Does he intend to Marry me?
Muslim and Christian Marriage
Hi,
I have a long story but I will try to shorten as much as possible. I am American Christian woman who is engaged to a Muslim man from Saudi Arabia. We both live in the USA and he has his citizenship. He is seperated with 2 kids and I am divorced with 2 kids. He gave his ex-wife an Islamic divorce 5 years ago but they are still married in the USA, papers have been filed but not yet final. He is waiting because he is afraid of losing his children as in the U.S the kids usually go to the mom.
I have been divorced and I understand this. My kids think of him as their dad and he calls my son his son and has thanked me for giving him my son as his. (My son's real father is not around). When we first met we were friends and were doing business together. It grew into love. The moment we both realized it, he asked me to marry him almost immediately. We love each so much it almost hurts. He asked to speak to my father about marriage. I told him it wouldn't be a good idea because my father has some mental health problems and I hadn't told my family about him yet. So, he introduced me to his father almost immediately. His dad loved me and approved of the marriage and wanted to know when he could expect more grandkids.
His ex-wife has been causing our relatioship some problems. She has threatened to take away his kids if he continues his relationship with me. So, we have been still together yet somewhat hiding it because of her, his ex-wife even calls me and threatens me.
When we first met, he had a good paying job and had money. Now, he has become broke and lost his business. This doesn't make me think any less of him. He will not move forward with his divorce unless he is financially stable to do that he can be sure he gets to keep his kids. He also will not move forward with our marriage/relationship until he is financially stable. I make my own money and told him that we will work it out together, he refuses any money or help from me.
It has been 2 1/2 years and we are still not married. We seem to be growing farther away from that goal. My kids miss him deeply and want to know why he doesn't come visit anymore. He doesn't call like he used to and now it has been 1 month since I have had any contact with him. I know he still loves me and the last time we talked I asked him about our future together and he said he had no intention of ending our relationship. I should mention that we have been physically intimate. He calls me his wife and he refers to himself as my husband.
Our kids have not met each other yet out of fear of retaliation of his ex-wife. Is there any hope here? Should I wait? If he loves me, he should at least inquire about my health right? Would he just stop calling and visiting because he wants to get himself stable first? What does the Quran say about this? He has promised marriage to me does that mean anything?
Desperately seeking advice,
Salta.
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Dear Salta,
Are you sure you want to continue the relationship that has no clear vision about the future marriage!?
From you story i can conclude that this man is very unserious about you. my advice is to stay away from him because obviously he doesnt want to marry you, and sexual intercourse before marriage is a major sin in islam..
Inshallah her heart will open to Islam
Sister in one word I can say he is playing with you maybe with his xwife aswell. Stay away from him. He has no intention to get marry from your story sound like he is playing with your emotional thought and your children. I suggest you to move forward and forget that man and find right partner who will marry you without an excuses or waiting period.
And what Quaran say about marriage I will post a link because it's quite long so go and have a look around hope you will find some answer to make decision correct.
http://www.islamswomen.com/marriage/intro_to_marriage.php
Hello Salta,
Thanks for writing to us.
Islam does allow Muslim men to marry Christian women. Though they are not advised to do so. They are advised to marry Muslim women who would help them in their Religion and they would together work on gaining the reward of Allah.
In your case, the man does not seem Religious. He has over spoken to you about the Religion of Islam and how beautiful it is. And he has been physically intimate with you. If you mean fornication by this, then he has committed a major sin. He has disobeyed Allah. Allah forbids such relation in the Quran.
Being a Muslim, I can not advise you to continue your relation with this Muslim man.
If you intend to marry a Muslim man, then there are people who are much better than him and are Righteous. They fear Allah and do what He commands.
But these Muslims might ask you to accept Islam as your Religion, Allah as your God (you call Him the Father, but we believe as our Lord has told us that He never begets, nor was He Begotten), and accept Muhammad (peace be upon him as His Messenger).
But my advise is that if you some day consider Islam, then do it only if you accept Allah as your Only God and Muhammad (peace be upon him as His Messenger).
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
thank you for your honesty. This man has spoken to me quite often about Islam and he very seriously observes Ramadan and teaches the religon to his children. I respect the religon as it closely aligns with my beliefs as a Christian.
