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What is the Evidence that says Masturbation is Haraam?

Masturbation: Halal or Haraam?

Masturbation in Islam?

I'm 20 years old and have a very high sex drive. Living in NY attending college everywhere I go there are people who dressed but naked. I pray 5 times a day with sunnah and attend the Masjid at least 4 times a day. I won't be able to get married for at least 4 years and by the grace of Allah(SWT) I'm still a virgin.

It's been over 2 months since I last masturbated(because i heard it was Haram from a friend and stopped) and I never watched porn/bikini mag/video/etc. I didn't then and don't intend to ever.

I know the sunnah says to fast but that's not going to work for 3 reasons. 1) I tried fasting when i fasted(even as a teen) my sex drive goes up not down, 2) If I fast I get weak and tend to lie down which causes temptation.3) since i can't get married until i finish college but can't succeed in college while fasting so I've ruled out fasting. I've tried eating the foods that were recommended but no luck in fact I've gained weight which is very concerning for me. I've always slept on the side rather than belly or back. I've have no problem waiting until marriage for sex and intend to do so.

The Qur'an verses generally quoted on the internet (17:32: "Nor come nigh to unlawful sex For it is a shameful (deed)"/24:2 "The woman and the man guilty of adultery or fornication....").I use the Yusuf Ali Qur'an and I don't see how these are at all relavant to masturbation. In 24:2 the word used is Zina. To say zina means masturbation is a ridiculously long stretch. The scholars who say it's haram base there ruling on "silence on the issue by Allah (SWT)" but wouldn't silence mean the opposite?

When I did masturbate it was only once every other week because when I did I felt less stressed from all the bad things in the world and I used to have a big temper but when I did I was the most mellow person anyone had ever met. My father told me he is worried and says I am staring to be somewhat hostile when responding to mundane things.

Since I've stopped I've been losing sleep, getting angry, becoming tired and unhealthy and fear if continue my deen will go too. I've never had problems in the past mentally or physically. I've read and read tried every solution posted: sports/fasting/special diet/keeping busy/hanging out with pious brothers but no success only anger, frustration and now loss of faith.

Please help.

~ ihx33

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  1. I know how you feel It's the same for me. I too get frustrated if I don't masturbate then after I do it maybe couple days later I feel calm stress free and guilty. Then thoughts start to come into my head. Mostly It's because I'm. Lonely and see It's unfair that people including Muslims have girlfriend/boyfriend relationship and I don't. I know It's haram the relationships even thought I never done anything like zina or kiss a girl. It's like I'm going to be old and lonely and regret life decisions of not doing anything.

    • Don't worry Wasim, just work on yourself, and work out regularly. You will get a beautiful, and pious wife who maintains herself well if you maintain yourself. Don't ever feel like you are wasteing your life by being abstinint subahanAllah you are so far from the truth. You need to recite surah An-Nas, and get the shatan's whispers out of your head.
      Remember not everything is the way it appears those people who have sex don't show how broken their hearts are from their seperation from the sunnah. They shaytan uses them to deceive the rest of us.
      Make sure you're always in good company, and stay tru to your rub.
      JazakAllah for remaining abstinint

    • its kinda ez to stop the 1st thing when those thoughts come to head just ignore and think of something else it might be hard for some I have a very good imagination I used to think of anime and games and stuff

    • No one ever going to be lonely and if u still breathing that means hopes still there's for u

  2. Assalam O Alaikum wa rehmatullahi wa barakatahu!

    The problem arises because of delaying some event. If everything is happening on time then there will be nothing like that. To avoid this, try to attach yourself with Islamic teachings as much as possible and keep yourself away from confusing matters. Offer prayers five times a day and read Quran daily, this will give you peace Inshallah.


  3. Good that you pointed out. It is my personal opinion so please don't begin bashing me. I've failed to reach this conclusion that masturbation is not permitted.

    I've been usually Quoted , Surah Noor , 24:30

    "Ask the believing men to guard their modesty and protect their private parts. "

    There is no unequivocal verse in Quran or Hadith which says that Masturbation is Haraam.

    If a man is torn between continued desire or releasing it, and if this man does not have a wife, and he fears that he will suffer because of this (someone like a prisoner, or a traveler, or a pauper), then it is permissible for him to masturbate, and Ahmad (ibn Hanbal) is explicit on this.

    Ibn Aqil said : and many of our scholars have ruled that masturbation is makruh (disliked), and never explicitly said he that it was haram.

    For me, it is more of discharge of all the aggression and emotional imbalance than providing sexual gratification. It rather prevents me from going on the path of fornication.

    • Your opinion is very open minded and good, I have some proof to support what you are saying, and thank you for not hesitating to put your opinion, that is a good thing to do a great thing Infact

      Here's the proof; long but very worth it:

      Quran and hadith do not explicitly forbid masturbation. There is no explicit directive of the Shari`ah which forbids masturbation. In other words, it is silent on this issue. And so, it cannot be regarded as a sin. Secondly, there is no punishment outlined in Quran or hadith with regards to masturbation, which means it is most likely a disliked (makruh) act.

      Many scholars say it is Makruh (disliked). The reasoning is that masturbation has not proven medically to be harmful to a woman's body nor a man's; in fact, there is scientific evidence that masturbation can be good for you in some cases e.g. sexual frustration, reducing risk of prostate cancer, improving premature ejaculation in men. It also helps people overcome long periods of time without sex with their spouse if they are travelling, etc., and thus preventing fornication/adultery.
      Also, about the health benefits; in Islam, a haram thing can be made halal IF it is used for medical reasons, e.g. corrective plastic surgery, alcohol (in cough medicines), and even haram gelatin (present in supplements).
      So if one does it to protect themselves from fornication/adultery, then they can masturbate.
      And in this case, the masturbation is helping to prevent them from doing the major sins (fornication/adultery) and is also not harming their body (in fact, masturbation helps the body, it does not harm us, according to scientific research), masturbation also does not break family/marital relations and does not cause corruption in society (whereas fornication/adultery break relations and corrupt society).

      Under this understanding, masturbation is not seen as an issue of inside or outside of the marital relationship because it involves a natural act that we do even before childbirth while still in the womb. The following verse confirms this when it says:
      “Those who faithfully observe their trusts and their covenants; And who (strictly) guard their prayers;- These will be the heirs, Who will inherit Paradise: they will dwell therein (for ever).” Quran 23:8-11

      Masturbation is allowed in cases where a (married, or unmarried) person feels like they will commit major sins like fornication and adultery; so in this case, the lesser sin (masturbation) is allowed, to save themselves from the major sins.
      Also, people who don't have the means to marry, can also masturbate (as this is an extenuating circumstance where it is allowed for them, although patience is much better).

      There is no explicit directive of the Shari`ah which forbids masturbation. In other words, it is silent on this issue. Consequently, it cannot be regarded as a sin. The verses from which its prohibition is usually derived, I am afraid, have another meaning.

      The opinions of some of the companions of the Prophets reproduced below from Ibn Hazam’s al-Muhalla (Vol:11, pp. 393-4) indicate that they did not forbid it:

      Ibn `Abbas: i) Marrying a slave girl is better than it, and it is better than fornication (zina).ii) It is nothing but rubbing one’s private parts until a fluid comes out.

      Ibn `Umar: i) A person who does makes a fool of himself.ii) It is merely rubbing an organ.

      Jabir Ibn Zayd: It is your water; you can discharge it [if you want].

      Hasan Basri: There is no harm in it.

      Abu Saud: There is no authentic text prohibiting masturbation, although it is reprehensible on account of two man factors: It leads to sexual arousal and more desire, and it actually affects the health, especially for boys. Sex is like any other natural instinct in that the more you think of it, the more it is accentuated. Generally speaking, humans sublimate and administer their instincts. We want to possess, but we work and earn; we want to eat, but we control our eating habits: and we want to have sex, but we marry.

      Athar: Masturbation is considered makruh (detestable) in Islam; i.e., it is between lawful and permitted. Some scholars of the past have permitted it to students and soldiers who are single in a non-Muslim society where temptation is high, in order to save them from adultery. The medical harms are not confirmed.
      Also, about 'transgressing' - it relates to when a believer commits such an act that it violates his dignity, breaks relations and causes corruption in society, e.g adultery and fornication. The punishments for fornication & adultery are Clearly stated in the Quran, whereas the punishment for masturbation has not been stated.

      Masturbation is only allowed to guard one's chastity e.g. in exceptional circumstances (see above)"

      • Wow..thanks.great

        • Please Madie, please please please don't misguide people and please don't put the half sentences or your own logic, this is strictly forbidden in Islaam to put someone's own opinion rather than Islaamic Foqah....

          • Imran, she gave evidence to support her position. There is in fact no clear prohibition of masturbation in Islam.


          • Imran it's not like madie just put her own opinion she also put ibne hazam fiqh regarding that there shouldn't be any problem in the direction she took

            I am not saying what she said is correct - just that she can said that

          • The issue of masturbation as been quite a controversial as well as a misunderstood topic by many muslims. Due to their ignorance as well as their cultural upbringing , many muslims have started to shun masturbation as a wrong and sinful act in Islam. There have been various fatwas by scholars of the aqeedat-us-salafiyyah who have mistakenly given their wording stating that masturbation is haram. All of these arguments are based on one quranic verse which has nothing to do with masturbation. The verse is as follows:

            "And those who guard their chastity. Except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, - for them, they are free from blame. But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors." (Al Quran23.5-7 )
            The above mentioned verse only talks about sexual relations between persons other than your wives and slaves
            and masturbation is only a thing that you engage with your self. 
            Many including imam shafi have tried to derive a meaning as if masturbation is haram. When you look clearly,
            there is no mention of the word masturbation being forbidden. the word" But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors." as being taken out of context and interpreted to mean that the masturbator is a transgressor as he is seeking something beyond what his right hand posesses. This verse only means about homosexuality and fornication. and Allah(awt) and his rasool(sal) have clearly explained in the quran and sunnah of what is sexual transgression. and sexual transgression is adultery,fornication, homosexuality because these are what that have being clearly being forbidden in the Quran and the Sunnah.  Ibn kathir in his authentic tafseer gives the meaning to the following verse as follows:
            "means, those who protect their private parts from unlawful actions and do not do that which Allah has forbidden; fornication and homosexuality, and do not approach anyone except the wives whom Allah has made permissible for them or their right hand possessions from the captives. One who seeks what Allah has made permissible for him is not to be blamed and there is no sin on him".
            ibn kathir himself says clearly that one who seeks what Allah(swt) has made permissible for him is not to be blamed and there is no sin on him. The above mentioned ayah has nothing to do with masturbation and there is no evidence whatsoever from the Quran or any authentic hadith forbidding masturbation. If Allah(swt) and his messenger(sal) has not sanctioned something in islam, then no one has the right to make it forbidden according to their wims. Islam is a very easy religion and Allah(swt) with his mercy has not sanctioned masturbation has it would be a burden to mankind. It is clear from this that masturbation is 200% halal. According to the shariah if there is silence from the Quran and the sunnah then it falls as something that is permitted which is known as 'jaiz' meaning allowed. The below hadith explains this follows:

            "The Prophet (sal) said, “Verily Allah has obligated the obligations – so do not neglect them. And He has limited the limits – so do not transgress them. And His silence about things is from His mercy, not forgetfulness, so do not investigate them.” (Hasan sahih-Ad-Darqutni No. 4/199 and Al-Baihaqi No. 10/122). 

            The above hadith is clear evidence that we are forbidden from investigating from things which has come as a mercy from Allah(swt) by he being silent. Masturbation also falls in to the things in which Islam is silent. and this hadith clearly proves that masturbation is a gift and a mercy from Allah(swt) to ease mankind's sexual desire. It is sad to note that due to the ignorance of this ummah, muslims have started to vigorously reject masturbation by trying to prove any verse or hadith. As there is no clear evidence to prove that masturbation is haram they have fallen in to the blunder of deriving meanings which has nothing to do with the original meaning.
            many wrongly quote the below hadith to try to prove that masturbation is haram.

