/HINDUISM
PLZ DONT SAY THAT WHEN THEY GROW UP THEY WILL DECIDE ITS EITHER ISLAM/HINDUISM
5>IF ULL MARRY HIM, FIRST OF ALL ITS NOT ALLOWED N FORBIDDED, N EVEN IF U GO AHEADED
WITH THIS, PLZ UNDERSTAND MY 4 VALID POINT N ASK UR SELF ABO0UT IT
MY ANSWER ITS A STRICK NO NO NO
Al Bahjah,
Please refrain from writing all in capitals. It is almost like 'shouting' and it is also more difficult to read on the eye. Just a tip, if you write not in caps, it will be easier and more people will read it InshaAllah.
Sara
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
salam sister
sorry for writing in caps, n plz im not "shouting"
No problem. Glad your not shouting. : ) Just make sure you stick to no caps in all posts you comment on from now on please.
Sara
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Y IS IT THAT MUSLIMS AND NON MUSLIMS DOESNT FIND THEIR LOVE/HUSBANDS/WIFES
IN THIER OWN COMMUNITY ?
PLZ STICK 2 PPL IN YOUR OWN COMMUNITY
You need a lesson in biology....genetic drift, genes, natural selection are all good reasons to find a spouse outside of the community. Truly it doesn't matter where love is found, but it's not necessary to stick to people in your community.
salaamu'alaykum.
i think what the brother al-bahjaah is trying to say, is that the more you have in common with your spouse, whether it be race, nationality,tribe leneage, methodology of the religion [sect], madhab, family, accent, language etc, the closer you are when it comes to these matters, the less differences there will be in the marraige, and less differences mean less obsticles and better chance of the marraige being successfull as both of you are very similar.
certain people dont even want to concider marrying outside of their tribe, family etc
some people dont even want to marry none other than their first cousin.
i too think this and im one of them.
Yes but there is nothing wrong marrying outside thr community. It's silly to tell people to stay within the community. I don't agree with marrying first cousins, I think it can be dangerous for the unborn children, they could be born with defects. You can think what you want, but don't tell other people to stay in their community when it's not necessary.
When someone falls in love..do they keep all these factors in mind?? Love is spontaneous, impulsive..it just..Happens! Who you fall in love with...well that's luck!
AA;
Well, if you live by Islam, and you always consider it in your daily life, then you won;t have that issue of spontaneous! When you lower you gaze (Men and women), when there is separation between men and women, one each have their own thing, how will anything happen in a spontaneous way? 🙂
I do not mean ot be sarcastic. But "spontaneous" is someone seeing someone from the opposite sex and it hit you hard that you have to have that person. I would think at this point it is nothing but desire!
Allah knows best. May Allah grant os guidance to his best correct path.
AA
salam 2 all
i would like to say this to muslims n nonmuslim
plz stick 2 ur own community for marriage i knw love is blind n im not the one to say this
but "MUSLIM CAN MARRY ONLY MUSLIMS OR REVERTS (SAID IN THE QURAN)" WHETHER U PPL LIKE IT OR NOT.
1> if ur a muslim n understand islam n affraid of allah n belive in the day of resurrection (THEN PLZ DONT GET INTO SUCH A SINFULL RELATION WHICH RESULT IN DOOM IN THE AKHARAT"
2>if ur a non muslim , n cannot accept islam(leave ur religion) , but love a muslim than plz forget here coz islam doesnt approve a marriage between a muslim and a non muslim(unless convert)
I MAY SOUND LIKE AN ARROGANT BUT WHATEVER I SAID IS WHAT IT IS "U MAY DONT LIKE IT"
N U CAN SING SONGS OF LOVE/EQUALITY/WEAllRSAME/GOD CREATED US ALL ETC..........
