Love and sex before marriage
OK, this is my problem. I am a muslim and I am 21 years old, and have a girlfriend who is also a muslim she is also 21. We have been going out secretly (nor her parents, nor my parents know about our love) for about 4 years now and I love her, she means the world to me. Equally she loves me too, I know this because she keeps telling me.
But the problem is that she does NOT want to marry until she finishes university, and I dont want to marry yet ethier as I think I am too young. She asked me if I want to marry her when the time is right and I do. She told me that she does NOT want to have sex before marriage. But would it be OK if we did as we both know we are going to marry each other? oh and the other thing is that we have not had sex, but we do kiss and have slept in the same bed but not done anything, is that also wrong in islam?
I love her so much, that sometimes she takes my breath away. Some of my friends at first said that it was just a simple crush, but now I know its not, we have been together for exactly 3 years 10 months and 14 days. I know its real love because we both feel the same way! Before i met her i used to drink alcohol and smoke, she has changed me as a person and in result we have both fallen in love.
Would it be OK in islam if we had sex?
And the phsyical things we have done so far (kissing) is that a sin as well?
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