            ‘Abdullah bin Mas’ood(rali), who said: “We were with some youth not finding anything, so the Messenger of Allah,(sal) said: ‘O assembly of youth. Whoever from you is able to get married, then let him do so, for it lowers the gaze and protects the privates. And whoever is unable, then it is (on him) to fast, for it is a protection” (Bukhari and Muslim)

            they argue that masturbation is forbidden because as mentioned in the above hadith, the prophet(sal) told that if you are unable to get married, to fast and if masturbation was an alternative, prophet(sal) would have mentioned it. Now my question is, the prophet(sal) never made it an obligation for a muslim who is unable to get married to fast. fasting is only a sunnah and who ever wants to fast can fast and who ever wants not to fast can definitely not fast as it is not an obligation. what is clear in this hadith based on various other authentic narrations is that marriage is Wajib(obligatory) and fasting is a sunnah. This verse has nothing to do about masturbation.  Masturbation is Jaiz (permitted). The above hadith proves nothing on masturbation being forbidden.
                                        The most important thing to be understood when knowing and understanding a verse of the Quran or Hadith is that you cannot give your wording and meaning to it. This was the methodology of the salafus saliheen. Deviants like the mutazila and asharia who went astray were the ones who interpreted the quranic verses to their own wims hence twisting the verses . The verse must be understand using all the other supporting verses and hadith and according to the understanding of the the sahabah. For an example, the quran talks about major sins known as kabair. The quran says:
            "Those who avoid great sins and Al-Fawahish (immoral sins) except Al-Lamam(minor sins) verily, your Lord is of vast forgiveness."
                                                                                                                                        (Al Quran-53-32)

            The kabair or major sins are backbiting,adultery,fornocation,murder etc because these are the sins that have been mentioned in the quran and the sahih hadith as major sins. Now, if someone comes and tells that kissing a child is a major sin by quoting the above verse, will kissing the child become a major sin? No. because, there is no mention in the quran or hadith stating so. similerly, if someone comes with the quranic verse in sura muhmineen trying to give his or her opinion telling that this verse means that masturbation is also haram, does that mean that it is haram? No. Why? because there is no mention in the quran or sahih hadith stating that masturbation is haram. 
            Another example , is the verse in surah ahzab, as stated below:

            "O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies. That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever Oft­Forgiving, Most Merciful"(Al quran-33:59)

            May try to prove thrugh this verse that "draw their cloaks all over their bodies", means that to cover the entire body even the face and hand. But, by understanding the above verse using the Quran,the authentic hadiths, and the exlanation of the companions, it is quite clear, that meaning for this verse "draw their cloaks all over their bodies" is to cover the body except for the face,hands and the feet. There are so many other examples available and all these proves that the quran verse in chapter 23:5-7, has been wrongly interpreted.

            The other famous argument on this topic is, many muslims try to quote the fatwas of salafi imams like sheikh ibn taymiyyah, sheikh uthaymin,bin baz, sheik nasiruddin albani, imam shafi etc. And the clear cut answer for this is that all these respectable imams as human beings made a mistake on the topic of masturbation. A scholar among the sahaba, Ibn abbas(rali) allowed masturbation in the authentically narrated hadith below:

            "One young person comes to Ibnu Abbas rali and asks about masturbation, then he says ” If you fear zina then practice it”.

            Ibn Abbas being a scholar clearly knew that there is no evidence to prove that masturbation is haram and he as a scholar clearly knew the Quranic verse mentioned above(chapter 23-verses 5-7) and he clearly allowed the young man to practice masturbation as it would protect him from committing zina. According to the shariah, it is clear that no scholar who came after the sahabah is greater than them. and there is no evidence for any sahaba criticizing ibn abbase's fatwa. this is clear from the sahaba's understanding that masturbation is not haram. The sahaba were the best of this ummah and there is clear evidence to prove that we should stick to the sahaba's understanding ,as well as to the tabioon and tabat tabeen, who are the salafus saliheen(the righteous generation)
            all the imams who came after that and had held the opinion that masturbation is haram has erred. their argument does not hold water. there are also scholers among the salaf who made masturbation permissible and they are: Ahmed ibn hanbal,Tawus ibn kaysan,imam Ibn Hazm, imam shawkani. The above evidences clearly proves and invalidates all the false arguments that masturbation is haram. Masturbation is halal for both men and women. There is no restriction what so ever for masturbation and anyone can engage in masturbation the way they want using their hands, using sex toys such as vibrators, dildos, artificial vaginas etc

          • Sania
            Do you mean masturbation is allowed completely and not in exception situation ?
            Do you think fantasizing ablut other men and women during this act is OK ?
            I mean you feel dirty fantasies are fine ?

      • I have gone through ur post it really helps youth before marriage but if we speak to our soul it says I did something wrong..!!! Isnt it. Though scientifically its proved good for health but I totally dis agree with this.coz our Islam is permitting safe sex by doing why do we addicted to this despite avoiding is a better idea. Mastarbation can't be done without imagination because human beings have feeling when they actions. To avoid this first we have to control our sexual feelings as simple as this. Ibadat makes u to control your thoughts

        • Imaging things, dreams etc. are not haraam in Islam. You are held accountable for the actions you take, not the ones you dream up in your head. You're not committing a sin by dreaming of robbing a bank, you are committing a sin when you actually rob a bank.

          It's not really easy for people to control their thoughts and some times people get lost in their own imaginations which conjure up certain images/thought processes in their heads. It isn't something we can control. Thinking about something haraam, isn't doing something haraam. Of course it is better to stay away from those kinds of thoughts as it may lead you to actually do them, the thought alone isn't harmful or haraam.

      • Assalam Aleykum Dear Brothers and Sisters.

        I would like to pinpoint that mastrubation is declared haram.
        And my proof is Quran Al Karim.

        Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 33:
        33 (O Prophet (saws)) Say: The things that my Lord hath indeed forbidden (declared haraam) are: shameful deeds whether open or secret; sins and trespasses against truth or reason; assigning of partners to Allah for which He hath given no authority; and saying things about Allah of which ye have no knowledge.

        Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 16 Surah Nahl verse 90:
        90 Allah commands justice the doing of good and liberality to kith and kin and He forbids (declares haraam) all shameful deeds, and injustice, and rebellion: He instructs you that ye may receive admonition.

        Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 151:
        151 (O Prophet (saws)) Say: "Come I will rehearse what Allah hath (really) prohibited you from": join not anything as equal with Him; be good to your parents: kill not your children on a plea of want; We provide sustenance for you and for them; come not nigh to shameful deeds whether open or secret; take not life which Allah hath made sacred except by way of justice and law: thus doth He command you that ye may learn wisdom.

        Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verses 32:
        32 Nor come close to or even approach zina: for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil opening the road (to other evils)!

        Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 53 Surah Najm verses 31-32:
        31 Yea to Allah belongs all that is in the heavens and on earth; so that He rewards those who do evil according to their deeds and He rewards those who do good with what is best.
        32 Those who avoid great sins and shameful deeds, Only (falling into) small faults--verily thy Lord is ample in forgiveness. He knows you well when He brings you out of the earth and when ye are hidden in your mother's wombs therefore justify not yourselves. He knows best who it is that guards against evil.

        !But do not forget that Allah is the all forgiving!

        Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:
        (O Prophet) say: O My servants who have wronged their own souls.Do not despair of Allahs Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.

        Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:
        Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!

        Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:
        When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."

      • This is just my experience and I wrote this for the guy who posted this and for anyone struggling with this sin

        I’ve been through all this and out the other side, using masturbation as an excuse because you can’t wait for Allah SWT to provide your wife, in due time you will be provided for no dua goes unanswered be patient and keep away from this why are you angry and unable to sustain yourself without your dopamine and hormone release sounds like what I went through and it’s an addiction your hormones are unbalanced because of mastrubation it makes you go up and down like a yo-yo I’ve even felt like Allah was punishing me almost instantly after it became clear to me I don’t want you to go through this akhi your hearts at a dis-ease, it makes shaytan more able to whisper what you are experiencing makes you angry sad all that comes from this horrible act, yes it is better than zina but not as good as putting your trust in Allah being grateful for your life as it is with no “oh I’m missing out this mans got this next mans got that” nah bro your being inpatient and it’s lustful too a dirty act and also lowers your energy levels weakens your iman in sha Allah you get through this it took me 2-3 weeks of being clean to forget about it all, still your mind feels like it’s missing out no it’s shaytan tricking you the longer you do this sin the more deluded you become to the fact you think how you are is normal whilst your doing it you masturbate and for the next 2 weeks your iman is low trust me bro I broke the chains sub Han Allah only through the grace and mercy of Allah that was the hardest addiction to break cah you got instant relief/gratification right with you at all times not like you gotta go buy alcohol or drugs i remember trying to justify it but it’s wrong jus like if you drank alcohol once or twice you would probably only feel a bit of shame but eventually once you take liberties with Allah you will know because his wrath is upon you astagfirullah may Allah free you from your confusion you don’t have to go through it to be free replace them thoughts with praise of Allah thanks of things in your life and sacrifice is one of the best things Allah loves not of animals but sacrifice of the things you love or are attached to that are not the best for you like things that are permissible but you may abuse like a sugar addiction as your sinning to yourself by abusing yourself and not being happy with what you got. your getting hormonal imbalance because you drain yourself then as your energy rises back up you feel as if it’s too much yes it feels like it and I went through this at the peak of my growth in late teen so it was hard to break but i fell so much better now my heart is stronger and closer to Allah alhamdullilah hope this helps you just my experience. Assalamu alaikum waramahtullahi wa barakatu akhi

    • Assalam alykum wrwb
      The sunnah of the Prophet (peace be upon him):
      Abdullaah ibn Mas’ood said, "We were with the Prophet while we were young and had no wealth whatsoever. So Allaah’s Messenger said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power." Bukhari:5066. The hadeeth orders men who are not able to marry to fast despite the hardship encountered in doing so, and not to masturbate despite the ease with which it can be done.

    • I completely agree. I am single, and masturbation is something I do every day, in the morning, as part of my routine when I wake up (to me, it is like blowing my inconsequential thing). Then I take care of my other bodily needs, then take a bath or shower and pray before I go to work. I find that during the day I am able to concentrate better and do not have impure thoughts regarding carnal relations, even though I have women working around me that do not wear the hijab.

    • I agree

  4. Please an editor respond to this question as it is still unanswered.

    • you have to try to masturbate without thinking of sex or porn but instead think of it as just pleasing yourself/private part as it also requires your attention just like all of your other senses .

      I have noticed that one can masturbate without porn/explicit images , thats the key to doing it right.
      Dont think of having sex with the girl next door just do it to please yourself by yourself.
      Because if you think of women and naked pictures you will become a slave to it rather than a maste of it.
      If you can do it without the intention of having sex but rather to release/enjoy your private part then it is safe.

      One more thing try not to ejeculate,this will help you have more fun for longer and can also help you gain controll rather than being controlled by you desire.

      my conclusion is masturbate but DO NOT JECULATE!!

      Have fun

      • can't get release unless you blow out the tubes. Its a matter of brain chemical release, and its actually dependent upon completing the reaction. You guys are so repressed. Its like you're taking all your repressed carnal energy and turning it into something terrible instead of just getting rid of it...

        By repressing those energies, you merely become more aggressive in real life to fulfill sinful thoughts. Not good, not halal.

        Think beyond the carnal and embrace the spiritual.

  5. Assalamualaikum,

    Until a few weeks ago, I was firm on the opinion that it is HARAAM, but when I learnt that there were different opinions among the scholars of the Ahlus Sunnah, it made me think and look into the matter.

    Allah says:

    {And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts). Except from their wives or those whom their right hands possess, – for then, they are free from blame; But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors}, [Soorah al-Mu'minoon, Aayaat 5-7]

    Based on this Aayah, many Ulama including Shaikh ibn Uthaimeen, Shaikh bin Baaz and others say that masturbation is Haraam. They say that it is incumbent upon every Muslim to avoid masturbation.

    This is the position of many sound scholars and can not be ignored. So, if this is enough for you, then take this position and consider it Haraam.

    There is an Athar (saying of a Sahaabi) from ibn Abbas (Radiyallahu Anhuma):

    A youth was sitting in the gathering of Ibn 'Abbaas (radhi-yAllaahu 'anhumaa) and waited until everyone had left, whereupon he asked Ibn 'Abbaas about that (masturbation). So Ibn 'Abbaas said: ((Oh! Oh! Having intercourse with the slavewoman is better than that, and that is better than committing zinaa)), [Transmitted by al-Bayhaqee and Ibn Hazam in al- Muhallaa].

    Our beloved ibn Abbas did not say it was not allowed to do so. But he said something else that shows that it is very much disliked or it is Makrooh. This is from Shaykh Mahmood Khaleel Harraas, another good scholar of the Ahlus Sunnah.

    The shaikh further said:

    And I have also read in some of the books of the Hanaabilah the permissibility of masturbating for he who fears falling into zinaa. However, (the) gravity (of masturbating) is regarded the same as eating from the (already) dead carcass (i.e. if you have no other food and fear you will die if you do not eat from it), so it is not permissible for him to do so except for that which alleviates the dire necessity.

    End quote...

    If you were lost somewhere, having no food. You are dying of hunger. You have only some pigs and dead animals around. What will you do? You are permitted by Islam to eat pork or from the dead carcass in such a situation. This is ONLY limited to this kind of a situation.

    From all of this, I would say that Masturbation is neither Halaal, nor Haraam, but it is something Mashbooh (doubtful).

