Should I make dua for the man I love to be my husband?
Assalam O Alaikum,
I am 21 year old Muslim girl who is in love with a Muslim boy. He loves me too but he is not financially in a position to marry me yet because he doesn't have a proper job. We don't meet but we do talk and text each other. I am hoping that he gets a job as soon as possible Insha Allah. Until then, is it allowed for me to pray to Allah (swt) that HE make our path easier for us both to get married in near future? Is it haraam if I ask for him in my duaas?
Adina Shaikh.
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Salaams,
I think it's totally appropriate for you to make du'a to Allah that your intentions for marriage work out quickly and that he can find work. There is nothing haraam about doing that. I also think if you can involve your family (if you haven't already) they can also make du'a about it and help with expediting the marriage with his family's assistance; as well as looking for job prospects for him. Also, this is important to make sure your correspondance stays halal and supervised, even if it is only by phone/text. Insha'Allah with their support things will come together for you nicely and speedily.
-Amy
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AA;
Also, you can always get engaged and just wait for the right time for the wedding and such. Why can't he just talk to your parents and get engaged?
May ALLAH bless you, grant you patience and direct you to the right path.
AA
Allaah [swt] said it maybe that you like something which is bad for you, and it maybe that you hate something which is good for you, you donot know, but Allaah knows.
SO, DONT MAKE DU'AA TO ALLAAH THAT HE BE YOUR HUSBAND, BUT MAKE DU'AA THAT ALLAAH MAKES HIM YOUR HUSBAND IF HE IS GOOD FOR YOU, YOUR WORLD, AND YOUR RELIGION.
THERE IS A FAMOUS DU'AA.
Allaah [swt] said it maybe that you like something which is bad for you, and it maybe that you hate something which is good for you, you donot know, but Allaah knows.
SO, DONT MAKE DU'AA TO ALLAAH THAT HE BE YOUR HUSBAND, BUT MAKE DU'AA THAT ALLAAH MAKES HIM YOUR HUSBAND IF HE IS GOOD FOR YOU, YOUR WORLD, AND YOUR RELIGION.
THERE IS A FAMOUS DU'AA.
Asalam brother plz tell me Du'aa
Should I make dua for the man I love Allaah maks him my husband?
Asalaam alaykum,
Ask this boy to read and constantly recite the dua of Prophet Musa (as) when he is under the tree without a home and on the run. Afterwards, Musa (as) receives a job, a home and a wife while being under the watch of his father-in-law. Insha'allah, that is probably the best one for him to make regarding his affairs, though we cannot say it was explicit for this purpose, we can see the results of such and how Allah (swt) provided exactly what Prophet Musa (as) needed. Though it is a short dua, the secret in supplication lies with the intention and sincerity.
"My Lord! Truly, I am in need of whatever good that You bestow on me!" 28:24
@ Sahar
Br. Abu Az-Zubair I think is trying to say that it is the dua of salat i istikhara - you can find it on one of the tabs up on the home page or Google it
"O Allah! I seek goodness from Your Knowledge and with Your Power (and Might) I seek strength, and I ask from You Your Great Blessings, because You have the Power and I do not have the power. You Know everything and I do not know, and You have knowledge of the unseen. Oh Allah! If in Your Knowledge this action ------------------------------------------------ (which I intend to do) is better for my religion and faith, for my life and end [death], for here [in this world] and the hereafter then make it destined for me and make it easy for me and then add blessings [baraka'] in it, for me. O Allah! In Your Knowledge if this action is bad for me, bad for my religion and faith, for my life and end [death], for here [in this world] and the hereafter then turn it away from me and turn me away from it and whatever is better for me, ordain [destine] that for me and then make me satisfied with it."
Remember sister...you can make dua, but you have to take care of your deen too...the dua is not a formula for uniting you and the guy....Allah has given the guy free will, and if he chooses to not be with you, then there is nothing you can do about it. Maybe Allah is preventing you from being with someone who may not turn out as good as you are seeing him thru rose colored glasses (trust me, I have been in your shoes and my faith in Allah helped me move on after I made the same istikara dua for almost 4 years and finally realised that Allah was watching out for me and my deen and akhirat) as I am a pracitising muslimah who Alhumdolillah has not committed any sin like Zina...Alhumdolillah
assalamu alaikum
iam a 22 year old girl loving with a 22 year boy..we loove each other very much.an he told it to his parents after getting job.because of my family problems theyy did nt agree.and made me imprison.and now no way to call and contact.plz tell me some duas to solve ourr this problem fastly.
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Muhammad Waseem
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its soooo nice
asalam walakum
iam nushrathfathima..iam from chennai....iam married women...i got divose also..seen 4 year iam love my uncle son...he also love me but now her parents was making promble now he also not ready to marriage me...so plz kindly help me and tel some duwa so i follow............
plz tell me duwa as much as posible......he not ready to marriage my life and my name is going down plz help me.....no one is with me because of him......i want to marriage him....
Assalam alykum I want too marry guy we love each other my family is not getting ready we are in a relationship since 6yrs and I can't leave him
What should I do plzz tell me some dua
There are no specific duas for marriage given by the Messenger of Allah (sws) for finding or getting a spouse. You make your own dua' to Allah, asking for what you wish, or you can recite the following from the Quran:
And those who say: “Our Lord! Bestow on us from our spouses and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the pious” (25:74)
Or you can make a general dua such as:
"O Our Lord! Give us good in this world and good in the Hereafter, and defend us from the torment on the fire!" (2:201)
Wael
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Assalamualaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatahu,
I am 22 Years old and I am Intending to marry a Man who is a single father, and he is a revert. He is a foreigner, He lives in U.S.A, My parents are very happy with my decision, because they found out the guy to be very Islamic and Righteous. Everyone is excited about the wedding. But what we are facing is Financial problems and also problems relating to Visa. as You know how difficult it is to get Visa for U.S.A. we have not met in person, its all over the phone and skype calls. and my parents spoke to him on skype. and used their sources in U.S.A to find out about the guy. This is my story. I need some dua or some wazifa which will make it easy for me and my family. financially so that I am married to him. Please guide me through. My Intention to get married to him is because, after him reverting to Islam no one wanted to give their daughters to This Person, because he is a single father and is not well to do. but i knew about my family that they will with whole heart welcome him and accept to my request which made me commit to him and propose him. because to Us it does not matter what the person was, to me and my family what all matters is what is he now. this person was rejected and was totally broken and had accepted that He is not meant for marriage. I wanted to keep this proposal to support him Mentally. I need Duas and I hope Allah is with me in this. giving hope to a broken person. But unfortunately I am also not much well to do were i Have savings or properties. we are simple people and Alhamdulilah we work to survive every month. we dont have bank balances but Alhamdulilah whatever we have is sufficient. we do not wish for any properties and assets in duniya and I do not Require money for making all this in this duniya. I need financial help to get married. and I need to know how to achieve it. Please help me with some powerful duas. Jazak Allah Hu Khair, may Allah Azzawajal Reward you for helping me. In Shaa Allah..