I’m in severe pain, confused and lost
I'm married with two wives but my second wife always behaves in a way she makes me feel suspect her... at times when I come back from my place of work I will silently go to her chamber and see her taking her janabat bathing, so I will let go without changing or reacting. this happens on and on until one night when she came back from her mother's village and I went into her.. met wit her.. sunna... but I discovered that my something manhood fell in like ..she was much roomy too much gap like never before.. putting on light I saw tear and stretches sores below her I snapped the place with camera so she can see but she swear nothing happened even before I say a word ..i am Aali sunna... a thought went into me to see a magician another thought said no cry towards Allah. please right now I'm confused, lost and my iman is Swinging.. help me Asap... save my soul.. yaa sheikh..
Yahya
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Bismillah
If you go to a magician you leave the fold of islam and burn in hell for eternity for a wife that's cheating on you! But even if you do go to a magician and he confirms your doubts, he is lying because through sunnah and quran we already know that the shaiyateen tell lies and you cannot believe them IF SHE IS, you can proceed from there but as long as you cannot prove that she has actually done what you are accusing her of, you cannot say that she did something like that! It is actually a sin for you to accuse her of something without proof its a bigggg sin!!! Have her followed or follow her yourself!
as-salaamu 'alaikum wa-rahmatullah,
Dear brother, forgive me but it appears you're letting shaytaan's whas whas (whispers) control your thoughts. You're letting shaytaan overwhelm you with doubts and suspicions and perhaps jealousy.
Please remember you have no proof of your wife doing anything wrong, and your doubts might just be because of ignorance (lack of education about women's bodies)!
i.e. just like men, women's bodies especially change during the monthly cycle, and over the years after marriage; and depending on climate and food. What you're describing may just be because of lack of exercise on her part - perhaps she's eating better now after marriage, and she's not doing much walking or exercise? Another reason may be because she loves you more now than before, and based on her psychology when you approach her, she might want you more in intimacy, and thus the private part of both men and women change!
Brother Yahya, pelase control your ignorance and doubts, and learn more about how much women's bodies change based on heat, climate, psychology, age, and especially after pregnancy and childbirth. Remember also that not all women are the same, they're not mechanical, and each women changes in her own way, just like men.
You say that you see her taking a janabah bath, but how do you know that perhaps she wasn't cleaning the home, or the weather was too hot, so she decided to take a bath/shower?! What's the difference between janabah bath and a normal shower in which one decides to do wudu?
Again, I think you're letting shaytaan control you and create doubt and suspicion between you and your wife - and perhaps your doubts are causing your wife undue stress. And because of this, perhaps your wife will not love you as much as before.
If you don't control yourself now, you will let satan win over you and break your marriage apart for no reason except your own ignorance and silliness.
Remember, the best thing the shaytaan can do is to cause a division between husband and wife!
And I would strongly like to remind you of these ayah of Allah aza wajal...
Remember, to even accuse a chaste women (a good wife) who never thinks of such a thing, is a major sin, and when you spread this accusation, you are helping shaytaan and destroying your own self.
If you don't control yourself now, you alone will be responsible for destroying your marriage and your wife's life, for no reason except because you allow shaytaan to control you. Anytime suspicious thoughts come to your mind, say "a'oothubillahi min as-shaytaan ar-rajeem", and make a quick duaa to Allah to help you.
Before you go to bed, please remember ayah kursi, and again when you wake up; and recite the muwaddatain ("the 3 qul's") after fajr and maghrib for Allah's protection.
and may Allah subhanahu wa-ta'ala increase the love and mercy between you and your wives and make your children and wives the comfort of your eyes, ameen!
was-salaamu 'alaikum wa-rahmatullah.