    And a Hadith has the following:

    On the authority of Abu Muhammad al-Hasan ibn 'Alee ibn Abee Taalib (Radiyallahu Anhuma), the grandson of the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam), and the one much loved by him, who said: I memorized from the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam):

    Leave that which puts you in doubt for that which does not put you in doubt

    [At - Timidhi]

    So, in myopinion, you should strive not to masturbate. What if your Lord catches hold of you for having masturbated? Based on our whims, we may say that it is allowed, and masturbate, but if it leads you to the bigger sin, then you will be the one responsible.

    But yes, if this striving, if you are surrounded by the possibilities of Zina, then you could suppress your desire by masturbating. But remember that it is the last resort, just like eating from the dead when no food is available.

    This is my position, based on my research. Please do not hold me responsible in the court of Allah, if this turns out to be wrong.


    (fatawa on masturbation can be accessed from and

    Muhammad Waseem Editor

    • as-Salamu alaykum akh,

      From my understanding you gave the correct advice, according to the sources and according to common sense as in Islaam when confronted with two evils which are unavoidable one should always choose the lesser. May Allaah reward you for your efforts and guide us all to the straight path,

      • Wa Alaikum as Salam Akhi,

        Jazakallahu Khair...

        Muhammad Waseem Editor

      • Come on brothers marriage is better, try and pray to allah so that he makes marriage an easy task for us,
        Allah gave Islam to humanity to break societal chains. Now a days our society and even our parents make it super hard to marry at an early age, you guys should ask your parents wether they want to join you to the inferno of fornication (oven of naked men and women)

        • Brother not everyone can get married so quickly and easily, this is something to be considered. OP mentioned it wouldn't be possible for him to marry yet

        • What if you are 15

          • Teenagers tend to be be the most vulnerable towards these desires. Marriage is out of the question. I have yet to find a good answer all sites I have searched. As previous posters have mentioned , when in doubt , leave it out.

          • You don’t need to worry about sex yet bro till your ready to get married u got enough money for your family

        • Ameen, marriage is the best. But parents, society, and unislamic (traditional) marriage rites makes it almost impossible

          • Fact ukhti! Fact!

          • Quran and hadith do not explicitly forbid masturbation. There is no explicit directive of the Shari`ah which forbids masturbation. In other words, it is silent on this issue. And so, it cannot be regarded as a sin. Secondly, there is no punishment outlined in Quran or hadith with regards to masturbation, which means it is most likely a disliked (makruh) act.

            Many scholars say it is Makruh (disliked). The reasoning is that masturbation has not proven medically to be harmful to a woman's body nor a man's; in fact, there is scientific evidence that masturbation can be good for you in some cases e.g. sexual frustration, reducing risk of prostate cancer, improving premature ejaculation in men. It also helps people overcome long periods of time without sex with their spouse if they are travelling, etc., and thus preventing fornication/adultery.
            Also, about the health benefits; in Islam, a haram thing can be made halal IF it is used for medical reasons, e.g. corrective plastic surgery, alcohol (in cough medicines), and even haram gelatin (present in supplements).
            So if one does it to protect themselves from fornication/adultery, then they can masturbate.
            And in this case, the masturbation is helping to prevent them from doing the major sins (fornication/adultery) and is also not harming their body (in fact, masturbation helps the body, it does not harm us, according to scientific research), masturbation also does not break family/marital relations and does not cause corruption in society (whereas fornication/adultery break relations and corrupt society).

            Under this understanding, masturbation is not seen as an issue of inside or outside of the marital relationship because it involves a natural act that we do even before childbirth while still in the womb. The following verse confirms this when it says:
            “Those who faithfully observe their trusts and their covenants; And who (strictly) guard their prayers;- These will be the heirs, Who will inherit Paradise: they will dwell therein (for ever).” Quran 23:8-11

            Masturbation is allowed in cases where a (married, or unmarried) person feels like they will commit major sins like fornication and adultery; so in this case, the lesser sin (masturbation) is allowed, to save themselves from the major sins.
            Also, people who don't have the means to marry, can also masturbate (as this is an extenuating circumstance where it is allowed for them, although patience is much better).

            There is no explicit directive of the Shari`ah which forbids masturbation. In other words, it is silent on this issue. Consequently, it cannot be regarded as a sin. The verses from which its prohibition is usually derived, I am afraid, have another meaning.

            The opinions of some of the companions of the Prophets reproduced below from Ibn Hazam’s al-Muhalla (Vol:11, pp. 393-4) indicate that they did not forbid it:

            Ibn `Abbas: i) Marrying a slave girl is better than it, and it is better than fornication (zina).ii) It is nothing but rubbing one’s private parts until a fluid comes out.

            Ibn `Umar: i) A person who does makes a fool of himself.ii) It is merely rubbing an organ.

            Jabir Ibn Zayd: It is your water; you can discharge it [if you want].

            Hasan Basri: There is no harm in it.

            Abu Saud: There is no authentic text prohibiting masturbation, although it is reprehensible on account of two man factors: It leads to sexual arousal and more desire, and it actually affects the health, especially for boys. Sex is like any other natural instinct in that the more you think of it, the more it is accentuated. Generally speaking, humans sublimate and administer their instincts. We want to possess, but we work and earn; we want to eat, but we control our eating habits: and we want to have sex, but we marry.

            Athar: Masturbation is considered makruh (detestable) in Islam; i.e., it is between lawful and permitted. Some scholars of the past have permitted it to students and soldiers who are single in a non-Muslim society where temptation is high, in order to save them from adultery. The medical harms are not confirmed.
            Also, about 'transgressing' - it relates to when a believer commits such an act that it violates his dignity, breaks relations and causes corruption in society, e.g adultery and fornication. The punishments for fornication & adultery are Clearly stated in the Quran, whereas the punishment for masturbation has not been stated.

            Masturbation is only allowed to guard one's chastity e.g. in exceptional circumstances (see above)"

        • I ll ask u when u get married

      • Guys, go to youtube and search Mufti Abu Layth masturbation, search for the answer in the description and watch the part he speaks about masturbation.

    • Assalamu'alaikum,

      Like anything else, even knowledge updates.

      Some people say there is no explicit mention of masturbation in Aayah 6 and 7 of Surah al Mu'minoon. Classical mufassireen and the Aimmah say that the word "عادون" meaning "transgressors" refers to masturbation.

      Imam ibn Baaz Rahimahullah has made it clear in one of his fatawa when asked about Imam Ahmad's opinion that masturbation is halal. But Imam ibn Jareer at Tabri, one of the classical mufassireen, says that masturbation is forbidden according to Aayah 7 of Surah al Mu'minoon. Imam bin Baaz has made it clear here:

      Please note this also, before concluding anything.

    • I learnt another interesting point from the narration of ibn Abbas Radiyallahu Anhu I have quoted above. A brother mentioned in one of the other posts this:

      Having sexual relationship with a slave woman is better than masturbation. The former means that any children that will be born from the relationship will be born into slavery. This is because a slave belongs to someone and children that are born to her also belong to that person. So, having your children born into slavery is better than masturbating.

      So this is the status of masturbation that every Muslim should have in his/her heart.

      Muhammad Waseem Editor

      • Assalam alaikum,

        With all due respect, Am I misunderstanding that the quote you mentioned:

        "Having sexual relationship with a slave woman is better than masturbation. The former means that any children that will be born from the relationship will be born into slavery. This is because a slave belongs to someone and children that are born to her also belong to that person. So, having your children born into slavery is better than masturbating."

        is it from a brother or is from ibn Abbas Radiyallahu Anhu?

        Also, brother, you have mentioned that it is better to have a relationship with a slave woman, but this addresses only males, while masturbation is a problem among both males and females.

        I do not mean to open a can of worms here, but whenever many people do talk about slave women, the idea is not clear to most Muslims, let alone anyone else. Some clarification please.

        • Wa Alaikum as Salam,

          As you can see in my comment above, I have quoted a narration of ibn Abbas Radiyallahu Anhu. That exactly suggests this. And it was a man who asked him the question, so he mentioned a slave woman. His answer would obviously have been different if a woman asked him this.

          Not only female, but there were male slaves as well, during that time. Slavery is not as most of us understand today, it is different. I think we have published a post on this subject in the past. The only reason for my comment was to emphasize the status of masturbation with ibn Abbas Radiyallahu Anhu.

          It is illegal to keep slaves in our times according to the agreed upon law by all nations. But in Islam, the concept existed ever since the time of Rasoolullah ﷺ. Yes, freeing them has a great reward, but no sign in the history of Islam (I mean from Allah and His Messenger or even his Sahaabah Radiyallahu Anhum) of its abolition.

          Having said this, I hope we don't bother ourselves a lot thinking about it. 🙂 In these times, the situations that lead yo slavery are non existent, except if someone breaks the international law by enslaving a war captive (in countries where wars are fought today).

          I hope I was clear. And yes, remember that 'slave' in the history of Islam was NEVER limited to women alone, the great Sahabi Saalim was a slave, and another great Sahaabi, Bilal was initially a slave, Radiyallahu Anhuma.

          Muhammad Waseem

      • Muslims don't keep slaves, brother. Slavery existed when a islam came but slaves were to be freed, and there was wisdom behind having sex with a slavewoman - namely, she became the man's wife.

        I don't see how lifelong celibacy and sexual neutrality is achievable or healthy. At some point, an individual will masturbate -- whether at age 20, 30 or 40.

      • now that is one of the points that we will never agree on. You believe in slavery. I do not. the concept of slavery, to me, is the one big mistake that Mohammed and Islam in general made. People are people, Gods are Gods. No one person should be able to make a slave of another person no matter what they merely believe. All humans were made by our Creator, and it doesn't matter whether you are a follower of Allah, Jehovah, Bhuddah, Krishna, Syung Yon Moon, Astaroth, Ahura Mazda, or even Shaitan himself. Slavery of any type is wrong and it always will be. To make a slave of anyone is a sin against life itself.

      • Brother, any children born of a slave woman and a free man are free. In fact, Rasool SAW said that she also becomes a free woman when she gives birth to her slave master's baby. Islam doesn't endorse generational slavery like we had in America.

    • Thank you you have really helped me

    • سلام عليكم
      It is not permissible to say things and include Halal and Haram unless, it is from Quran.

      وَلَا تَقُولُوا لِمَا تَصِفُ أَلْسِنَتُكُمُ الْكَذِبَ هَٰذَا حَلَالٌ وَهَٰذَا حَرَامٌ لِّتَفْتَرُوا عَلَى اللَّهِ الْكَذِبَ ۚ إِنَّ الَّذِينَ يَفْتَرُونَ عَلَى اللَّهِ الْكَذِبَ لَا يُفْلِحُونَ
      Sahih International
      And do not say about what your tongues assert of untruth, "This is lawful and this is unlawful," to invent falsehood about Allah . Indeed, those who invent falsehood about Allah will not succeed.

      So, for those who quote their Imams as their source of Halal and Haram will also be punished for Shirq. Becareful..

      If Masturbation is Allowed..?

      OUR FACULTIES will be questioned for every immoral act**. For man. Masturbation means, we jerkoff mechanically by literally stimulating ourselves by actions. Whixhis not the case for women. With this said. Masturbation becomes the easiest choice, and yet for women, they don't need mechanical stimulation, a woman can reach orgasm without touching herself. With this said.

      Masturbation is an Equivalent of Sex, which is an immoral act to oneself.

      وَالَّذِينَ إِذَا فَعَلُوا فَاحِشَةً أَوْ ظَلَمُوا أَنفُسَهُمْ ذَكَرُوا اللَّهَ فَاسْتَغْفَرُوا لِذُنُوبِهِمْ وَمَن يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ وَلَمْ يُصِرُّوا عَلَىٰ مَا فَعَلُوا وَهُمْ يَعْلَمُونَ

      And those who, when they commit an immorality or wrong themselves, remember Allah and seek forgiveness for their sins - and who can forgive sins except Allah ? - and [who] do not persist in what they have done while they know..

      We are to avoid VICE. Like gambling, alcohol and drugs, sex is also a Vice and a debilitating one, and Sex is only controlled by our FACULTY.. And We are to SUBMIT TO ALLAH 100%

      As for the brother who is juggling the choices. School or marriage. Remember what you are achieving for yourself has nothing to do with Allah. ALLAH says, You arw responsible for changing yourself, but that does not give you yhe rights to dictate which moral side you opt for!!? This is like A: we have to give you a break, while you are telling Allah.. B: Wait while I finish my studies!! Thats IBLIS.

      وعليكم سلام

    • Thank you, what you say is true , I used to masturbate a lot and if you look at my previous comment you will see I loved it! , I thought it was a way of balancing my mind,heart and keeping myself stress free.

      It is true though there is much pleasure in masturbating whih it only keeps you satisfied until you need it again like a drug a very addictive powerful drug, especially since I was masturbating without ejaculating.This made me masturbate even more because I though this was my source of power , balance and control.