But I do'nt understand why he would get me so deeply involved in his life and personal matters and string me along for no purpose. We were intimate in the beginning however have not been for some time after we talked about waiting to be married. If he didn't want to be with me then why keep my involed and ask my opinion on his personal matters?
I am so deeply in love with him and have never felt like this before about a man. Yet I can't help but feel betrayed by his lack of effort.
Please keep me and my kids in your prayers as our hearts are breaking from his broken promises
sure, insha Allah,
May Allah give you and your children the most perfect reward which is His Guidance and May He Protect you from the likes of this man.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
thank you Muhammad
thank you for your honesty. This man has spoken to me quite often about Islam and he very seriously observes Ramadan and teaches the religon to his children. I respect the religon as it closely aligns with my beliefs as a Christian.
But I do'nt understand why he would get me so deeply involved in his life and personal matters and string me along for no purpose. We were intimate in the beginning however have not been for some time after we talked about waiting to be married. If he didn't want to be with me then why keep my involed and ask my opinion on his personal matters?
I am so deeply in love with him and have never felt like this before about a man. Yet I can't help but feel betrayed by his lack of effort.
Please keep me and my kids in your prayers as our hearts are breaking from his broken promises.
Sister,
He speak about Islam and serious about Ramadan dosent mean he us good Muslim man. The main thing we look into a muslim character is iman(deen) this man dosent have that so he is not good Muslim. It is hard to forget someone who you love deeply but look at your children face and then think for a second that would you let your children to have a father like that who neglects responsibility? No, so you move forward and find some one who will not neglects. This dosent call love if one avoid, it called using or playing. He did involve you because he is very clever and know how to use someone emotional.
Sister please for the sake of your children remove this horrible man from your mind and concentrate in your children 'wellbeing and find right person. I am sure Allah will give you right person in right time.
As Nadia just said that he does Ramadan, pray, etc, etc, doesn't means he is a good Muslim... I went through a similar situation just that we have a son together, my ex is from Saudi Arabia, we treated each other as husband and wife, we spent a quit bit (years and years) together, but the only difference here beside you both kids is that he left me after 5 months of my pregnancy... I can tell you by experience Saudis are the most adorable man i ever seen, some of the are so good and some others are players, and believe me they know how to lie, if he is serious he will talk with his wife and divorce her no matter what.
all i can say is he just used you. most men are after one thing and when that is fulfilled they will run with their tails.
sometimes when couples argue etc, the unfaithful tend to have side fling to escape from problems/stress.
if you say hes serious about his religion and he teaches his children yet he had intimate time with you when its not allowed in islam, thats hypocrisy.
dont be fooled and definately dont let him trample all over you.
peace...
Hi Salta,
I'm going to say exactly what I think after reading your account of what has happened.
My outlook is a bit different from the others (above) because I am a revert. I reverted to Islam a year ago. I still have a great deal to learn about Islam. Enough about me.
I would wait for this man. It sounds to me as if he is trying to sort out the problems his ex-wife is causing so he can marry you. He gave his ex-wife an Islamic divorce five years ago, so she really has no claim on him any more once the papers in the USA are sorted out.
Because you say "When we first met, he had a good paying job and had money. Now, he has become broke and lost his business" – don't you think he would feel a little inadequate and would like to get a stable, financial footing back into his life so he can marry you? Also the threat from his ex-wife regarding his children is enough to cause anyone's head to spin.
Sounds like he really does love you and your family and it would be a shame to let it go – I wouldn't let go if it was me.
I would wait for him because he needs time to sort out his problems.
wow i am so confused. i keep going back and forth between what you have just said and what the others are saying. I think I will give this a little more time but then I need to move on..
I take his pride very much into consideration when thinking about this as he has kept his gaze lower after losing his job and it was actually at that time when he started to come over less and call less.
Yet i can't help but feel that pride should never come before caring for someone you love.
I am going to pray over this as it's really all i can do now.
Hi Salta,
I can understand your confusion.
"Pride" for a Muslim man is very important. It is a different concept to the Christian one. Without asking you to read pages and pages of information about Islam (as I have done), that is all I want to say for now, because as I said before, I am still learning a lot.
