my third abusive husband wants to get another wife
salam, if u remember i told my story here before..i met my 3rd husband, and i thought because he have beard and does his prayer,he is a good muslim man..at first he is very kind towards me and to my kids..we just married 6 months ago and now i am pregnant with his child.i am 20 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child alhamdulillah.ive been into a bad relationship before..my 1st and 2nd husband are too abusive towards me,physically,emotionally and verbally..my 2nd ex husband abandon me and his son..now this is my 3rd marriage..he was uk born but originally from morocco.
he do his prayer 5x but after 1 month of our marriage,he ask someone to be his 2nd wife but that woman reject him..my husband is 21 yrs old and no job.my mum is helping us in terms of foods and bills..my 1st ex husband is helping me too financially..my husband start joining a singlemuslim.com and start finding for a 2nd wife..luckily he find one.shes the same moroccan like him..i called that woman and beg her not to marry my husband for he is not financially capable,but it seems that i cannot stop both of them.my husband start become abusive towards me whenever im textng that woman and asking her not to marry my husband..my husband start asking me to leave the house and take my kids..he become physically abusive aswell..once he slap me in my mouth and my lips start bleeding.hes calling me so many bad names such dog,bitch,desperate dog,prostitute..
he recently grab my neck for the reason that im not giving my mobile to him.hes calling that woman using my minutes and im the one whos paying for that bills..alhamdulillah im practicing muslima.i wear abaya and niqab coz i know im the respect of my husband..i change a lot since i married him.i pray 5x and even praying tahajud prayer..i read quran and trying my best to please Allah swt and my husband..im not against with polygamy..coz Allah swt allowed polygamy..but what Allah swt aswell say in the quran to marry of ur choice,either 1,2,3,or 4 but if u fear that u cant treat them equally then marry only one..since my husband is not stable and not capable financially,how could he be so selfish and think of having another wife for his own benefit..he couldnt even buy my clothes but i dont mind for i am not materialistic,nor i married him for money reasons..he dont have job and hes planning to go to university this coming school day..
the woman he wants to marry is divorced and she got 2 kids from her ex husband..and ive got wo kids myself plus the one in my tummy,my kids are still young aged 3 yrs old and 10months old...he keep disrespecting me an dtelling me how bad i am whenever he is on the phone talking to that woman..he even telling her how good person she is not like me and he can tust her but he cannot trust me..im his wife and i dont know why hes treating me like this.he evn calling me money hunger when i never even ask him even for a single penny.if my mum give me money,i used to buy something for him and for my kids and nver think about buying for myself.if i do the grocery,im buying food that he likes not what i like.he evn asking me to buy his cigarette and ask me money to pay his bills..im giving him and even asking my friend if i dont hve money.how cud he call me a money hunger when i nevr ask him nothing from him at all..
he is too unfair.i dont watch tv nor listen to music,im doing things to please Allah and him. but in the end im still the bad one.i dont know what else i have to do to make him happy.even i told him that he can get marry though but atleast wait till he got a job and finish his studies.i dont know how he would cope up having two wife and ive got 2 kids and the other one got 2 kids aswell plus i am pregnant.he dont have job and want to go to school.my mum is complaining that shes getting old and keep telling me that im not her responsibility but becoz she feel pity towards my kids thats why shes helping us.i am feeling so ashamed wallah but what to do.my husband keep beating my older daughter.
i keep telling him not to hurt him coz she is just a child..but he said he wants to discipline he.how could he hurt a child and knowing that it is not his own child.just today,he beat her face and theres a bruise all over the face especially the eye part of my daughter.her mouth bleed aswell..i dont know exactly what he have done to her..he told me that he slap her coz shes too naughty and dont want to listen to him..i went outside to buy our food and pay the electric bill when it happened..before he beat her in her bum aswell and bruise all over her bum..now he beat her in the face..most of the time,he keep beating her and telling me that hes beating her coz shes too naughty and annoying..i cried a lot today and dont know what i have to do..
i wanna leave him coz i dont want to take risk maybe he can kill us..my husband mum dont like me coz shes thinking im using black magic to his son astagfirullah..and shes thinking im using his son..i dont know for what reason,shes thinking like this..when she knows that his son is not working and im contributing in the house more than his son.the hous eof my husband is a council house,so hes not paying for this.all the time if we had a fight because of that woman he wanna get marry,he keep telling me to leave his house..im tryin gmy best to be a good wife,im cooking for him,clean his house,wash his clothes and wash it using my hands even..prepare his food..
im doing everything to please him.i dont know why he still keep hurtin me..i don tknow why this men love hurting me when im doing my best to be good to them.ya Allah,Allahu alam how im trying my best to stay with him.this is my 3rd marriage and i dont want this marriage to be failed again like my 1st and 2nd marriage..my 1st and 2nd marriage,even they are hurtin me,i never leave them coz i fear allah but they gave me divorce.now whenever me andmy husband are ok and if i start telling him maybe one day i will leave you coz of him hurtin gme,he will tell me that if u will do that,allah will gonna give u punishment coz u ran away from ur husband..
but most of the time he keep telling me to go and blame me coz im not obedient wife,hes telling that im not obedient wife coz i dont accept that he will get another wife..hes telling me that im so ungrateful wife whenever im telling him to do his obligation as a husband coz im feeling shy to ask my mum for money every now and then..my mum is complaining a lot an dtelling me that i always end up in a wrong man..pls give me a good advice..wallah i dont know how would i cope up with my 3rd marriage..wassalam..i badly need an advice my sister and brother.
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