      The truth is I did feel more power , focus,social intelligence,satisfaction and emotional balance.My only problem is that I didn't want it to end,I could masturbate for hours controlling process as I please.I didn't like to be around people too long because i was looking forward to being alone so to satisfy my craving because as long as there were people around me I couldn't do it . Being around my family was becoming frustrating since spending time with them was the only thing stopping me from being selfish.The other problem was trying to avoid ejaculating it was not not easy and when I did ejaculate I felt bad for doing it wrong , you felt angry and disappointed.

      It became a cycle sometimes I got it right sometimes I didn't and thus I became a slave to "trying not to ejaculate". Eventually I stopped , prayed to the Most high for guidance because this pursuit of balance was taking over my life taking me further and further away from the truth.My relationship with the Most high was being sacrificed in the process.My offering was unclean , unworthy.I felt inferior when I was around brothers and sisters in our meetings,I could feel my soul was lost in world of confusion of wether I WAS DOING THE RIGHT THING OR NOT.

      Today Im free of my sin, I have stopped,my life is much better , my relationship with the Most high has improved,I dont feel guilty anymore, im more at peace with myself,I feel like im part of the world rather than being stuck to my own coner.

      In my conclusion I say we should keep away from such things because these are the things that separate us from animals and animalistic cravings,humans are different from animals which means they can choose how to behave.

      The Creator has given us power an responsibility over the earth ,lets not abuse it or even worse abuse ourselfs.

      • Thanks for sharing your experience. It must be useful to the readers in sha Allah.

        The thing is that people addicted to masturbation are literally enslaved by this very act and they become equal to a disabled person. It affects one's social life and how one sees the world. You must thank Allah until death for saving you from this.

        People think it is not possible to get away with this habit, which is untrue. Just like one can get over drinking or smoking addiction, one can get over this addiction too. They just need to adopt the means required for this.

        What makes muttaqun different from others is their ability to control their self, control their temptations and get over the whispers of Shaitan. It seems difficult in the beginning but the whispers of Shaitan reduce day by day and they start taking a diversion, meaning, Shaitan starts to try other methods to engage you in sin, when you don't pay heed to one.

        This is continuous and never ending, that shall end only with death. What makes us successful is our power to gain control over our actions and foil Shaitaan's attempts.

        Jakaak Allahu Khairan
        Mohammed Waseem

    • Whenever we are hard headed to a certin religious opinion we have to take two steps back and think of it. religion came down to make us better people, so when we become hard headed, does that make us better people...? My advice as a loving sister, for any future situations consider this before being stubborn to an opinion. It has helped many people

    • These honourable and respectable scholars are humans too bro. They made a mistake in their interpretation . It's only natural though. We can all have opinions. And with all due respect I don't agree with these views. Furthermore many scholars and even sahabas have allowed it and some have clearly said there is no harm I it. Our lord Allah Almighty will not punish us for this. If masturbation was such a major sin Allah would have explained by it name in the Quran but this word is not in the Quran. The Prophet(pbuh) did not explicitly declare it haram. According to a Hadith matters upon which Allah keeps silent r from His mercy not forgetfulness . Quran and sunnah r silent in this regard. So the above Hadith applies here. May Allah reward for ur effort to search for the truth.

    • How does one interprete this ayat?

      Surah An-Najm, Verse 32:
      الَّذِينَ يَجْتَنِبُونَ كَبَائِرَ الْإِثْمِ وَالْفَوَاحِشَ إِلَّا اللَّمَمَ إِنَّ رَبَّكَ وَاسِعُ الْمَغْفِرَةِ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِكُمْ إِذْ أَنشَأَكُم مِّنَ الْأَرْضِ وَإِذْ أَنتُمْ أَجِنَّةٌ فِي بُطُونِ أُمَّهَاتِكُمْ فَلَا تُزَكُّوا أَنفُسَكُمْ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِمَنِ اتَّقَىٰ

      Those who avoid great sins and shameful deeds, only (falling into) small faults,- verily thy Lord is ample in forgiveness. He knows you well when He brings you out of the earth, And when ye are hidden in your mothers' wombs. Therefore justify not yourselves: He knows best who it is that guards against evil.
      (English - Yusuf Ali)

      via iQuran

  6. Also note that this is ONLY limited to the act of Masturbation. Any other related matter, such as watching pornographic images or movies, or watching the Awrah of others, is Haraam as per the Quran and Hadith.

    So, there is no excuse whatsoever for this.

    In order to avoid masturbation, one is advised to get married.

    The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “O young men, whoever among you can afford to marry, let him get married, and whoever cannot do that, then he should fast, for it will be a protection for him.” (Narrated by al- Bukhaari, al-Nikaah, 4677)

    Muhammad Waseem Editor

    • Well go ahead get married. But don't decide other peoples lives plz

    • as salamalaikum ,sir you are saying that to avoid masturbation we should married but i 'm doing college right now and there are many responsibilities over me .can there is another solution for this??I have tried many things to avoid masturbation but after 1 month i can't wait much more than that.please suggest me some better solution so that i can leave this sin.

      • There is no clear evidence that it is a sin. In my opinion there is no problem with doing it now and then to relieve your sexual tension. Allahu a'lam.

        Wael Editor

      • When I was in Saudi Arabia, I heard about Zawaj Almisyar. Even if I don't have the financial source, I could still get married and this is known as Zawaj Almisyar is where a man does an Islamic marriage contract with a wife, meeting the conditions of marriage, but the woman surrenders her rights to financial support and accommodations volunteer. This marriage fits the need of youth who don't have the financial meens for marriage and those who are about to fall in haram

        • This type of marriage is oppressive to women, who are often abandoned when they become pregnant. It is not from the sunnah. How can one ask a woman to surrender the rights that Islam gives her? Astaghfirullah.


          • She usually surrenders it under her free will

          • Well said!

          • I totally support this marriage type.

            You really don't understand it. This marriage is a normal Islamic marriage with the exception that the wife abandons several rights by their own free will, such as living together, financial support, and etc. meet the needs of young people whose resources are too limited and are about to fall into haram, then misyar is a better choice.

            As long as the marriage satisfies the condition of a normal nikkah and any other other shuroot stipulated by the parties, then there is no problem.

          • sameera I do understand it and all too often it ends up being a disaster for the women involved. The men are often just looking for easy sex. Sometimes the men are already married, and are only looking for a new sexual partner. This type of marriage allows them to satisfy their sexual desire without any of the normal obligations of a husband in Islam. When pregnancy results - which it inevitably does - the men often divorce the women, since they never had any intention of forming a proper family unit. This leaves the woman with the status of divorced with child, meaning it's very difficult for her to find a new husband.

            This is not what marriage is intended to be in Islam.


          • We all understand what we go through no a days, such as temptations and how to avoid them.
            We this marriage type to be contradicting the Islamic laws of marriage, and its an insulting to the quran.
            Since relationships and sex outside marriage is haram, it was made haram for a reason.
            So if relationships and sex are haram outside, dont just get married for the sake of it or it can have a negative impact.
            Based on the following verse "And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His bounty."24.33. This verse also clearly orders whoever does not have the financial means to marry to keep himself chaste and be patient. It doesn't mention anything about go do misyar, misfar, or any those marriages that people invent for the sake of fun

            Those people who promote this marriage, they just promote on grounds that its a valid marriage. well misyar is a valid marriage, but know one knows the consequence behind it.
            A valid marriage is not just a valid relationship between a man and a woman, it actually means responsibility, while at the same time you can do what ever that pleases the spouses. So marriage without responsibility like misyar is like your never existed.

            If you cant afford to get married, then dont just fast and be patient.

          • A very valid point. I would say that based off your opinions, you actually believe in women's rights, which is good and proper.

          • To be honest i just got married the way misyar like last month

  7. Man who comes up with this site's images LOL you have a knack for choosing the right images.

  8. Brother ihx33, Assalamualaikum,

    It is great that you managed to wait for 2 months without masturbating. Addictions are difficult to get away with, and you are doing a great job. Keep it up and have some more patience. In sha Allah, you'll find the Help of Allah, as He Says in Surah Ankabut, Aayah 69:

    As for those who strive hard in Us (Our Cause), We will surely guide them to Our Paths (i.e. Allah's Religion - Islamic Monotheism). And verily, Allah is with the Muhsinun (good doers)."

    And in Aayah 6:

    And whosoever strives, he strives only for himself. Verily, Allah is free of all wants from the 'Alamin (mankind, jinns, and all that exists).

    So, brother, better keep away from masturbation and seek Guidance of Allah through what is clear from the Umoor (matters).

    Muhammad Waseem Editor

  9. as-Salamu alaykum, to the brother who posted the question my heart goes out to you for your sincere and profound efforts to stay on the path designated for us by Allah (swt) and explained to us by His Messenger (pbuh). I have to points I would like to expound on that may offer some aid in understanding and therefore dealing with you particular problem. Before I do however I want to say that the response give by brother Muhammad Waseem above was accurate and appropriate under the circumstances you mentioned so I will not repeat what he has already said but rather I would like to relate to you something from experience.

    When I was 19 years old I was sent to prison for 10 years and lived there for 8 years. In prison I was exposed to real Muslims for the first time ("real" as in practicing day to day) and converted. In this environment for obvious reasons one could not have sex and only had options to either: a)restrain, b)masturbate, c) engage in absolutely haraam behavior which would deffinately send one to hellfire.

    So the issue of relieving sexual desire was constantly argued by all of the brothers in the community. And prison was no different in that there were women around (female guards and administration), dirty magazines, and "he-she's" (ie homosexuals dressing like women). Most brothers attempted restraint as homosexuality was ABSOLUTELY not tolerated in the Muslim community, so this was not an option. Other brothers used magazines or found girlfriends which was very dangerous as it was against the law, thus these aforementioned were not options for brothers living their deen.

    The majority however (90%) were stuck between absolute restraint and masturbation. So and this was a constant topic which was brought up to the volunteer scholars and Imaams that would visit, and the inmate Imaam (elected by our group). Everyone of them recommended the obvious answer which was to practice restraint and fast, however in light of the fact that many brothers were in there for LIFE, or for many many years "fasting" was not much of an option, and so they advised us that

    a) Prison was not a natural condition of mankind and thus being an exceptional condition only in the event of preventing haraam would masturbation be allowed, and

    b) Even to suppress sexual desire and prevent greater haraam it was still hated by Allah and should be avoided as much as possible, as constant masturbation can become addictive and rather than suppress the sex drive, it can increase the minds desire and imagining of sexual activity.

    The problem was essentially the same as yours, to tell brothers masturbation was absolutely haraam was to risk them partaking in other behaviors even more dangerous and even more hated by Allah. Therefore the Imaams, due to experience on a day to day basis with this specific issue explained that masturbation is only allowed in the event that you otherwise will fall into greater haraam.

    The reasoning on this is based on the Islaamic principle which scholars have explained as choosing the "lesser of two evils" when forced into a situation where it becomes unavoidable, HOWEVER as the brother stated above, while eating a dead animal is preferable to starving, it is still HATED BY ALLAH.

    It is unanimously agreed that masturbation is haraam, as it is considered an un-natural form of sexual expression, in spite of what modern psychologists say. Also the hadeeth has stated that if the body truly needs to relieve itself it will do so in a wet dream which is the bodies natural way of relieving the sexual pressure. Thus masturbation becomes un-necessary and in normal cases discouraged. At the same time we are human and if one is so "uptight" to the point where he/she feels they will go do something haraam only in that case can it be considered permissible as an alternative to falling into greater haraam. This however is dangerous as a long term solution as masturbation while suppressing the immediate desire for release, does nothing for the long term problem of which the urge exists: the desire to procreate.

    The last thing I would like to point out to you is that you situation regarding "not getting married until you graduate" is a cultural outlook which is un-Islaamic and is placing un-necessary stress on you, and may result in you falling into even greater haraam. Your words themselves are self evident that you forcing you body into an un-natural (prison like) state of abstinence which by your own testimony is extremely difficult. This is evident by the behaviors of the Muslims around you who do not have the same level of Taqwa and simply give in to temptation and start dating, having sex outside of marriage, etc.

    If your sexual desire is at this level today then imagine what it will be in two years, when you graduate, and even then you will possibly come up with another excuse ( income, job, career) as to why you are still not ready for marriage. This in itself is un-Islaamic, and even when looked upon with common sense illogical.

    These days the Shaytan has people so fixated on wealth, career and success that they would rather turn to haraam, (or as in your case semi-haraam) behavior than to simply submit to what Allah has ordained for them in the Qur'aan and Sunnah. The ruling on your situation is that you should get married, as this was the practice of the Prophet (pbuh) and has not changed in spite of social norms to the contrary. You behavior is arbitrary and not base in Islaam, thus while on one hand you are attempting to be a good Muslim, on the other you are defying the word of Allaah, by attempting to wait until some arbitrary date in the future which you have fixated in you mind.