BUT THIS IS IT N IF UR NOT FOLLOWING IT THEN UR THE ONE WHO IS IN THE LOSS BOTH IN THE WORLD N AKHARAT
ALLAH HAFIZ
SO PREPARE UR SELF FOR AKHARAT N LEAVE THE WORLDLY PLEASURE ASIDE
@serendipity- leave that for Allah. None of us is perfect....as Hazrat Essa AS said something similar to "let the one amongst you without a sin cast the first stone"
i know none of us is perfect
but bro that doesnt mean that u can make unlawful lawful
u cannot deny what is said in the quran , nor u can change it as per how good u wanna feel
"she is only asking for advice - you are no one to tell her that your answer is a "strick no no no".
well brother im not telling her a "strick no no" its in our "QURAN" which have strickly guided us that
a "A SLAVE BUT A BELIVER , IS BETTER THAN A NON BELIVER"
please learn not to judge anyone - leave that to allah
i m no one to judge anyone nor i m judging ,& i dnt have a right to judge anyone ,
what im saying is the truth, "N U ME AND EVERY MUSLIM KNOW THAT THE TRUTH IS IN ISLAM N FOLLOWING OUR PROHPET(PBUH) STEPS N QURAN "
" N U ME & EVERY MUSLIM IN THE WORLD HAS NO OPTION THAN 2 FOLLOW THE PRINCIPAL OF ISLAM IF HE/HER IS A TRUE MUSLIM , WORLDLY "DESIRE N PLEASURE" R NO MATCH ,TO THE LIFE IN PARADISE WHAT THE "GOD FEARING & PIOUS MUSLIMS" WILL GET.
in order to enter paradise we have 2 follow strictly what islam has announce as HALAL N HARAM
saying so , its upto the sister that she realise this as soon as possible .
as for me , my advise u can "TAKE OR DUMP" as u wish , but u cant change the fact that
u also know such marriages r forbidden as per islam no matter what u say or belive.
"TRUTH WILL ALWAYS BE TRUTH NO MATTER HOW HARD ANYONE TRYS TO NEGET IT"
ALLAH HAFIZ
Pleeeease stop writing in caps!!!!!
salam
well i have but 2 emphasis on some point i have 2 use caps hope ull understand
I'm noticing you can writein bold or italic as well 🙂 therefore, caps aren't necessary!
There are b and i buttons above which you can use (bold and italic) to emphasise, rather than use caps. They are completely unecessary. Please refrain from this, otherwise your comments may be deleted.
Sara
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salam
@sara , well im new ova here
Anyways thanks for letting me knw the guide line for posting n commenting
Will remeber n follow
SALAM BRO N SISTER
aliya qureshi plz take time n leave him once in for all, the sooner the better
Can you live without your Allah Ta'aala?
plz dont marry him
N plz how can u marry these hindus
Have u not seen what these ppl have done
Demolishen of babri majid(1992)
Kill/raping/toturing of muslim(1992)
Gujrat riots killing/raping/burning/demolishing of our mosques(2002)
N there r many more such incidents google it
U wanna spent ur life with these ppl
Al-bahjah, it is true that it is prohibited in Islam to marry a Hindu. But it is not acceptable to insult an entire people because of the actions of a few. You cannot demean and insult all Hindus in this way. Please refrain from these kinds of bigoted comments in the future or you will be banned from this website.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
SALAM
brother im not a bigot , i have many hindu friends too n im not insulting anyone , "these above are all facts" which u all know.
the thing is that after all these years "where the justice " to all those who has lost for no reasons"both the community have suffered"
now whose the bigot , me or them
salam
brother im not a fanatic , but a person like u all who is very upset what our community is going through
i do understand that a action of few cannot be taken into account to hate all of them but
But it is not acceptable to insult an entire people because of the actions of a few.----in 2002(gujrat riot)- the "ENTIRE STATE OF GUJARAT" including law, governance, politicians were against a minority who had nothing 2 do to desevre this
so it was not an action of few but "ENTIRE STATE" AN"STATE SPONSOR TERRORISM"
Al-Bahjah,
I see you have already made your views clear above, so why do you persist in posting offensive comments about different religions? I have deleted your latest comment, it was quite nonsensical.
There are some basic rules to follow if you wish to use this website, and they include:
- Advising in a way that is conducive to the author of the post
- Advising in a way that is not offensive
- And yes, writing in lower case.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
@ Al-bahjah
Please do no show such intolerance and hatred towards a community. We are victims of hate and discrimination since 9/11, but that does not mean we individually agree or were involved with the attacks on the twin towers!
How do we know, that this man has all the qualities to be a good husband and the potential to be a truly practising muslim? He was most likely not one of the ones who destroyed the babri masjid or disrespected muslim women as you are implying. An ex- Baptist who became a muslim 10 years ago told me that there are many people in this world who just don't know that they are muslim, but have all the attributes of a muslim personality/life. On the other hand, there are many muslims who are only so because they were blessed by Allah to be born to muslim parents but unfortunately don't respect the gift given to them and do not practice Islam.