Yes, please do pray to Allah (God) and ask him to help you and give you guidance. I'm sure he will help you.
yes I know, once when we were still just good friends I went to coffee with him and went I went to reach for my purse to pay..well what a wake up! he looked at me and said "what do you need that for" and he then informed that it is insulting for a woman to pay or even try to pay.
So naturally when he started losing money and not being able to even take me to diner anymore I can undertand his lack of confidence. yet I would think that my loyalty through it all would mean so much to him that he would keep in touch with me.
another thing you have to consider is that in Islam you can divorce and marry again... i mean maybe ur husband is mad adn you and he divorced you, then he asked for forgiveness, then he divorce you again and asked for forgiveness again... that can happens just three times, so this is good to consider.... I swear by Allah i'm not against Saudis for what my ex did to me, actually i still have a lot of good friends, also my son is half saudi so i can't hate them, i'm just trying to give you other perspective, and I'm also revert.
i agree, maybe he's sorting things out in his head. but he's not really religious i tell you. and secondly, he might ask you to convert. ( he might be thinking about it amongst other issues which he must be dealing now as he's distanced himself) please convert only if you truly believe in islam. how about you start figuring out what islam really is about, while he figures what he really wants. it will give you a better understanding of his motives since you'll be able to judge better with all that knowledge. who knows by the time he comes around you're a better muslim than him?
Yes Naseem,
I agree with you. But can't you feel what that man must be going through?
It would be good if Salta converted to Islam. I couldn't be happier since I reverted. The two religions are very close except for a couple of things. Yes, and I know the Christian bible is corrupted.
Talking about our religions is one our favorite things to do. and we agree and have the same views 95% of the time. The only thing we really differ on is the prophets Jesus and Mohammed. While I do know that the Bible has been interpreted WAY too many times I don't read it as most people do.
anyway beside the point. I asked him at the very beginning if being with him if he would want me to convert. he said no. he loved that i was Christian and wanted me to keep my individuality becuase it was one of the things that he loved most about me. i understand it to a good degree I even bought a copy of the Quran and started reading it.
The Qur'an is a very beautiful book and is good reading. I read it every day after my bath, before I sleep and I find it really helps me. I have read it three times during the past year. There are many more differences than just the prophets.
Anyway, it is good that your friend appreciates that you are a Christian and respects that.
i feel what this man is going through but i feel more about what this woman is going through =) ..
i have read alot about man. why they change their mind. why they start getting wierd all of a sudden. didn't make sense. very unfair.
then i found out this site and read why dating and relationships are haram. compared both the situations. it made sense. Thank God, dating is haram. it makes sense, doesn't give the opportunity to men to emotionally involve you and then leave you in the lurch. maybe that's why God made dating haram cause He knows the mind of men.
anyhow, i got emotional, unnecessary speech. sorry. back to the point ..
it's useless thinking about why he is doing, what he's doing. it's only Allah and him that knows the answers to these questions. what she can do is continue with her life and keeping herself busy with her children and focusing on other things(in her case reading the Holy quran). i'm so sure, this guy is going to come around sooner or later if she just keeps going with her life without interrupting him in his "no show" process.
islamically, that's the right thing to do, cut off all the contact. and if he really wants to marry her, he will come around ( which i'm sure he will, for marriage or for whatever reasons). now, if she really wants to marry for him, it would be wise of her if she puts it on the table once he comes back around. if she starts talking to him again, chnaces are it won't happen. but the problem isn't if he's going to marry her or not.
The problem is what lies after the marriage ( which is what i think is keeping the man at bay). her problem will start once she gets married to this man. she thinks because he said he doesn't want her to change hr religion, that wont cause any problem after marriage. men dont mean what say say and religion is a sensitive topic anyway. maybe when he was courting her he didn't want to offend her. but what man, who practices religion in the form of namaz (prayers) roza ( fasting) etc and teaches his children too, wouldnt want his prospective wife to convert? If he really sees her as a wife, he sees her as a muslim wife in his head. if he deosn't then he's being a hypocrite. then we shouldn't even be discussing her issue. she's got her answer.
but, let's say they get married, then how are they gonna live together. chnaces are very less. because the issue of religion is going to come sooner or later especially with them having 2 kids each already. how is fire and water going to b fit in the same compartment. one has to overcome other. so it's better for her to learn about islam, if not follow it. but she must know what she's dealing with.