    In the mean time you are suffering and have placed a greater burden upon yourself than Allaah has placed upon you, by making haraam what Allaah has made halaal, and wajeeb. Marriage is obligatory for one who can afford it, and by definition, one who can afford it is does not refer to a college graduate, or a person with a great job, or a person who has the ability to buy a $100,000 home with a mercedez in front, but rather one who has some type of gainful employment and finds a sister willing to accept him at his level of economic status.

    These days families and individuals are in fact following the culture of the West and un-Islaamic ideas implanted in their minds not by Allaah but by the Shaytan, forcing themselves and their children in to huge haraam, fornication, adultery, dating, and yes.... years of masturbation. Just to avoid what Allah has made obligatory, and natural.

    Therefore your problem is not so much your sex drive (which Allaah made in you) but your abnormal and excessive attempts to evade the purpose for which Allaah has made you... to have children. You should really reflect on your attitude towards marriage and ask yourself if you are doing what Allaah has ordained or if you are chasing an ideal foreign and therefore un-Islaamic, and therefore haraam in and of itself. If you spend the next three years masturbating it is not because Allaah has put an undue burden upon you but rather because you have forced yourself into a psychological corner which if you persist may lead to hellfire.

    A better solution is rather than force yourself to deny your reality, consider how you could get married sooner, discuss your options with the local Imaam, you parents and make du'a asking Allaah to guide you in this matter. Once you open yourself up to options and get over this artificial attitude of seeking the things of this world, then your psychological condition may not be so desperate as subconsciously you will not be telling yourself that you will be masturbating for the next three or four years and therefore it is ok. Unless you are in prison, (which you are not) its not ok, and in fact seeking to justify it by find a ruling that will make you feel better is in itself evidence that you know in your heart it is wrong, in light of the fact that you do have options: ie. marriage.

    Always remember that anything we hide from others is probably haraam, as our heart and conscience is our greatest guide. Allaahs Messenger is quoted as once saying " if you feel no shame then continue", and most certainly you would not tell your parents about this condition, therefore in your heart you know that the answer is not in the short term solution, but in the long term solution to which you are afraid to consider. May Allaah reward you for your intention and guide you in your efforts to seek his pleasure, and make you way easier for you!

    • Nice point raised regarding the wet dreams, never thought about it.

      Jazakallahu Khair

      Muhammad Waseem Editor

    • Aoa. The problem is nowadays times have changed. No father would give his daughters hand to u if u do not have a good job or a decent salary. In the past days jobs were simple like wood cutting selling milk etc but now people run after wealth and brilliant careers. There's nothing v can do about it. Another thing is that girls are not submissive like they were in the past. They want to live a rich and merry life. So u can't marry without having a good job and a full wallet. This is someone's life brother. Marriage is not only about sex. U can't do that 24/7 after marriage. Marriage is about understanding respect for each other and mutualism. So plz dear brother don't make him guilty . In shah Allah he will get married but when he is well settled and can support his wife with his own resources - not relying on his parents or his father in law. I appreciate ur stance but differ. Allah does not want to ruin someone's life . Allah would hate it if someone's marriage didn't go well and broke.

  10. i can understand what u feel because i faced the same situation. i tried to stop myself because from someone i heard masturbation is haraam it did same thing: frustration, anger, not feeling happy etc etc, but thn i realized i was trying too hard to stop myself from it so one day i locked myself in my room and started to think why i can't become normal and happy after quitting masturbation and also i thought islam makes life easy so why all this is happening? and after hours of thinking (i was reciting Darood the whole time because it makes things easy)i reached to conclusion that quitting masturbation is not so difficult because before i started doing it i was fine infact very happy and guilt free,so if i lived very happily for like 17 years of my life without masturbation (i was 17 when masturbated for first time) y can't i be happy now? satisfaction, happiness, feeling relaxed does not come from masturbation it actually comes from sabr.. when dont do it for some months u actually dont want to do it at all because the thought comes to your mind that all the struggles of months will be useless for what?? for some stupid sin!!!! think about all the Prophets, all the Sahaba they all faced so much difficulties. our discomfort is nothing as compared to their, we are full of sins why cant we stop doing some. i m 22 now and i haven't masturbated for 3 years. if i can do it (my sex drive was soooooooooo uncontrolled) thn u can most certainly do it. it's the start thatz y its hard but it will become easy and so much peaceful, try to find peace within yourself and strengthen your belief that u can do it. i will pray for u!!

  11. Masha'allah
    I am from India and I also do these unholy acts but thanks to you brothers I've decided to not to do this ever ever again .I beg forgiveness from allah(swt) and promise to be pure from now onwards
    Thanks brothers!

  12. Can I be forgived?

    • Yes, if you repent sincerely.

      "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah . Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who isthe Forgiving, the Merciful." (Quran 39:53)

    • Of course you can be forgiven! Allah (SWT) created us to do mistakes, and if we didn't do mistakes he would erase us and bring another race. Because if we do not do mistakes we do not repent, and Allah (SWT) loves those who repent. Don't ever be despaired in the mercy of Allah. If a human can forgive another human for a huuuuuuge wrong thing, what makes Allah any less. He loves you so much. Understand that, He loves you so much. Allah is beyond the mercy and love and forgiveness our brains can fathom. So can you be forgiven? Yes with no doubt.

  13. May Allah bless you all !!!
    you are all doing a well job...
    Thanks Alot
    specially Amir al kaatib And Mohammad Wasib bhai...
    and the one who arisses the Question!!!
    once again Thanks alot...

  14. evidence watch this 3 min vid it tells you why masturbbation is a sin and the cure.

  15. Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullahi ta'ala wabarkatuhu.
    Sir am from Nigeria and also found my self in d habit of masturbation am 25 now. Pls help me with du'a so i can stop it and Insha Allah am prepar 2 get married in d next 8monts.
    Jazakumullahu khairan

  16. I don't see how lifelong celibacy and sexual neutrality is achievable or healthy. At some point, an individual will masturbate -- whether at age 20, 30 or 40.

    Are you aware there are actually asexual people in the west, who have no need for sex or masturbation, one should not speak on behalf of others.

    • Exactly. I am a celibate man and still a virgin in my age of 40, I have never had a relationship and I will never get married because I have some problems regarding sexuality so instead I have had no choice but to accept living my entire life alone. So does this mean that I am never allowed to have a sexual outlet by masturbating?

      While all the other muslim men are enjoying sex by getting married, how is it fair that I should be denied a sexual outlet just because I am unable to ever be in a relationship? Its bad enough that I have already been denied and deprived of ever finding love because of my sexuality which I prefer not to discuss here, but on top of that injustice am I also expected to never masturbate during my entire lifetime? How can God be so unfair, why should people who are blessed enough to get married have even more privalages when people like me are deprived even further?

      • Asalaamu alaikum fellow muslim...the Qur'an teaches us in the story of the cave, ask Allah for our OWN bounty. True maybe other muslims have been blessed with spouses children or whatever u feel u have been deprived of, however, Allah SWT says he raised us in ranks some above others to test us. So worry not about what u DONT have, rather focus on the bounties He has bestowed on you and make dua for sabr to acknowledge what your blessings are. Truly you have been blessed and Allah SWT hasnt forgotten any ONE of his followers.

      • I'm sorry to hear this. God is not unfair in such a way. He is the most merciful. And he created you this way so there must be a way for you to have joy in this life. It's true that we shouldn't be attached to the dunya but it shouldn't be your personal hell either. You're in my duas brother. InshAllah you find love and inshAllah you will find joy and sexual harmony with a suitable partner.

      • Salaams, brother. Why don't you marry a Muslimah of your own type who is going through what you are going through. She will be understanding about what you are able to offer her. And she will shield you from Jahannam. And you can shield her. That is an outlet albeit not an ideal choice for you. But it will mean not burning forever. You were created in a special way. Allah Almighty made you and 2% of the human race that way. That is; Allah Ta'alla has given you a test ... Your personal Jihad/struggle. He is testing you my brother. Insha Allah you will not fail. Allah Almighty mentioned three types of unforgivable sins. Shirk - giving Allah Ta'alla partner's. Fornication - illegal sexual intercourse. Murder - wrongful killing. If masterbating stops you from committing Zina, then I suggest it. I'm 38, abused, overweight and single. What do I do? Be a good Muslim, read your salaah and don't give in to urges. Sex with a female may be less than ideal but at least you have that choice. Who do I choose. You could even become a father. Think about it.

  17. Salaams sister,

    A recent study done concluded that females who watch porn regularly tend to become more promiscuous(have many sex partners) and men become hopeless in bed.

    Following are practical tips to quit porn & masturbation addiction

    Displacement Activities

    •Work out

    •Do yoga or stretching.

    •Groom yourself (shower, trim fingernails,, floss, brush teeth, use tongue scraper, wash your clothes, etc.).

    •Get squeeze balls for your hands (squeeze the squeeze ball and not your genitals).

    •Go for a walk.

    •Read a book instead of surfing the web.

    •Hang out with people.

    •Be an active member of your nearby mosque (or Islamic Youth clubs).

    •Clean the house/apartment/room.

    •Fix something around the house.

    •Start a chore that you have been putting off.

    •learn something new (a language, a musical instrument, cooking, solve a Rubik's cube etc).

    Avoidance Techniques

    •Delete your porn folder, delete your porn links.

    •Install a porn blocker (no more looking at sexy pics).

    •No fantasy, period. Touch yourself only when cleaning your body or urinating (see squeeze ball above).

    •Stay in public places.

    •Stay off the computer or phone except for a dedicated task like banking, work, school work, email, texting, checking nofap, checking the news, etc. and then log out.

    •If you are surging stay off the computer or phone completely.

    •Do not mindlessly surf the web because you will eventually click on a trigger.

    •Go to bed only when you are about to sleep.

    •Get out of bed immediately after waking.

    Mental Motivation

    •Remember why you are doing this.

    •Acquiring that strong sense of self-pride and being able to look people in the eye.

    •There will never be a day when masturbation or porn will leave you happy and fulfilled.

    •Remember how shitty you feel right after you have given in to urges..

    •Remember that as your pleasure centres rewire you will start enjoying the experiences of your life more vividly.

    •If you masturbate then you are training yourself to be mediocre.

    •If you masturbate frequently, then prepare to lose your womanliness after marriage.

    •When you masturbate then your sex life is watching other people have sex. This trains your brain to be a beta female.

    •If you masturbate you will numb yourself to your life and you will never have a hope of completing yourself to find a partner to marry.

    •A fraction of the women & men in porn are leading abused lives. You don 't want to contribute to the harm of another person.

    •Porn and masturbate makes you look at men in the wrong ways. You don't want to be that girl.

    •People can sense you are a beta female when you masturbate . They know.

    •When you don't masturbate you will become more alpha. Alpha doesn't mean aggressive douchebag, I know Christian celibate nuns and lay meditators who are very alpha and very good people at the same time..

    •Remember porn & masturbation is bad for sexual health,that if you are not desensitised you will eventually become & will never enjoy sex after marriage

    •Remember that if you are desensitised then quitting porn & masturbation ill cure it (if there are no underlying medical issues).

    •You will have the freedom of not worrying about your browser history.

    •You will have the freedom of not having that second, hidden, fappy personality.

    •You will have a more sensitive and normal genital response

    Improve Your Commitment

    •Acknowledge to yourself that you have a problem, an addiction even.

    •Make a commitment to stop porn & masturbation today.

    •if you have an accountability partner, call or text them when you are surging.

    •Mark out your porn & masturbation days on a calendar ('x' out each day with a coloured marker, if you relapse then 'x' out each subsequent day of your new streak using a different coloured marker). It doesn't have to be paper, I use my iPad calendar for example.

    •... but remember that every day is Day 1 no matter how high your counter is.

    •"Moderate porn & masturbation " does not work, cold turkey is the best way to go.

    •Be very regular and punctual with your Salat(prayers),do lots of Istighfar and duas.

    •Identify your triggers (stress, anxiety, boredom, some kind of perceived failure) and realize that a fap session will not help.

    Tricks of Last Resort

    •Cold showers.

    •For some, cold showers are too traumatic. If so, then wash your unit with a cold face cloth until the urge passes. Some have suggested that washing your face in cold water may also work.

    •Hard mode(completely stopping porn & masturbation & even fantasy)is the best way to heal your brain quickly from this disease of PMO addiction.

    Live for purpose, not pleasure.


    •Fall down. Get up.

    •Fall down. Get up.

    •Fall down. Get up.

    •Fall down. Get up.

    •Fall down. Get up. Stay up

    • You mentioned a recent study at the beginning of your comment. Could you specify the source? It will be helpful.

      Mohammed Waseem Editor

    • Lool. You sound like you are speaking from experience..ha!

    • You have provided a great answer and you have surpassed with your solutions. I just want to add. I am a big sinner and I am trying to get up myself. Keep trying brothers and sisters. Below is somethinf I read and I am going to try harder, wanted to share with others.

      Many youngsters are addicted to masturbation. Another problem prevailing in our society...