I am a born muslim too like you, but I have met many converted/reverted muslims and heard their stories of how Allah guided them to Islam. Maybe you should meet some too and listen to their stories - better yet, read their stories online. Here is a sample for you:
http://www.google.com/search?q=why+did+i+convert+to+islam&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a
Cool down, man! I feel like I have to do dawaah to my own before to others!
SALAM
Please do no show such intolerance and hatred towards a community.-im not but still waiting for" justiceto be given to innocent"
We are victims of hate and discrimination since 9/11, but that does not mean we individually agree or were involved with the attacks on the twin towers!- -yes we r hated post 9/11 " but did muslim execute 9/11 is still a big debate, it might be conspiracy , may be inside job (israel not out of the picture)
how do we know, that this man has all the qualities to be a good husband and the potential to be a truly practising muslim?(only allah knows the best)
On the other hand, there are many muslims who are only so because they were blessed by Allah to be born to muslim parents but unfortunately don't respect the gift given to them and do not practice Islam.- yes u are right may allah guide them also
Cool down, man! I feel like I have to do dawaah to my own before to others!-yes u should our people need it more as to what we r going through
yeah, Br. Al-bahja: my dawah is starting with YOU, to let go of your hatred and intolerant attitude Brother! Islam does not teach as to be full of hate and venom towards others!
@serndipty , thnk u mentioning me in your dua
Plz people im not fascit nor do i hate people nor im intolerant
i have hindus & christian friends
But there r few people i hate, from the bottom of my heart n i have the full right 2 hate them
I also hate taliban n al qaidah n other islamic facist group does that make me intolerant towards muslim no
In similar fashion i hate some non muslim who have done wrong does that make me intolerant towards non muslims no
Im not a hatemonger but i cannot accept anyform of unjust done 2 my people where ever they r
"it hurts" that in this century muslims r becoming "scapegoat" N that not acceptable to me atleast
Sister,
From someone who has fallen inlove with a Christian man and is now over it, please take my advice and do not get married to him. You will get over him in time, do not give up the One who has been there for you from the beginning. You will find that listening to Allah will give you more happiness than this boy will ever give you. And yes you can live without him because when you were born he was not by your side, but you canNOT live without Allah because he was there for you even before you were conceived. Please think this through because you know in your heart that it is Him who you should listen to. Once you accepted this, you will inshAllah move on to something better.
Salam
My suggestion above was made by my research on the various forums on the internet n other articles relating 2 interfaith marriage between muslim girls and hindus)
In no way i have written anything , from myself/fabricated it , its just what i saw n article i read
Still im not racist/against non muslim but if its lile this than its our duty as a muslim 2 tell our muslim brother n sisters about such conspiracy
I hope im not offending anyone
@sisterZ
Non offensive----> i didnt made up all that those were fact
Conducive-----> well im helping here as all u ppl r
N im nt using caps anymore
@sisterz
Well with due respect sisterZ u have ur policy on this site ur site ur rules i hav to abide by that
But u trash something which was not absurd but relevent an factual
yet despite me early telling u 2 take action on a person who made offense remark on allah talah n the author
U didnt took , well his comment was in hindi i hope u know hindi
Al-bahjah, you know fully well that we deleted that other person's offensive comment. I find your presence on this website to be argumentative and non-productive, so I am putting you on moderated status for now.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salam
Brother wael that mean that im going 2 be banned from entering the website
Look i dnt wanna be banned , i have learned much things ova here
Plz dnt bann me
You're not banned. Your comments just require approval before appearing.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salam
Thank u for not banning me , but until the mod doesnt approve my comment will neva be posted thats also bad
But Brother will this be for too long or will u lift this up
Maybe if i dont post for a day or two or if i post less will this mod approval be lifted soon.
Dude, for goodness sake. Wael said you will be put on 'moderated status'. He didn't say he's going to ban you. 'Moderated' status means that your comments will be checked and approved by an Editor if they are appropriate and will be trashed if they are innappropriate. Thats all. So behave and you will be welcome on this website.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Merci beaucoup, Monsieur Wael,
Al-Bahjah's repetition of exciting(not) conspiracy theories was making me go all dizzy.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
What will help is when we see that you are consistently posting comments that are helpful, following the Islamic spirit, and polite.
