Marriage after fornication
i have committed fornication. i am aware of the fact of committed sin and the punishment.. may Allah saw accept my repentance, do pray for me
now that my parents want me to get married, i am not able to understand how do i go on further. nowadays awareness is so much, i fear to be caught for my wrongdoing. it doesnt allow me to go further n spoil my life and someone else. i tried to talk to the guy and asked him it was better to get married but he doesnt want as his parents do not want.
i tried to convince my parents upon not me getting married but its seems getting harder.plz help me to this query
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May Allah forgive your sins and overlook your mistakes, Ameen.
We or most of us have deep secrets....nobody is perfect...life goes on but one thing is a fact we do not talk about what was past ..it is better to say nothing a conceal ur sin So Allah will conceal yours.....Plus marry someone that has IMAN proper faith or else life will become difficult. .....tell ur parents I am not attracted to him.....if you need an escape.....because you have the right to see and chose your partner
Assalamualaikum, I submitted a question three weeks ago and it still has not been responded to. It has said pending for the past three weeks.
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Apologies for posting a question here. I am desperate and in need of guidance.
Assalamualaikum,
I was previously engaged about three years ago and at the time I was not a practicing Muslim. My engagement ended due to family misunderstandings however me and my ex fiance decided to still pursue a relationship without telling anyone. I thought eventually the elders would come around and he would marry me.
Our relationship went on for far too long. He told me would marry me and talk to his parents but then he would place so many conditions on me at the same time. I (loved) him with all my heart at the time and therefore we did sin a lot together. I thought everything would be okay as long as he married me. I never had the guts to leave him nor did I realize at the time that a sin is a sin and he was not my mahram.
This past may I felt as if god put something in my heart towards him to make me realize that he is no good for me and that I only need Allah swt in my life. I had tried to end all contact with him but he simply could not accept that I could want to change or live a life without him. But he wouldn’t accept anything anyone told him.
My ex fiance then went to my mother emailing her telling her how much he loves me and how he wants to marry me. My mother told him she needs to discuss this with the rest of my family and that she’ll let him know. I did not say anything during this time and decided to leave things up to God. The next day he emails my entire family inappropriate pictures of me. He humiliated me in front of the people that I love the most. A few days went by, I was majorly depressed and could not face anyone, but my mother receives another email from him in which he tells my mother she’s a bad parent and that she failed in life. He continued to send more emails to her harassing her and exposing all my sins and secrets. He tried to be God and punish me. I can’t even explain how I feel. I feel as if my worst nightmare has come true.
A couple weeks went by and his anger went away and he emails my mother telling her he wants to marry me and that he’s sorry. I do not want anything to do with him, I start to shiver when I even think of him. I am literally scared for my life as i feel he might do something again out of anger especially because he has something to use against me now. I’m so afraid I pray to god weeping in sajdah for tawbah I pray that he just makes everything better and makes this man leave me alone. What should I do? Should I take any sort of action or just be patient? I deleted all of my email accounts so he has no way to contact me but he won’t leave my mother alone. I just don’t know how someone could have the audacity to ask for marriage after all this. He's starting to use my moms email address as a source to vent but it's causing me so much pain and i get so depressed whenever i see that he sent my mom another email. I sometimes believe this man may actually be psychotic. I want to get married asap and leave all of this behind and forget this man for good but I fear that he may make things difficult for me.
Please make duaa that this man leaves me alone and that God accepts my tawbah and that He places a cover over all my sins. Ameen