      Remember 8 F's:
      1. Fear the consequences in both worlds (its destruction to the body, mind and soul)
      2. Friends always have a positive or negative impacts...choose them wisely.
      3. Films that arouse desires should not be watched at all.
      4. Feel the need to ask help and don't shy away from it.
      5. Fast regularly to cut down carnal desires.
      6. Follow the Sunnah life.
      7. Free your evil thoughts by engaging Dhikr, Fikr and Miraqabah (meditation)
      8. Frequent your visitation to mosques and gatherings of knowledge.

      We shouldn't be embarrassed from informing and educating our youngsters about this.

  18. As Salaam Alaikum
    Hi Brothers and Sisters i have a problem that problem is masturbate. Everytime i get in my mind that go in my bedroom and start to masturbate and night i see a beautiful girl she come in why bed and she force me... I need someone to advice me in that reason help me!
    I was born in 3.1.1997 may Allah reward any one who ready to advice me "Aameen."

    • Ssentongo, we do not need your birthdate. We have published many posts on masturbation and how to curtail and control it. Please search our archives.

      Wael Editor

  19. Advice me, coz i m far from my wife for 7 month now. So i m must be ready for jahannam or it sound onother umin must go jannah accoding in the qruan

    • Assalamu alaikum

      I am 16 & I can't stay away from masturbating after 1-2 weeks I can't resist and masturbate please help I know that we should marry but I'm only 16 for me marriages is still a long way and I can't fast. I usually fast in Ramadan but after Ramadan I can't pls tell me what can i do

  20. I am a 30-year old man this year, and live in a non-muslim developed Southeast Asian city. I have a decent job and tertiary education. Growing up, my parents are not 'strict' in the sense of beating me but looking back at my childhood, I believe that I have been mollycoddled far too much as a child. As I entered the college age, I realised that I was having fewer friends, which I now suspect is because most people have the impression that I am studious and do not like going out. It did not help that I looked nerdy; not that I am asking for sympathy. Neither of these is true. I would have loved to have many friends and spent all my weekends out in town instead of, as it turns out, staying at home or going out with my parents.

    Over the years, people who I could call friends have dwindled to a number which really has no more significance. I am not married, and have never had a girlfriend.

    To make things worse, at this age of 30, some people ask me whether I am 40 plus and how many kids do I have, since apparently to society, my face looks way older than my age . Younger women in their 20s think I am some father of 5 and there goes my chances of finding a younger spouse. I am very tempted to go for plastic surgery but I don't want to risk doing something haram. In any case, thanks to the quiet genetics from my father, I doubt I will ever have the courage to ask a girl out or for marriage.

    How are all these relevant to masturbation?

    I want to get married, I have a decent job, I will definitely not a wife-beater, abuse her or commit adultery if I get married. I admit that I may look older than my age based on society's perceptions, but I am not fat or have other physical defects on my physical body. I am not the most pious person, but I pray 5 times a day and go to the mosque for congregational prayers when possible. The worst sin I have commited is perhaps watching pornography. I have never been to clubs, take drugs or have random sexual encounters. I am willing and have the means to get married. In fact, at this point, I will willingly give up everything I have; my job, degree, money for a spouse. What else does a woman want? Change my looks? Please ask Allah for that, it is out of my hands.

    Some time ago, a relative of mine showed my photo to an unmarried girl, upon seeing my photo, she refused anything further despite having never met me or know more about me.

    So, please, please do NOT quote that phrase about how masturbation is prohibited and one should strive to get married to overcome one's sexual needs. And how is that part about 'slave women' relevant today? Can any of you sell me a slave woman? I'll buy her immediately. Otherwise, please stop quoting that. I have been masturbating on average weekly since puberty.

    Why is Allah making things so difficult for me? I am afraid that I may not be able to be steadfast much longer. Prostitution is always a tempting option; wouldn't this be legal since I am stuck between a rock and a hard place? Obviously I am typing this here as I have no suitable person to talk to on this Saturday afternoon. Don't ask me to go to an imam at my local mosque. He won't have a girl for me to marry. In fact, most people just like to ask 'Why are you not married' for a good laugh. It is a very cruel thing to ask.

    I think, I am absolved from any blame if I do decide to go against what Islam may have ordained. Girls in society should shoulder my blame since they reject me based on my looks. I did not ask for an older look and I cannot change that. I wish I could buy slave women, but there are none. Don't ask me to migrate to a Muslim country, as you should know this is impossible. I even need a visa which is hard to get just to go to Saudi, the land of Islam. Married men do not want to help, but keep sprouting about how it is important to wait, fast and be patient when they know themselves it really is impossible.

    All of you reading this will probably say the same thing, and shoulder the blame too. Society has failed me, and none of the blame of sins are mine.

    • Assalaamualaikam

      I can understand that you are frustrated and struggling, but remember that thousands of other people in the world are also struggling as well - we all have our own trials in this life. It is worth considering that there are different view points regarding masturbation - some scholars say it is haram, but others hold the view that it can be permissible. Read the opinions and explanations before deciding your own view on the matter.

      But we all must accept the responsibility for our own sins. We have free will and are accountable for our own actions. Trying to put the blame on to others will not absolve us of the responsibility, and instead can make it harder for us to make changes in our own lives to move away from those actions.

      Midnightmoon editor

  21. Found this.
    It answers the part you said about not being able to wed.

    "Masturbation is only allowed in the very rare situation where:
    if the person did not do this, they genuinely fear that they would fall into actual zina (i.e. unlawful sexual intercourse), because of their uncontrollable desire, and
    they are unable to marry, and
    have taken all reasonable means to lessen their passion (such as fasting, lowering their gaze, avoiding meat and dairy products, avoidng those things that stir their desires, such as bad company, spending unnecessary time outdoors, especially in public places such as shopping malls where there is fitna, avoiding watching tv and surfing the internet, etc).

    In such cases, it is not haram because of the principle that, "If there are only two options, but harmful, then one takes the lesser of the two harms to avoid the greater one."

    However, when there are third options, it remains impermissible to take the lesser harm, such as masturbation."

    Hope it helps
    Kepp making Duaa'

  22. OP: I'm 20 years old and have a very high sex drive. Living in NY attending college everywhere I go there are people who dressed but naked. I pray 5 times a day with sunnah and attend the Masjid at least 4 times a day. I won't be able to get married for at least 4 years and by the grace of Allah(SWT) I'm still a virgin.

    I live in US too and don't see people who are dressed but naked.

    If you were living in Saudi arabia, you will be doing the same. You will just be imagining what the woman looks like under the burqa.

    Porn is very popular in most Muslim majority countries. In countries like Pakistan, Afghanistan even older women even get groped in buses and markets. Even boys get raped in many Muslim countries. Please don't blame others for your actions.

    • Dude,fasting really works,if are imbued in Islamic faith,then how can you underestimate the words of our beloved prophet Muhammad pbuh.

  23. Assalamou alaykoum ,
    Am 16yrs old either,and I have this problem of masturbation,anytime when am alone I thinking of how to satisfied myself,and when I ddn't watch porn and released I will never feel happy,and anytime when I ddn't do it I will be worrying and not feeling better,I can't even rest and sleep unless I did it.When I heard a brother says that it's haram I tried to stop it but I couldn't..I pray 5times a day and do my morning and afternoon azkhar,and give sadqah nd every permisible things that u will get reward in islam,I tried my best to be fasting on monday and thursday as usual,but even when am done when I came to sleep my desires will start again unless I watch porn and seduced myself,so I want ur advice how could I do to avoid this and am not up to the age of marrying somebody else I have about 8yrs or 9yrs left.......please brothers and sisters how could you help me to stop this my habit

  24. I am a girl ! And I am facing this issue. Ive tried praying ive tried everything but I can't control what goes through my mind! I have no intentions to have sex before marrige that is out of the question but I do feel like I have a really high sex drive and masturbation would really help keep me away from such sins... I don't know if it's wrong or right but it is really hard to control... Everyone's body functions differently... How can you control yourself when your body comes to a point where you feel almost physically uncomfortable ! Ive even watched lectures on why masturbation is forbidden but nothing seems to be helping... Maybe it's my hormones I don't know what to do... How can something that will stop you from sinning be a sin , why didn't we just develop a sex drive after marrige instead of our teens *sigh*

    • The first thing in ur mind should be the fear of allah....whenever thought of masturbations come to ur mind ..think of the blazing hell fire...see urself in dere ...nd its jst a matter of 5 minutes everyday...if u take it as a daily war against shaytan...u can dodge that 5 min battle and will win...then the whole day u'll b reloeved and a sense of self confidence and piousness will make u feel better..Dont watch porn....the biggest culprit is porn....if u dont watch porn..90% problem solved....may allah help us in our war against the shaytaan....

      • Dear sibling, it is wrong to fear Allah (SWT). We should love Him with all we've got, love overruns the power of fear. We should fear his punishment, not him. There is nothing frightening about Allah (SWT). If people were taught to love Allah (SWT) before anything, many of our problems would be solved. And on the matter of masturbation, it's disagreed upon, there is no one say if it's haram or not, so try to avoid making it a fact that it's haram. All love.

    • OP: Maybe it's my hormones I don't know what to do... How can something that will stop you from sinning be a sin , why didn't we just develop a sex drive after marrige instead of our teens *sigh*

      Mind plays an important role in sexual desire. Sexual desires and feelings come with puberty. Puberty is a sign that you are ready to procreate.

      What do you mean I have a high sex drive?

    • Why? Because that is the test. For me that is not a "hormone issue".. For me it a "Lust"..
      How to turn it off? Quran explain everything... Quran didnt explain "How to control your sex desire".. because it too personal..
      But insyallah ,Lust maybe cannot turn it off but hope u can 'hybernate' it for certain period of time..
      Hormone: do sport like running or swimming.
      And u need to get close to more senior good people..
      Dont fulfill your lust.. It can lead u to very bad future. U can understand what i mean right?

    • Keep it up dear... You are doing a good job avoiding having sex before your marriage.

  25. The Holy Quran says “And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts from illegal sexual acts). Except from their wives or the (women slaves) whom their right hands possess for (then) they are not blameworthy.
    Now let's take this verse and work in reverse. The verse states that any man who has sex in two circumstances:
    - with his wives
    - or with his female slaves

    is not blameworthy. The use of the word "except" tells us these are exceptions to a rule, the rule being to guard our chastity. Masturbation is not one of the exceptions made and is therefore Quranically forbidden.

    Now I already established, based on a Quranic injunction (read: order from Allah), that masturbation is generally 7aram. But bro, I absolutely understand your struggle. Trust me man, this thread was like reading about myself. I came to this thread right after I did it myself, out of shame. After seeing your question, I thought I could begin making things better by helping out a brother.
    In our fitna filled world, the struggle is really real. It's everywhere. Sex is thrown in our face and made out to seem harmless. We need to be on guard. With that in mind, there are also two circumstances I've seen so far in which scholars permit masturbation:
    - need, which could be medical need (naturally), or if it gets to a point where you can't even sit with people in a group without suffering and you're in actual pain. You must be sincere with yourself in judging when this is - if you're not, Allah certainly won't be fooled.
    - or fear of temptation. Since we do live in a fitna filled society and it's not always easy to marry, if you find yourself on the verge of committing fornication or worse, adultery (Allah protect us), then masturbation, merely as the lesser of two evils, is permitted by some scholars.

    Millions of Muslim teenagers around the world have tried in vain to find loopholes that allow sex in the Quran. It's foolproof mate, trust me, I've tried myself I advise you to continue reading into this issue, because my knowledge is certainly limited. I also, more strongly, advise you to marry as soon as possible; I'm sure that'll deal wth the problem. In the meantime, stay strong. Holding on will make you a better man, and Allah will reward you more than you can imagine. If you slip up (and don't ever, if you can avoid it in sha Allah), repent and sincerely make an intention never to do it again. We're all in this together and in sha Allah, we will make it out with our manhood AND chastity intact. All the best broski.

    • I disagree with much of what is written in your post. As you said, the Quran states, "“And those who guard their chastity..." to the end. From this you somehow derive that masturbation is haram. What you fail to understand is that chastity by definition refers to illegal or improper sexual intercourse. Touching oneself, therefore, cannot violate one's chastity.

      Secondly, you have interpreted "aw ma malakat aymanuhum" as referring to "female slaves". I strongly challenge this interpretation. You must realize that sexual slavery is a huge, huge abuse of power and is a global problem, even today. It is considered a crime. If you are going to make such an abominable institution allowable, you had better have more than an interpretation of a Quran text that says nothing explicit about slavery.

      You're right, however, that fitna is everywhere, and that we must be on our guard regarding what sorts of images and ideas we allow into our minds and hearts. In this age of the internet and multimedia, we have to be extra careful in order to protect ourselves from falling into haram.

      Wael Editor

  26. Please brother try and stay happy. Try gardening for example. By the Grace of ALLAH you will get normal and pray for us also.