Jameela
I think your suggestion has some merit. As a Christian reverted to Islam, I still suffer from the seduction of romantic love. This is Shaytan's playground.
Instead of waiting for him, I suggest to Salta that she consider continuing with her life, studying the Qur'an, and praying. If it is the will of Allah for them to be together, Allah will guide her to be a strong Muslim woman, and make things easier for both of them to be together.
Life is a struggle enough without adding to it by following the story line of a tragic romance. Tragic romances are good reading, but painful and heartbreaking for those involved in a real one. I recommend the halaal path found in true submission to Allah. There are tragedies enough in the world without borrowing more.
AmericanMuslim
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Assalamu alaikum
American Muslim
Point taken re Shaitan's playground bhai.
It is a good suggestion that Salta consider studying the Qur'an and praying – up to her.
I agree with all you say.
Allah hafiz
Maasalama
American Muslim, romantic love is wonderful and amazing! I am in a romantic love relationship it's a gift from Allah! But it is for married couples only!
If he really love and care for her and family then why didn't he keep in touch with her? Sister said "it has been 1 month since I have had any contact with him" there is no worth of waiting I think if she waits for that man I can say this sister will ruin her future. He got divorce islamicly his x wife has no right to interfair in his life but if she really doing it then why that man is quite? He list money job for that he is disturbed but his xwife is threatng his future wife then he is afraid? Rubbish I don't trust this man that he will be honest with this sister.
Assalamu alaikum ya Nadia
You might be right and I may be wrong. However I feel that if this couple really love each other and they have the approval of his father, and the children have accepted each one as a parent . . . this relationship is really worth fighting for, Insha'Allah.
I wouldn't dare judge anyone else's iman or if they have deen (faith, or are religious) - only time can prove that, and only Allah knows this, Allahu akbar, for he sees all.
I will pray for them both.
Fi Aman Allah
sister i am not judging anyone's oman u state that generally that you can't explain a good muislim just only doing fasting.or speking.about islam. i don't.have that right aswell to judge anyone's imaan
Sorry spelling mistake lost
thank you for your continued comments. i haven't talked to my family about this yet so it feels good to even get it off my chest
This typical man is really confusing. He has been given love, warmth, care and sacrifice from us as women but then he stays away without explanation. We are ready to accompany them in bad and good time and will try our best to be a good wife but still he leaves us after he involves deeply to our heart and life. Actually it is his own problem and not yours. If he want to stable first then think about next plan like a marriage, so let him go and do that. He may need to be alone and think about what he wants in his life and about himself as well. Being stable may be one of his pride as a man. About the intimacy, he should have avoided it as he knows it is haram in Islam.
Nisa
thank you Nisa
pls let me add a little based on experience..yes i believe both of you love each other but he probably wants to solve his own problem alone without your interfare and he probably doesn't want to involve you about his ex wife problem that make you suffer and he doesn't want it because he loves you. My ex future husband stayed away because he was not financially stable and he hid something that I know after some years. At that time I accepted him the way he was but he was too scared to step forward. I tried to convince him about my good intention to him but it just made me look clincy and needy. So, I let him go and I passed time with sadness and broken heart and after some years he tried to contact me in a hospital asking my dua for hie eyes operation because of diabetic illness he had suffered for years. I just could make du'a and then stayed away because I didn't want to give a hope for him. It was not because his ilness but about his chance that already gone. I passed many things in life and learn to grow and i thanks for that than just wait a man that needed years to get a bravery to step to a marriage. Sister Salta, I hope you can take a lesson from my experience and know what to do that the best for you. I pray Allah will guide you and give the best for you and your kids.
This makes my heart sad. Sad that I can feel what you went through and what may be in my future. thank you for sharing your experience with me. I am lost and i think only God can heal this hurt inside.
i love him and worry about him that is part of the pain that i feel, also the pain of possibly losing the future that we had planned.
