Istikhara for love… Now I don’t know what to do
Do I keep believing the dream even though she's rejecting me?
As salm waalaykum
I love a girl and I did istakhara for her with the dua that "will she and I have a blessed and fruitful future together" and I got the answer in the first night. In my dream I saw myself playing football and I saw myself scoring a goal and I was celebrating and I was wearing white shirt and wore green shirt inside. I read that this two things comes under "yes"category.
But I just found out that the girl has a boyfriend and she herself told me that she is choosing him over me.
I sometimes feel that she is lying to me about that she has a boyfriend, just to make me jealous but sometimes I feel she is telling the truth.
Now I don't know what to do. I have to keep a fake smile on my face so my family doesn't think I am sad. I don't want to give any tension to my family. I truly don't know what to do.
Whenever she mentions about her boyfriend then I just feel to hit something and I just feel to cry at the same time. Please...... help me - I really love her and I don't want to leave her.
My friend told me to do istikhara again - should I do it again??? Now what should I do... Should I move on or just wait because Allah gave me a yes answer for our future?
Please advise me...
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Assalamualaikum my brother. You made istakhara for this girl, so it looks Allah said no
how did you know you that Allah said no, it was not a bad dream at all. your type of people always discourage others seriously
dreams r the only sign of istikhara???? she told him, she has a b f, 99% it has a chance to b true. does that a sign from Allah swt.., show him, her true colour...
When we do Istikhara, Allah does not give us a "yes" or "no" in our dreams. He gives us guidance so we can make the right decision.
Dreams are a reflection of wish fulfillment. Real-life is far more reliable. When he makes istikhara and his girlfriend then says "sorry I'm choosing another man", do you really think that the dream is Allah's answer?
You did Istighara, and then found out she has a boyfriend whom she wishes to marry.
I think Allah has given you His answer.....
if she is rejecting you let her go, you dont deserve her but someone else better than her
Aslamualikum bother
iam here to help you out to know ..............oky lets clear you something most of the people think that if we do ishtikara and if detects as yes ......that means your are not going to face any problem with her in future .is it that what you think you will be happy no problem nothing not at all dear brother Ya Allah you guys have made a wrong detection ......problem is a part of life it will come and nothing that relates with istikara .................one of my friend she married on doing ishtikara and now she says to me that she has doubt on her husband he acts wired with her some times don't calls here act very oddly often... thy fight so this is part of family life so what you say to this ...............is this what ishtikara points .....no not at all ..............its just makes you the best choice you will have ...................one more thing some says istikara gives your answer through dream or feeling ............ ishtikara doesn't comes from dream or feeling only sometimes its the answer that Allah sends through you and times you will say no .........its just a way that Allah will show you if she is right for you or not and i think Brother you have got your answer ...and the answer was next to your day she will give preference to her BF over you...........................
...pls don't make use ishtikara in wrong way or apply it in wrong unless you know how it works out
when you have two choices on your way then make ishtikara ..............your very answer Allah has given you in the next day by virtual view and not through dreams.....................if she was meantt for you Allah would have done it at the right time but he didn't
Dear akh,
If you look in the Hadith, Sahih Bukhari under Istikhara you will Inshallah find your answer, on how the signs come in your dream. Can I ask how old you are? You can do istikhara again. Secondly, you can let her go and if Allah wants it to be then she will come back to you.
Inshallah everything goes good for you. Hope all the best for you.
Thank You.
i made salat istikhara and each time i dream that i am with the guy i like without my hijab and i am happy what does it mean
jasmine, Istikhara is not dependent on dreams or dream interpretation. Simply pray Istikhara then make the choice that seems right to you, and trust that Allah is guiding you to what is best.
Wael
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