  27. Every word you wrote is totally understandable and you deserve not to be judged on this matter.
    Mastrubating is something you find difficult to resist once a thought of it has invaded your mind. This question deserves a serious answer and I want to contribute something in my knowledge for this regard.
    You feel guilty when you masturbate, don't you?
    I know this cz I have been doing it for a past month, too.
    And there is a hadith that if you don't know if a certain thing is halal or haram, you judge it by the feeling you have after doing that certain act. If you don't feel good assume its haram.

    • Ali Tahir: You feel guilty when you masturbate, don't you?
      I know this cz I have been doing it for a past month, too.
      And there is a hadith that if you don't know if a certain thing is halal or haram, you judge it by the feeling you have after doing that certain act. If you don't feel good assume its haram.

      One feels guilty because there is lot of misinformation out there about negative effects of masturbation. Both sex and masturbation lead to ejaculation, but no one says sex can make you blind

  28. I understand you brother. But always be ensured that khayr comes only after struggle, and Allah doesn't do anything for you but khayr. Success in life ain't easy brother. But be reminded that after each wrong deed you do you feel guilty. But this guiltiness won't be there before doing the particular deed (wrong deed). You are noted by Allah and He wants you to become a star or hero in life (in the sense of deen). Remember brother struggles are only for your khayr and life is just a bridge that must be crossed and its then real life begins. Be accompanied by swalath, isthigfar and meditation. Always be remembered He is the one who bought you here and never doubt that He is going to bring harm to you. Nevertheless he loves you 75 times more than your mom loves you .....

  29. There are two aspects that goes against masturbation - 1. It will be preceded most likely with watching lots of porn material that will waste lots of your time. You will agree that watching porn is against the command that asks to lower your gaze. 2. Islam puts a lots of emphasis on neeyat - masturbating doesn't involve a real woman but think about it, you are either watching a non mehram or imagining about one in their most explicit poses.
    Both the points will lead you to the conclusion that though there is no explicit mention of prohibition against masturbation, it is an act that would boundary on zina besides keeping you away from either ibadat of Allah or from any fruit ful activity or acquiring any useful knowledge.

  30. I think it is haram becuz zina is including having lustful thoughts so in order to masturbate ud also need a turn on which can go against the Islamic rules

    • Alahamdulillah praise be to Allah alone the cherishor and sustainer of worlds. That's why in Islam early marriages say after getting puberty are allowed to escape from these problems . But today (nouzubila) these has become a taboo like thing in society. The fact is that there is no clear statement prohibiting masturbation but it should not be practised for entertainment . the reason should be for relieving ourselves from sexual thoughts. This is my thoughts and if this turns out to be wrong then please don't blame me in the judgement hour in the court of Allah

  31. Oh my dear brother,
    Yes it's very hard to save eeman now a days you can say that it's the hardest job to save eeman especially when you are young and not married yet or you married and not living with your wife. Devil always in try to deprive you from eeman,
    But if you will spend time in the way of Allah Than you can save your eeman it's the only way to save eeman I ever find yet, you said about fasting it helps when we are in fasting when we leave sexual desires more increases I also have experienced it.
    You can also talk with me dear brother we will discuss it in Sha Allah
    Allah may protect your eeman

  32. My condition was same as you. I was like addicted to it for more than 2 years since I accidentally discovered it. I tried many times stopping it but took me 3-4 attempts to finally stop it. I considered it as fighting my inner Satan every time I felt alone or in any other situation which provoked me to do so again... But after a difficult 1 month I said to myself that I've come so far with 1 month I should continue this without losing my fight against Satan and I continued this till date.. Its been more than 1 year and now I've gained control over my desires.

  33. Brother

    You buy bramhi Vati (DABUR) with gold.
    For good sleep and memory . Never do Masturbation that is haram if u r doing than do with oil. If u doing Mastrubation than u r damaging your penish and mind . go and research how many people crying done masterbute in teenage many problems will come after young age . so brother take tasbih and chat Allah's name and do exercise regularly.

  34. Assalamualikum fellow brother,

    I have read many questions like these, and to be honest, I'm just 15. I'm at an age where all this is kind of new and it runs faster than anything in my mind.
    I also know the feeling when we feel left out and all other Muslim brothers are masterbating and are having girlfriends, knowing that it's not good for them according to Islam and socially.
    However, I don't have any Direct evidence to prove Masterbation prohibited in Islam, but my own thinking ; a thought that convinced me to the fact that it's not allowed.
    See, when a person masterbates, sperm is what comes out, isn't it. Now what is Sperm? It is a half of ur child, or an exactly half part of ur child. For a person to be born, he needs both - an egg cell and a sperm cell - and if one isn't there, or it's wasted, the child is wasted aswell, or in other words killed. So if u look at it, u basically are killing ur own children and killing or murdering someone IS HARAM! So you have one aspect haram in this act, so I suppose it makes the whole act haram.
    I hope u understand what I mean and think carefully towards it, and InshAllah we both will get over it one day.

    Take care brother,

  35. I've been away from Porn and Masterbation for quite some time now. I've tried at least 3-4 times before this. But then I realized that I never seeked help from Allah.
    I then prayed to Allah everyday to help me not go back, meditated twice a day, kept my free time occupied with charity.
    It's been quite long since my last time. I do feel the strong urge, but it has become very easy to control now, Shukr Alhamdulillah.
    I suggest anyone who wants to do this to try this method. The Profet (PBUH) did say to ask Allah for help if you fail to restrain yourself from a repeating sin.

  36. Assalamo Alaikum.
    I can understand what you're going through because I've been through somewhat same situation. I first masturbated when I was 9 years old. I am very ashamed of that. I didn't really know about the idea why did that happen to me. Once I told my mom about this and she politely told me that Allah doesn't like this. But I was so addicted to this (astaghfirullah) that I kept on doing that for like 10 years. People generally know me as a good person, a girl who is way too descent etc. I never knew why did this all happen. Then, at the age of 17 probably, I felt quite sexually pleasured doing that. Growing up in a muslim country which is not actually the case, i had pious friends so i kinda never knew about sex and all until I entered medical school, which is weird because people of my age knew everything. So I kinda did that thing unknowingly. Then one day, I was going through my Facebook and one Islamic page posted an article about what masturbation really is. I read that. I cried. I came to know what was I doing and how haram it is. Those days, shaytaan tried to pull me off the track so hard when I promised not to do that. I started getting wet dreams and desires when I watched the tv or sat idol. I was so frustrated. I prayed and prayed and did astaghfar. Wallahi I cannot tell you how difficult was it to get away from an addiction I had for 10 damn years. But trust me, I got away with that. I'm so fine now Alhumdolilah. I'm about to graduate medical school and will be a doctor soon IA. I'm so glad that things got changed. I'd suggest you to try your best. Shaytaan will distract you but you keep on doing what's right. I'm also not sure about my marriage but I dont really care because Allah has helped me get through this haram problem. I pray for the person who wrote that article otherwise my life would've been awful. I'm sure Allah must have forgiven me because I've been doing astaghfar for so many times and still doing that for what I did but that was purely unintentional. I'm 21 and I've not done this awful thing for like 3 years Alhumdolilah.
    Try your level best to refrain. It's difficult but not impossible. I swear. Just pray to Allah to help you get through this problem.
    JazakAllah. May Allah help you to get through your problems. Ameen.

  37. I strongly suggest you do not focus on comments saying masturbation is halal, because it's not. Many people come on to this website looking for someone to say its permissible. Even if a thousand scholars, who dedicate their life to Islam, say its Haram, but one opinion from another Muslim says its halal, people choose the answer they want to hear.

    I strongly advise to just try not to do it, Allah is watching you and on the day of judgment, ever action is accountable. Please, do not commit this. Doing it once only makes it harder to stop the next temptation. I found this video extremely amazing and solved my problem Alhamdulillah!

  38. People are confused, those who say it's haram, masturbate too because it's a natural urge, if they don't they are most probably lying or have a mental issue. I personally feel They are trying to translate hadiths and Ayas their own way to prove old myths (like loss of eye sight, weak bone structure & other unscientific non-sense); since the myths scared people but didn't stop them from masturbating. Just beat it when you feel like it, Wash up and have a normal life so you can focus on work, studies etc.
    get out of this stupid discussion people.

  39. Assalamu alyekum wrwb, someone please advice me what to do??
    basically while fasting I masturbated
    (I couldn't control my desires) and after that I had some food thinking that my fast is already broken by masturbating.
    I know I have done grave sin
    I was checking how can i pay for my mistake
    I came across this ---

    Kaffarah is to be paid in circumstances where a fast is invalid or intentionally broken. A payment is then required for the broken fast along with the requirement to make up for that fast at a later stage (asap). If this is not possible, they are required to feed 60 poor people per each fast missed or broken at the rate of £5 per person (£5 x 60).

    Kaffarah for flagrantly breaking a fast of Ramadhan is to fast 60 consecutive days – sixty days, one after the other, without missing any day in between.

    Now I'm stuck here I don't know what to do ..because physically I'm unable to fast for 60 days continuously and I can't afford to pay £300 to feed the poor people. I don't know what to do

    Is there any other way I can pay for this ?? Or is there anything else I can do ??
    Please advice me As soon as possible

    Jazakum'Allahu Khair

    Please remember this sinner in your Duas

    • The 60 day kaffarah is for intercourse with your wife while fasting. Breaking a fast by masturbation only requires a 1-for-1 makeup day, according to what I read recently. Allah a'lam.

      Wael Editor

  40. Assalam..

    Im personally think, islam have a certain rule to follow. But it will not harder like doing advance mathematic or complex equation for searcihing the answer.
    Like everybody in muslim clearly understood, Not fasting in Ramadhan is clearly HARAM, not praying or killing other human kind is completely a big sins.
    For me, Allah may leave "something"(like masturbation) to become a secretly for each human/muslim to decide which is better for him/her. Just between Allah and that person.To test his/her desire - we not be created like angels, we have our own desire, that secretly hidden and coming in our heart.

    Like fasting,praying,killing, we will be a very bad muslim if not fasting or killing other person. BUT clearly, we are giving permission to kill other when in situation to protect our family when the killer is coming with gun in hand. (cannot just simply shoot him,but must defend and fight until there is no other way to stop except killing) -more example: war,killing snake in our house etc. -TERM & CONDITION APPLY

    And Allah give someone to have drink or take food in Ramadhan while in desperate situation. (Not just simply go to kitchen and cook some meal when in hungry at 11am, but must fight with ourself first until there is no other way to stop the pain itself) - we can leave it,but it must be repay later after ramadhan -TERM & CONDITION APPLY

    Same situation with masturbation, there is no clear evidence mention in quran or hadith. Of course, islam is not a subject like math which can apply formula for getting A+ in exam. Islam is a religion, between SINGLE human directly to the SINGLE Creator.
    # Very bad when someone watching porn/naked poster and masturbate repeatly in a single week just for having fun! - Haram, clearly!
    # It is very very Nice when someone thinking to masturbate after looking naked girl BUT he fight his own desire and not to do so! (fasting,praying) Perfect!
    # BUT when coming the situation like: feeling very bad and heavily desperate in sex, thinking to rape,kidnapping a girl,asking to try his virgin girlfriend,going out for prostitute,looking for sex toy or anything THAT WILL MAKE YOU IN MORE Very far away bad from here. - This situation and the test begin. . . .
    Like a traffic light, u can stop at red or simply go through and collect your summon ticket later/accident. Or u choose to STOP even u are in hurry and will be late at the office.
    You can go GREEN LIGHT (masturbate) when the above point is coming, but while doing it,

    PLEASE be a negative thinker :-
    -what ur doing now is really wrong,and u still doing it because u are still weak in inside (how about if someone saw u now/record what u are doing? Its bad right?....) -that is how Allah and million of angels watching u. LIVE STREAM!
    -repent it,
    -not to repeat it,
    -repay it with whatever a good thing that costing u with a lot of money(charity.. Etc.)
    -Avoid whatever thing that cause u do a "previous masturbate" : perfume,food,medicine,some friend,place or WHATEVER IT IS.
    -Slowly leave that habit, from 1 time a month to 1 time every 3 month, and insyallah u will arrive the top level make you think urself,: human dont even need a repeated sex in life/change sex partner for "different feeling"...
    And i'm only is wrong, NOT the world or God creation, WHY?? Because i am never married, but how can i know how to use my sex part? And how can i masturbate like a pro? 😉
    #That is my actual single point, every bad thing we do is coming from ourselve. Maybe we not doing today or last week, but thing back.. What you're doing in previous year or 5-6 years ago? What is that , make u really expose to sex like radiation go through your skin and your red blood cell? W.h.a.t is that..? Naughty haa... 😀

    #Do you ever read story about Adam & Eve...? They have seen a God, they living in highest paradise.but they still want to risk everything. This is the beautiful of islam. We live in circular motion(kaabah). Nobody is perfect. Even the first human created is doing mistake.