Wael
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Sometimes posting less does help, especially if one member is bombarding the whole of 'recent posts' section with his posts, Lol!
Honestly, the behavior seems sort of pathological i.e attention seeking! LOL
He was driving me crazy as well! 🙂
N plz wael n sisterZ its just been 4 to 5 days for me on this website. I hav made many mistakes
First it was the caps now i hav stop using caps
N regarding issue such as being offensive n not respecting other religion im sry for thay
i have broke many rules ova here , but its been only 4days for me , plz can u be lienient with me n lift the approval thing as soon as possible
I ill gurantee that if i break any of the rules u can straight away ban me
You're still wearing me out! Just post comments about the original post, please. Enough discussion about this.
Wael
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Salam
Sister u r telling im loving a hindu boy , but im a muslim girl close to my religion really sister if ur so close 2 ur religion than u must be knowing that marriage between muslim n non muslim is not allowed
N also before marriage talking , dating , physcially intimating is also not allowed in islam , i think u didnt care for all this how this make u close 2 ur religion
I dont know whether in ur family they r strict in teaching about islamic values , quran n praying 5 times bcoz otherwise u would not have committed such a sin
Even if u r not very a pious muslimah , u should know this that a muslim cannot marry a non muslim until he converts prehaps u know this bcoz u have written that its not allowed in islam that right
Ill give u an eg of fire
U know that u should not touch fire , otherwise ull burn ur hand
In your case u have already touched fire burned ur hand and asking how to heal it
The best way 2 heal is 2 forget about this guy , repent ask for forgiveness 2 allah n start praying n become pious muslim, n indeed there r plenty of good looking , responsible , financial stable muslimmen out there ull accept ur hand
Im quite shock , that nobody mention about the respect n honour of ur family, sister i guess u live in asia most probabaly india
Over here family respect is very much important , n if u marry a hindu , then the disrespect , shame n guilt truma ull bring 2 ur family among the muslim society in ur place have u ever realise that
N tell me sister how will u live in one roof with this man knowing u offended allahs command , knowing u did not follow quran, knowing u brought disrespect 2 ur family
Well sister u might or not realise this but life is too short n ever person will go at the end 2 his creator
N during the day of judgement when ull be askes why did u neglected the command of god for this worldly pleasure , ull beg that give another chance n after knowing about the torments of hell , ull back 2 let allah give u another chance n ull become a pious muslim but that will not be given
During that day no one i mean no one let it be ur mother,father,husband,son,sister,friend,brother will help u
It will be u , ur good&bad deeds , n allah(swt) , which will decide whether u fit for heaven
Or n endless torment in hell
Sister i hope i tried my best to make it very clear that ur decision now will make u suffer in hell onn the day of judgement
He's baaaaack.
Well despite the fact that a muslimgirl cannot marry a non muslim
If she marrys , is this allowed islamically that the parents of such girl disowned her n break all the contacts with her
Is such an act from the girls parents islamically correct
@ Trueblood: unfortunately, this is what parents from ANY ethnic/religious background do, when they are not happy with the choice their child has made - this problem is not specific to muslims!
seriousness of such sin as breaking up family ties.
Muhammad (SAW) told us that breaking up family ties is one of the greatest sins, which obstructs a Muslim from entering Paradise, he said: “Does not enter Paradise he who breaks up his family ties”. (Bukhari)
Indeed, Allah the Highest promised to break up ties with those who break ties with blood relations. Allah’s messenger(SAW) said: “When Allah finished creating the creation, the Womb said: ‘Here stands the one who asks for your protection from the relationships being severed with’. He said:’yes, will you be happy if I contact whoever contacts you and sever relations with whoever severs relations with you? The Womb said: ‘Yes Lord’, He said: ‘This is for you then’. (Bukhari: Adab)
(The Womb here is symbolic of what makes ties with blood relations as it is all happens through the womb).
So whoever breaks the blood bond is disliked by God.
