I want to marry my Hindu girlfriend; Is it permissible?
Aasalamualaikum,
I am Muslim and I am in relation with Hindu girl. We love each other a lot and we have been together since last 3 years. We love each other truly and we want to get married. There is no problems from her family side; my parents are opposing. If I don't marry her then her life will get spoiled. I don't want that to happen; she is ready to read Quran along with me, pray salah, and keep fasts. I want to marry her; what am I supposed to do now? Can I marry her? Is it permissible? If I don't marry then I will be bearing the sin of spoiling her life. Am I allowed to marry her?
Please reply me.
Muhammad Ramiz Raja.
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(1) And do not marry Al-Mushrikat (idolatresses, etc.) till they believe (worship Allah Alone). And indeed a slave woman who believes is better than a (free) Mushrikah (idolatress), even though she pleases you. And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikun till they believe (in Allah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater), even though he pleases you.
Those (Al-Mushrikun) invite you to the Fire,
But Allah invites (you) to Paradise and Forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His Ayat (proofs, evidence, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember. (سورة البقرة , Al-Baqara, Chapter #2, Verse #221)
I am confused by what you said that, " her life will be spoiled if you dont mary her"? Why is that?
Anyways it is not permissible for a Muslim man to marry a Hindu girl unless she accepts Islam.
Allah says "Do not marry unbelieving women until they believe. A slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman, even though she allure you" (al-Baqarah, 221).
The above verse of the Quraran is clear in that it is unlawful for a Muslim man to marry a non-Muslim (other than a true Christian or Jew) women.
As you say she ready to read quaran and pray and fast that's not enough, she needs to converts truly to Islam, then it will be permissible for you to marry. Therefore, marriage (nikah) will only be valid if it was contracted after her conversion Islam.
Salamualaikum,
Brother, you are concerned about her life being spoilt. Are you not concerned about your life and your Aakhirah?
What if Allah Becomes Angry with you for it? There is no way that you can marry a Mushrikah as the Aayah of the Quran states. You can marry her, only if she reverts to Islam.
And this, not by force, but by her free choice.
You have been in a Haraam Relationship, but if she becomes a Muslim, you can marry her. Just doing Salah and reading the Quran does not make a person a Muslim. She should believe in Allah as Her Only God Worthy of Worship, and should accept the Message of Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Just to add,
she must revert for the love of Allah and him alone, if she reverts for marriage then its a form of shirk.
As per Islamic law you CANNOT marry a hindu girl if she really loves you then she will have to accept Islam.I am sorry I know this not the answer you wanted but we cannot change a law that has been given to us by Allah.
Hope she accepts Islam.
Salaam brother.
I will talk generally in two parts:
1 - Keeping a pre-marital relationship.
2- Marriage and permissibility.
First and foremost, the priority here is to get yourself out from this haraam relationship - it is a major sin to be engaged in a pre-marital relationship of any kind whether or not 'full zina' is committed. You say you are worried about the sin of 'spoiling her life.' Yes leaving will hurt both you and her - but what about the sin of remaining in this relationship or marrying someone unlawful? Your Aakhirah is at stake and no one and nothing in this life is worth the risk of entering Jahannam. So if you leave for the sake of Allah it will be a reward and not a sin.
Please read the links below
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/the-sin-of-fornication-and-adultery/
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/the-sin-of-fornication-and-adultery/the-sin-of-adultery-and-fornication-part-2/
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/the-sin-of-fornication-and-adultery/the-sin-of-adultery-and-fornication-part-3/
So brother first and foremost, realise how big this sin is, repent and make amends by leaving this relationship.
The Prophet (saw) warned: "If one of you were to be stabbed in the head with a piece of iron it would be better for him than if he were to touch a woman whom it is not permissible for him to touch." (Reported by al-Tabaraani; see also Saheeh al-Jaami, 5045).
Turn to Allah (swt) and ask Him to forgive you and help you find the best way forward.
'You will see that repentance is something more than seeking forgiveness.
Because this is a serious matter, there have to be conditions attached. The scholars mentioned the conditions of repentance, based on aayahs from the Qur’aan and ahaadeeth. There follows a list of some of them:
1 – Giving up the sin immediately.
2 – Regretting what has happened in the past.
3 – Resolving not to go back to it.
4 – Making amends to those whom you have wronged, or asking for their forgiveness.
You should not forget other important matters connected to sincere repentance, such as:
1 – You should give up the sin for the sake of Allaah and not for any other reason such as not being able to do it or repeat it, or being afraid of what people will say, for example.
taken from: http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1069
As for making amends - explain to her that it's haraam for you to be with her and that you are sorry - but do not keep contact with her. In time both you and her will move on despite how you feel now but it is har
2. Marriage.
"Do not marry mushrik women until they become believers; a believing slave woman is better than a free mushrik woman even though she may be more attractive to you. Likewise, do not marry mushrik men until they become believers: a believing slave is better than a free mushrik even though he may be more pleasing to you. These mushrikin invite you to the hellfire while Allah invites you towards paradise and forgiveness by His grace. He makes His revelations clear to mankind so that they may take heed." 2:221
So Islamically, it is not permissible for you to marry her while she is still a Hindu - the nikah would be invalid.
As has been mentioned above, praying and reading Qur'an with you is not enough - she would need to be Muslim. So invite her to Islam - direct her to knowledgable Muslim sisters who can help her and give her time to learn about the deen herself. If she sincerely converts because she sincerely believes in Allah and His Messenger then Alhumdulilah, you can marry her.
If not then you were not right for one another and are unable to marry. But it must be sincere. Allah knows what is in our hearts and no one can hide from Him.
So to summarise, Islamically speaking there are two courses of actions you can take, and Allah knows best.
1 - Leave her, make tawbah and keep away from the sin in future.
2 - Invite her to Islam by introducing her to good sisters who can help her - if she does convert then you can marry her.
I would recommend performing Istikhaarah - please scroll to the top of the page and read each of the links on istikhaarah questions on answers in green.
Sara
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
It is indeed not a very unusual situation. Many great Muslims of earlier days married women who originally belonged to other religions. They were invited to Islam and they accepted and marriage was performed. Many well known personalities were born as a result of these unions.
All that the brothers have mentioned above is true. However now a days we have taken an tendency to try to judge the sincerity of a person who accepts Islam. Briefly explain about the basics of Islam especially Tauheed and if possible have a knowledgeable muslim lady who can better interact with the said girl. That said a person who comes to Islam often takes time to understand the concept of Islam. My wife and me were in such a situation. I got similar advice and took steps as outlined above. Alhamdulliah we have been married for 18 years and my wife and my children are staunch muslims. I know a number of such couples and often it is difficult to believe that the lady was ever non-muslim.
But this result is not always so. It all depends on the strength of your belief and the support system that you can give your wife after marriage. Kindness and patience are required to bring their heart close to Islam. Your best behavior with her and others including her parents and relatives will influence if she is to remain true to Islam. Often humans watch others behavior and see if their beliefs are reflected. So you will have an immense responsibility here. Good luck and fear Allah and trust and depend on him to guide you to do right.