    Maybe someone will not agree with me. My email: ****
    Love you all. Hepy Ramadhan and Eid

  41. I just wanted to share this email I had received sometime back.

    Sh.Yasir Qadhi's answer - Whats your opinion about masturbation?


    Can you clarify your position on masturbation? Is it limited to single people or those who are married?

    I want to be clear here, my position on masturbation is exactly the same as Imam Ash-Shawkani and many of the scholars before and after him. Their stance was: there is nothing in our Shari’ah which prohibits masturbation. When I say it’s permissible, I’m not saying one should be proud and boastful about it, rather it’s when one who needs it he can use it.

    In fact the narration of Ibn ‘Abbas seems to be the single most proof that masturba- tion is not haraam. When the young man came to him and said I play with myself until I ejaculate, Ibn ‘Abbas didn’t say; “La hawla wala quwwata illah billah.” He didn’t say’ “Astagh-firullah" He didnt say; "How could you?" or "Haram, shirk,kufr!" All he said was: "What you are doing is better than zina, but if you were to marry a slave girl it would be better for you." He didnt rebuke this teenager; he didnt get angry at him. He simply said; “I’d rather you marry a slave girl.”

    There is no doubt something which is mubah (allowed) can be misused, and in turn can become bad, but in general, a man or woman who needs it, I don’t see any problem with this. Even if they are married, they may be dissatisfied with their partner as he may only come once a month and she needs to take care of herself more than this; there is no problem with her doing this action.


    There were other Qs that were answered as well, this question seems to be frequently asked on here so just thought I would share this. I believe he was teaching like a garment course or something and people were asking alot of questions similar to this.

  42. It doesn't make sense to me. I masturbate, I'm sinning. I have sex before marriage, I'm sinning. Like I can't win! Do you want us to go out with random people and please ourselves or better to do it alone? It annoys me. I've tried fasting too. And nothing! And frankly, I'm getting tired of waiting. So idk what to do anymore.

  43. Is it halal for a boy to mastrubate?

  44. How it can be haram when it is the only way you can avoid sexual desires with other genders. Your concentration level in namaz may not be fair enough if you are trying to control your emotions. I guess masterbation is better then having sexualy relations because it is a feeling and emotion which one can handle by themselves. Why does Islamic scholars tell us to read books and stuff or say prayers while you are horny! I don't think it is appropriate to do so. Maybe that is why ppl tend to rape or do harassments cause they are told to control natural feeling of your body which will eventually trigger you off and on.

    • Agreed.....
      As a man, sexual arousal happens everyday, just like you eat food and go hungry again.
      With that horny state of mind and body, you just can't go about your day.
      And all those men and some women who say, there is a problem if you are masturbating, i would like to ask especially the men, HOW in the world did you suppress the desire and for how long?
      If I go a week without jerking, I tend to get cranky, and short tempered, I lose focus.
      I just can't comprehend that some Men have NOT masturbated AT ALL UNTIL MARRIAGE!!! pls who are you kidding.

      • We have to give everything the truth. Just because we cannot live without something doesn't mean it's impossible or not true for others to live without it. Your argument is invalid because The opposite could be used against you as well, people who have never gone there can ask you the same thing, that if they've waited their whole entire lives till marriage and haven't done anything, how come you can't, pls who are you kidding?" However this isn't a matter of questioning people on what they do or don't do, because just cause a lot of Muslims don't pray doesn't mean everyone doesn't pray, that doesn't make salah not an obligation because it still is. Yet, based on my research and Allah knows best, since it has not been discussed in religious context, it is left open for discussion and each person can go and ask their heart, if they feel like their doing something haram but they are giving it a blind eye they have to correct themselves, and if they truly feel like there is nothing wrong with it and in fact it's alright then they follow their heart, especially after research. It is wrong for anyone to shame someone for asking such questions and it is wrong for anyone to shame those who agree it is wrong and it is wrong to shame anyone who agrees it is right, because there is nothing that completely supports the matter or puts it down. And as always, Allah (SWT) knows best.

  45. Akhi, think of what will happen if you quit masturbation, your life will become 60 times better and you will become more close with allah and socially be
    More confident and be more of a man. If will do wonders.

  46. Hello Aselama we alikum wasim I understand ur problem but as u stated in the text u r in real problem but I've and advice may be it'll help u as u stated u pray five times and u have to pray in mosque not anywhere and try to cover ur eye ked Al nether and don't care about girls as much and don't eat fatty food like meat and egg... and try to be busy ur self.with something like. The life hood of prophet Mohammed pbuh and wasim bro try to get helpful friends

  47. It doesn't make any sense for it to be wrong at all, because it actually prevents people from doing haram acts. It removes the need to engage in harmful sexual relations while one is not married. It also doesn't make sense for it to be wrong because you're doing it yourself. If it's permissable for you to have sex with someone you're married to, how is it not permissable to masturbate privately? You aren't taking away your modesty in any way.

    • Asalamu alaikuum can someone please help me out. Its really disgusting but if someone was masturbating to a picture of some girl they knew, would they need to seek her apology as well in order to be forgiven or will it be sufficient to repent to Allah alone??

      • Tawbah to Allah is sufficient. He should not tell the girl anything. No one would want to hear that.

        Wael Editor

        • Thanks. Basically theres different sceanrios playing out in my mind. I was just thinking because u need to apologise to people who uv wronged because on the Day of Judgement people who uv wronged will take ur deeds away. These are rights which u can return e.g if u steal something from someone but some ppl say back biting comes under this category as well. But then it's also said that Allah forgives sins done in secret. Will this be considered as the sin done in secret so u just repent to Allah sincerely and never do it again and feel remorse and will not need to tell the people?? Please make dua for me also please

  48. Salam to everyone
    I've started masturbating....after 3 yrs of my marriage....married young..have 2 children...but like every1 else i too have a sexual need....which unfortunately is never fulfilled by my hubby....though i love him for everything...but this is one of the darkest secret i've kept from him...just can't help it....can understand every other fellow muslim's pain....but if u ask about Islamic law with regard to this is not very long tym bfore i came across one hadees (not sure)...that on the day of judgement such person will get up with a damaged hand... (will try finding out this hadees)
    Every tym i commit this sin....i surely take ghusl.....and promise in my heart not to do this sin again....every tym i m scared afterwards....wat if i die now in this unclean state!! dear brothers n sisters....sometimes marriage is not the solution to this sin...just repent.....n pray to God to make u strong....n never lose hope....

    • That's not something common, as marriage is meant to satisfy you in terms of biological needs. If that does not happen, there's a problem. Why don't you speak to your husband instead of staying quiet?

    • Anum ,Do you watch romantic movies or sex related movies or serials frequently ? These will increase your desire .Do you fantasize others during masturbation ? I think these can be result of above said stuff .Please avoid such movies and stop looking at other men if you do that ...

  49. Please, Please, Please

    I have read thousands of articles, fatwas.. comments.................

    the question still remains

    Is there any direct prohibition of masterbation in the light of quran or hadith

    bcz i didnt find any

    i am not saying this is gives me the liscense to continue it, but the question still remains

    is there any proof that it is haraam, no more views, no more fatwas, no more articles
    is there any proof that masterbation is haraam in the light of Quran and Sunna

  50. Is just relaxing yourself without using any porn/sex operators..Is this type of masturbation is haram in Islam ?

  51. Assalam alaekum
    one word for all this conversations,
    a real man is he who have control on his private part
    ,this is bad for Health,
    just quit,
    you need a firm decision,
    always remember that Allah is watching you,

  52. Assalaamu alaikum, all brothers and sister.

    I would like to point out a great issue which is for people like me.

    Due to medical reasons I cannot marry a woman, nor can I become a father.
    Being a young person, arousal happens almost daily, how can someone fast for 365 days a year for the entire life(Since I can't get married so I have to fast to reduce sexual desire). It is just not feasible for someone like me.

    The hadiths quoted and the Quranic verses are not clear for this issue.

    May allah forgive us our Sins. Ameen

  53. Try hypno therapy , it will really help or go to a sheikh or spend alone time in a dark room for hours talking to Allah. All of these will work inshallah.

  54. Our parents should get us married early. They dnt understand in this world of continuous adultery maneuvering us , how we guard ourselves and maintain our purity. Sometimes u do need someone to talk to and hold onto you.
    Pls spread awareness about early marriage and let us not do this to our kids

    • Misyar marriage is a better solution whcih is like a normal marriage where it fulfills all the requirements of the usual marriage contract (Nikkah), but the wife volunteerly abandoned her rights to financial support, maintenance, and accommodation due to lack of financial meens. I find the zawaj misyar to be a perfect type because it meets the needs of young people who don't have the financial means, so it protects them from haram and lowers down there giza. Zawaj misyar prevents any sexual relations outside marriage or any illegal sexual acts. So, those who do not have the financial means to marry to keep himself chaste and be patient in facing temptations.

      I find this to be a better way for people like youth who do not have the financial meens, zawaj almisyar is a better choice until the husband is able to gain financial meens then he can provide for her.

      • Misyar marriage is NOT a good solution and I'm surprised some scholars even consider it permissible, since it is little more than sexual relations with a contract. In reality, misyar causes a lot of misery in the Muslim world. Sometimes the men are already married and are just looking for another sexual partner. Other times, the woman becomes pregnant and the man divorces her, since he never wanted a proper family in the first place. It's a terrible idea.

        Wael Editor

  55. Asalam o alaikum brother,
    I'm facing a similar problem. The other day I saw a verse of Quran written and it said that
    "Indeed, Allah is with the patient." Everytime I feel the need of comitting such sinfull act this verse actually helps me alot. Hope it helps you as well

  56. You can do it .....

  57. Asalamu Alejkum ya brother, masturbation can be a serious problem BUT when you learn how to control it you will be so happy about yourself and what you manage to do for the sake of Allah swt.

    Personally I don't think that school is a valid reason NOT to get married? Why should it? I bet there are loads of young woman in you school that also want to get married and finish school at the same time.

    May Allah make it easy for you!

    And please don't cut your penis of, that would be a very stupid idea!

  58. salaam all,

    It seems to me that IF masturbation was a serious Sin then Allaah would have made it Clear to us, as He has done with other sex related acts like Zina and Homosexual acts etc. He would Not leave us Guessing about such vital matters as sins surely are. I guess masturbating simply falls in the category of acts we'd do better Avoiding.

  59. It's ok to do it, if you don't do anything sexual while doing it, like watching porn.

  60. Sex is a right of marriage and is not for self gratification. it is an act of worship. You get blessings for having relations with your spouse just like you get sins for having relations with someone who is not your spouse. We are prescribed to fast to help diminish the feeling and if not then we are encouraged to get married inshaAllah. May Allah make it easy as this has been addressed but we want to act like it has not. Allah knows best above all Allahu Akbar!

  61. What if Muslim teenagers do masterbating not like that but just rubbing

    • Amber, that is masturbation. We've answered a hundred questions on this subject, so please search our archive.

      Wael Editor

  62. The act of masturbation itself is not Narayan however the thoughts that to through one's mind, that is haraam

  63. Brother I too had some queries about this thing that Is Masturbation Haram in Islam or not, but you know what whenever you feel guilty after doing something that means its a bad thing and as muslims its our beleif that The pleasures of this life are nothing than the Pleasures of Aakhirah... so that means you have to resist the pleasure and stay MUTAQQI as Allah guided us to... I know its very problematic to tackle the situation when you feel a need of it but you can't but beleive me the Calmness you got after not doing this is wonderful!! Well I want give you any evidence or anything i'll just prefer you to do wudhu and open any page of Quran then the first Ayah that came to your sight will be your answer... beleive me that works ☺
    Thanks... for further queries you can send me e-mail My emain Id is *****

  64. Brother search for SA recovery.

  65. Please consult an Islamic schooler as I heard from one otherwise.

  66. Narrated ‘It was narrated from Thawban that the Prophet (pbuh) said:

    “I certainly know people of my nation who will come on the Day of Resurrection with good deeds like the mountains of Tihamah, but Allah will make them like scattered dust.” Thawban said: “O Messenger of Allah, describe them to us and tell us more, so that we will not become of them unknowingly.” He said: “They are your brothers and from your race, worshipping at night as you do, but they will be people who, when they are alone, transgress the sacred limits of Allah.”

    Sunan Ibn Majah, Zuhd

    Book 37, Hadith 4386

  67. My dear friend losing faith is a sin do not let the deceiver deceive you, Allah is merciful and he forgives and also gives the hardest punishment my advice to stop 1 step at the time meaning that if you was each week the next time wait 8 days than 9 than 10 and sooooo on till you feel free.

  68. Hi. When you fast. Try to devote the time to prayers and the reading of the Scriptures You should expect to receive more from the Lord. in this way .Also if some temptation should come your way ,resist them by confessing them to God and be humble . God bless you and Peace to you

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