@serendipity
After suffering humiliation among the muslim society , that their daughter married a non muslim , i feel that the parents of such girls have a right 2 break all contacts with here
I mean the parents gave birth 2 n made here capable for here 2 live in the society, they have full rights over her even she like it or not
N i guess during the time of judgement when parents of such girls be question they can tell that despite their efforts their daughter didnt listen 2 them
So its daughter fault n i feel that at the time of judgement the punishment goes 2 the daughter not here parents
Coz the daughter hasent shown obideince toward their parents n u know
u know this that
jannat is under mother feet n father is the enterance to jannat
Assalam O Alaikum brother Trueblood,
Brother just to let you know that their is no concept of disowning children or cutting ties with blood relatives for whatsoever reason. This attitudes stems from the culture; so don't mix both; choice is yours which one you want to follow. I will always choose Islam Insha Allah because Islam is peace, happiness and is what we are supposed to follow on the other hand culture/social norms/practices has made a lot of people suffer all over the world. It has kind of made non-Muslim hate Islam more because when they see a lot of Muslims suffering around the world (especially women) they think this is what Islam teaches or preaches.
Below discussion is just general because I am kind of getting this feeling that may be you think that parents are always right and children should let go of their rights even if the parents are wrong.
I will never encourage any Muslim to consider inter-faith marriage whether a man or women. Since, this post is of a sister considering to marry a non-Muslim I will discuss Muslim women. Parents feel humiliation if their daughter chooses a man for herself even if he is a good/practising Muslim with good moral and other desirable characterisics. So, this humiliation thing is not only because she is marrying outside. These parents think that they own these children where it is clearly stated in Quran and Hadith that don't force your daughter in the matters of marriage and respect their choices as far as the man in question has qualities such as good sound character, good family background, practising at least the basics and wants to improve, earns halal living, is respectful toward others especially his relatives etc etc.
A lot of parents don't allow their children to marry outside their own culture, race, background, society which is causing a lot of fitnah in Ummah and it will only get worst if we don't address these issues on grossroot level.
Their is no concept of marrying in your own culture, society, race, background in Islam, instead Holy Prophet (PBUH) advised us to marry outside of your own family, race, society, culture because it stengthens the Ummah. Modern science proves that this practice of marrying in own race, culture, family, society is creating a lot of genetic problems in the children born in such families.
I don't know if you are aware the health risks of cousin marriage or not but here is the article;
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/7404730.stm
Then you said;
I mean the parents gave birth 2 n made here capable for here 2 live in the society, they have full rights over her even she like it or not.
Brother this has been happening since the time of Adam (AH) and Eve (AH) and is only natural; this doesn't mean that parents just take their children hostages and play with their future as they wish. Yes, they have rights upon their children but children also have rights to choose their spouses in Islam. Yes, parents need to respect their children's likes and dislikes.
Then you said;
N i guess during the time of judgement when parents of such girls be question they can tell that despite their efforts their daughter didnt listen 2 them.
Surely, we will be answerable to Allah (swt) if we dis-obayed our parents but in the matters of marriage which clearly give right to children to choose their mates; parents will also be answerable if they forced their children into marriages.
Again, logically speaking you can't dis-own your daughter/sister or any other relative just because she married a non-Muslim (Islam clearly says that such marriages are haram but our topic is kinship). Because, maybe she wasn't able to understand/learn the teaching of Islam in depth and grew up in a non-practising liberal environment. Her only chance/hope of learning and understanding it properly is through you or other family members. If you have cut off ties with her then it's your loss because on the day of judgement you may be questioned for not teaching her or bringing her back to deen because no matter what she is still your relative. By alienating her you have further pushed her into darkness where she will only feel more lost and is more valnurable.
Please read this article for further understanding.
http://www.zawaj.com/articles/importance_of_kinship.html
P.S; It was a general discussion brother just to clear your mind and help you understand what is Islam and what is culture. No one is perfect or infallible; we are humans and we make mistakes. I didn't mean to pick on your or offend you.
I only request you to propagate this message to others who are thinking on the same lines because these issues are already causing a lot of problems in our Ummah.
