I want to help my sister!
My sister is in a relationship before marriage!
hello!
i have a sister who is a year younger to me.
she has a boyfriend but she is religious and tries to practice islam very hardly, she infact help her boyfriend practice islam they are in true love which i can tell for sure.
just months ago she came to me and shocked me with somethings that she has been doing wit him. they are in a relationship from 5years and are positively getting married soon insha allah. she says she has been indulged in kissing wit her boyfriend and a year ago its seems they are satisfying(masturbating lik) each other by sitting on one other where they go half nude (removing top and covering there lower parts i.e they don remove there pants) and she also said that her boyfriend has kissed her breasts too! and have touched private parts from outside.
she asks me if this sin is considered as proper adultery and what is the punishment will be for her according to islam and will she ever be forgiven by allah.
i don have a proper answer for these questions asked by my sister so i am seeking help from you please answer this as soon as possible so ill be able to help her soon and get them married soon(they havent had intercourse)
~rafa
4 Responses »
Leave a Response
Entries(RSS)
assalamalaikum
pl show this to yr sister
Correspondence between the sexes is not permissible, because that provokes temptation and usually results in evil. If a man corresponds with a non-mahram woman in letters that are not seen by anyone else, that leads to many evils.
As for the love that stems from repeated looking, haraam mixing or correspondence, the one who does that is sinning to the extent that he does haraam things in his relationship and love.
Islam forbids a woman to be alone with a man who is not her mahram because of the fitnah (temptation) and bad things that result from that, such as attachment and the desire to look and touch, etc.
All of this results from the man talking to the woman in these private letters or conversations, especially if they are young and at an age when desire is strong.
Shaykh Ibn Jibreen (may Allaah preserve him) was asked: What is the ruling on correspondence between young men and young women, if this correspondence is free from immorality, love and desire?
He replied: It is not permissible for any person to correspond with a woman who is not his mahram, because of the temptation involved in that. The person may think that there is no temptation, but the shaytaan will keep trying until he tempts him through her, and tempts her through him.
AsSalaamu Alaikum Sister,
Your sister asked you the following:
"If this sin is considered as proper adultery and what is the punishment will be for her according to Islam and will she ever be forgiven by Allah"
Well, Allah (s.w.t) warned us not to go near Zina (intercourse before Marriage), which means going near to Zina itself is a sin (disobeying Allah), therefore, there is a punishment for someone disobeying Allah, until the person repents sincerely.
There are three sins to Zina:
1-Going near to Zina (the two being together without a Mahram), and the punishment for such a sin is the punishment of someone disobeying Allah. Allah (S.W.T) says: But those who disobey Allah and His Messenger and transgress His limits will be admitted to a Fire, to abide therein: And they shall have a humiliating punishment. (Quran 4 v 14)
2-Commiting the grave act of Zina (Touching each other with Lust), and the punishment for such a sin can be found in the following Hadith:
it is mentioned that Angel Jibra’îl and Angel Mikâ’îl (AS) came to the Prophet (S.A.W.S). The Prophet (S.A.W.S) says: "We walked until we came to something that looked like an oven. Its top section was narrow and the inside was broad. From it sounds of screaming and noise was heard. We looked inside and we saw naked men and women. We also saw flames from beneath them. When these flames scorched them, they screamed." I asked Jibra’îl (AS): "Who are these people?" He replied, "These are the males and females who committed the grave act of zina. This will be their punishment till the day of Qiyâmat." (Bukhari)
3-Commiting the Zina itself, Allah says: "The woman and the man guilty of fornication - lash each of them with a hundred lashes. Let not compassion move you in their case, in a matter prescribed by Allâh, if you believe in Allâh and the Last day and let a group of believers witness their punishment". (Surah 24 verse 2)
As to if they will ever be forgiven by Allah, yes Insha'Allah if they both repent sincerely. Allah says in the Holy Qur'an: "(to Mohammed) Say: ‘O MY savants who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Therefore you have the time now to) Turn to your Lord (in repentance) and bow to His (Will), before the Penalty comes on you: after that you shall not be helped” (Quran 39: Verse 53-54)
Allah says in Hadiths Qudsi : "O son of Adam, as long as you call upon Me and put your hope in Me, I have forgiven you for what you have done and I do not mind. O son of Adam, if your sins were to reach the clouds of the sky and then you would seek my forgiveness, I would forgive you. O son of Adam, if you were to come to Me with sins that are close to filling the earth and then you would meet Me without ascribing any partners with Me, I would certainly bring to you forgiveness close to filling it."
Hope this helps Insha'Allah
Please make sure both your Sister and the brother repent after understanding the mistake they did, before entering to Nikaah.
May Allah (S.W.T) be Merciful to them and forgive them!!!
brother the best help you can give to your sister is to get her married soon. you know that the boys change. also once the door of zina is open, people find it extremely difficult to close it. dont wait for a big wedding with 20'000 people etc. just simple nikah and a simple valima ceremony.
Someone asked me a few days ago, if the act of zina can be forgiven if a person sincerely repents and also then goes for umrah, as supposedly just like minor sins b/w one Jummah to the otehr are wiped clean, umrahs and hajj can wipe your book clean of sins