Bless you
Thanks sister. It was five years ago but love to share that. Please be strong for your kids.
Salta,
You said he spoke about Religion often. Then perhaps he wants to marry you as a Muslim.
I am just having a feeling that he's away, just for this reason. Maybe he wants a Muslim wife.
Just a thought I had
And how would Christianity not be closely aligned with Islam? Were both not Revealed by The same Lord - Allah?
But the people who followed Prophet Jesus (Peace be upon him) erred and changed the Book of Allah for a small price. Then Allah Revealed the uncorruptiale Quran upon Muhammad (Peace be upon him). This is what we have today. Do take time, read the Quran and ponder over it. If Allah opens your heart to Islam, we'll be more than happy to welcome a sister to our faith. Then you'll be equal to us all, you'll be one of us.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Maybe you misunderstood. i DO believe that the 2 religion are very closly alligned. I did ask him several times about conversion and he stated that he would not want me to on his behalf and that he loved me for who I am. He fell in love with the Chistian me and didnt' want that to change. I think part of it is the fact the his xwife was muslim and gave him great disgrace.
I think Islam is a beautiful religion. But whether we are Christian or Muslim we are all chidlren of God and try our hardest to follow his teachings and spread the faith.
No I don't believe the whole Bible in correct. I spent many years in colege studying that. However it is the faith the made me the person that I am today.
Continue reading the Quran, sister. Perhaps this is how God (Allah) will Guide you.
My question was not actually a question. You said they are aligned, and I asked how can they not be. 🙂
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
If you respect and love Islam that much,why dont you convert? 🙂
And you said that he is satisfied by you being Christian and doesnt want you to convert. Sorry, but this man is a hypocrit. Instead of supporting you to convert to islam, he says that you dont have to. Btw, you said his ex wife was muslim so he was disappointed in muslim women(somehow); Islam recommends marrying muslim woman rather than the christian woman...anyway; how can he love a person who say that GOD HAS A SON;estagfirullah!?
Assalamu alaikum ya jaci
Excuse me jaci, Salta should be allowed to make up her own mind if she wants to convert to Islam, without any pressure from you or anyone else. You know that.
The Qur'an says: "(Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers, but chaste women among the People of the Book, revealed before your time – when you give them their due dowers, and desire chastity, not lewdness, nor secret intrigues." Surah 5 – Al Ma'idah 5:6.
Sister she loves and accept Islam dosent mean she has to convert if she wants she can but no one can force her to change.
It is permissible for a Muslim lman to marry a woman from the People of the Book (i.e. the Jews and the Christians).
It is not permissible for you to force your Christian wife – if you do marry her – to become Muslim. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“There is no compulsion in religion. Verily, the Right Path has become distinct from the wrong path. Whoever disbelieves in Taaghoot [falsehood, false gods] and believes in Allaah, then he has grasped the most trustworthy handhold that will never break. And Allaah is All-Hearer, All-Knower”
[al-Baqarah 2:256]
Ibn Katheer said:
Allah says: “There is no compulsion in religion” meaning: do not force anyone to enter Islam, for it is obvious and clear, and its proof and evidence are apparent. There is no need to force anyone to enter it, rather whomever Allaah guides to Islam and opens his heart to it and illuminates his insight will enter it with conviction; but whoever Allaah makes blind in his heart and seals his hearing and insight will not benefit from being compelled to enter the religion by force. They said that the reason for the revelation of this verse was concerning some people among the Ansaar, even though this ruling is general.
Tasfeer Ibn Katheer, 1/311
I do not think jaci is forcing her. But telling her what Islam is and she is appealing, not compelling.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
yes, i am not forcing anyone,estagfirullah. i just said, if someone says that he/she likes and respects islam;what stops him/her from converting!??
And; i know that it is allowed in islam to marry christian/jewish woman; BUT I JUST SAID THAT IF A MUSLIM MAN WANTS TO GET MARRY; HE IS RECOMENDED TO MARRY MUSLIM WOMAN RATHER THAN CHRISTIAN WOMAN!! MUSLIM WOMAN HAVE AN ADVANTAGE!!