Waslam,
Muhammad1982:)
Editor, IslamicAnswers.com
Salam
Thank u for elaborated explain about disowning in islam , so u cannot cut ties agreed but
"my parent always say 2 me that , do work in the society which not only brings money but respect also"
"u can lose money n again earn it , but if u lose ur respect y can never earn it "
"it takes a person entire life 2 create an image/respect in the society , but it takes a second 2 lose it "
Brother u can realise , that such an step from any muslimah will ruin hers parents reputation n respect among the society(muslim society)
Such muslimah will live here life in an haram n zinahfull relation
But the damage she has done on her parents reputation who gonna repair that
Her no , her parents well how can they
For me after islamic values
honour n respect for my family comes
First
@muhammed brother
I know that im islam women has full right to choose his spouse but my above reply was only for musliimah marriying non muslim
You said that if a muslimah marry a non muslim its no reason 2 disowned here
Ok lets take an extreme condition even if all the efforts of such muslimah parents 2 lead their daughter in the correct path fails
And their daughter dosent listen and want 2 continue with such haram relation
Shall the parents fall on kneens n beg here 2 come back (astagfirullah sry i knw its mean and disgusting )
All im want 2 know that there has to be a limit for such parents , 2 try and convince their daughter who is lost
Is there any limit for such cases where the parents dont have 2 bow down 2 their diobedient daughter
Limit meaning that the parents should try and bring their daughter back but after trying and crossing their limit they should forget her n let her be what she want 2 be
I guess this is not like disowning but (its like just leave her on her own v have nothing 2 do with here )
Brother Trueblood; my discussion was based upon whole of this dis-owning concept. I never said that it's OK for a Muslim to marry a non-Muslim whether a Muslim man or a woman. Are we clear on that?
No ifs and buts; we follow Islam. Where is this concept of dis-owning in Islam? It's pure culture; if your culture take precedence over Islam than it's your choice. I submit to Allah (swt) myself.
Besides, is disowning the only solution to this problem? I heard of a brother who was born in a family where his mother was non-Muslim and father was Muslim. It took his mother 23 years to revert/convert to Islam. Do you think; if he would give up on her thinking that he has exausted all the options and there is nothing he can do?
There is no time period or not a set method that we are supposed to follow and then give up hope of someone coming back to/choosing the right path. Children are children; they will always be; no matter how big a mistake they make. We should be patient; use reasoning and best persuading techniques to soften/turn their hearts. Also, never under estimate the power of dua and neither should one give up hope.
Remember! Everyone of us is a shepherd and we will be responsible for our stock.:)
Brother, I don't want to write more on this issue and I will suggest that you should do your own home work/study to find the truth. Find the real Islam rather than cultural Islam and stop blindly following people whoever they are:).
Waslaam,
Muhammad1982:)
Editor, IslamicAnswers.com
@ Trueblood - the sister who has posted has not MARRIED they guy - YET! She has not disobeyed her patents - YET.
True, that jannat is under mother's feet etc etc as you mentioned - All I was doing was giving a generic answer to the question you had posed.
True blood why your discussions are so eloborated,be short and to the point...your stories are really hard to understand and even read that....
Sister that was for brother muhammed reply since he explained me with detail i expressed my own doubts in detail
Yippee i am so happy our comments have been deleted,its been so long to be mischiveous...
Hi,
I do know how you feel and what your experiencing now. Loving one from another religion is like loving god and HIS existence on earth.
I suggest you read namaz vigorously and you will get all your answers.If you read Quran,you will know that you are blessed to be born in a muslim family but you need to convert into a muslim by follwoimg allah's set of path by practsing Islam. You may have been chosen by ALLAH to spread the word on islamic monotheism!
Allah will show you the way.....Inshallah!
Remember,all human are Allah's Will for existence,so you know the remaining!
regards,
reeman
Hello every one,
I dont understand why you all giving negative comments here and discouraging her. Look the Omar Abdulla, Chief Minster of J&K, his sister is married to Sachin Pilot,Minister. How she has done?
Farah Khan married to Sirish Kundar, Govinda and Mahesh Bhatts ,s mother were muslim?
Love does not need any barriers of religion and country?
Be practical.
Shabana, what you say would be true if love were the ultimate goal of life. If love is one's god, then of course one would do anything in its service. However, for Muslims, we know that Allah is the only God. Our goal is to serve Allah, to obey Him, to please Him, and to enter Jannah, Insha'Allah. So we obey the laws that Allah has given us. A marriage that takes us away from the worship of Allah alone is counterproductive and forbidden.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Every where, judgement day is reminded to the muslim women,.................
Iwant specific and to the point answer of these queries. Please dont delete it name of moderation.Let the things the clarified?
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hello
this is very strange knews for everyone muslims never like marriage with non muislims neither non muslims leave their religion.
NO Sister .... NO chance for you. because he is a katla hindu.
I know what you don't know ..... so pls understand asap. ok.