ONE OF THE FRIENDS OF PROPHET P.B.U.H. MARRIED A CHRISTIAN WOMAN; PROPHET TOLD HIM IT IS NOT FORBIDEN, BUT IT IS BETTER TO MARRY A MUSLIM WOMAN; BECAUSE IF THEY CONTINUE TO MARRY OTHER WOMAN THAN MUSLIM ONES; MUSLIM WOMEN WOULD REMAIN UNMARRIED!!
AND WHEN IT IS ALLOWED TO MARRY NON MUSLIM WOMAN???? THERE ARE MANY, MANY CONDITIONS TO FULFILL. CHILDREN MUST BE MUSLIMS AND MANY OTHER THINGS. BELIEVE ME, I KNOW MANY CHILDREN FROM MUSLIM/CHRISTIAN WOMAN MARRIAGES; THEY MOSTLY BECAME ATHEISTS BECAUSE THEY DIDNT KNOW WHAT RELIGION TO CHOOSE; ISLAM OR CHRISTIANITY; OR THEY SAY; HOW CAN I BE MUSLIM WHEN MY MOTHER IS CHRISTIAN....?..
BE CAREFUL WHEN ARGUMENTING GOD´S RULES. IT IS ALLOWED BUT ONLY WHEN ALL CONDITIONS ARE FULLFILLED. IF A MAN IS NOT STRONG ENOUGH TO CONVINCE HER THAT THEIR KIDS MUST BE MUSLIMS; THEN HE IS NOT ALLOWED TO MARRY HER; AND ALLAH KNOWS THE BEST!
Assalamu alaikum wa ramatullahi wa barakatuh
And of course we all know that the first wife of Muhammed (peace be upon him) Khadijah, was a Christian, and he loved her very much.
Although the two religions are very close and because I am a muslim too, Jaci, I agree with you that the children should be brought up in the Muslim way. I am surprised that you say children from Muslim/Christian marriages become atheists. I would think their deen would be stronger?
Allah hafiz
Alaikumussalam, dear Jameela
His first wife was Muslim, not Christian; and the first one that believed that he was a Prophet.
Yes I know many examples where their children become atheists, agnostics or they dont want to choose any religion. I come from multi-ethnic country where there are a lot of marriages between Muslims and Christians.
Sister Jameelah,
I think you are mistaken. Arabia was a land of Jahiliyyah and the people were pagan. But there is no mention about our mother, the mother of the believers Khadeejah Radiyallahu Anha. But yes, it is well known that her cousin Warqa was a Christian, and he was actually a believer. Because that was pre Islamic period and Islam was not established then. When Khadeejah Radiyallahu Anha took Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam to Warqa, he himself was unaware that he was chosen by Allah as His Prophet.
When he heard what Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam had to say, he believed in him (Warqa believed in his prophethood, before he became the Prophet).
And when he became the prophet, the first person to accept Islam was the Prophet's wife, the mother of the believers, Khadeejah Radiyallahu Anha, followed by Abu Bakr Radiyallahu Anhu.
She became a Muslim, when Allah made her husband a Prophet and gave him the Religion of Islam.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Sorry spelling mistake "man"
did i say jack is forcing this sister:/ i wrote it generlly
spell mistake jaci
US courts allow joint custody so he can still see the kids.
she should not deprive the father nor should the father deprive the fathers rights to see the kids.
*mother
@Salta
As you have been here
I would like to tell you about Islam
We Muslims worship Allah - the only one GOD who created you and me and all that exists.
The GOD of Adam, Noah , Abraham, Moses, Jesus, Muhammed (peace be upon them) and all.
why did Jesus(peace be upon him) the son of Mary (may Allah be pleased with her) came to this earth?
Jesus came to teach people about ALLAH. He came to teach people to worship none but ALLAH alone without associating any partners with HIM.
Allah says
“And I (Allah) created not the jinn and mankind except that they should worship Me (Alone)”
{Quran 51:56}
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Allah alone deserves to be worshiped.
HE has no father, mother, brother, sister or son.
HE is not like us.
There is no one like HIM.
Allah says,
Say, "He is Allah , [who is] One,
"Allah-us-Samad (The Self-Sufficient Master, Whom all creatures need, He neither eats nor drinks).
He neither begets nor is born,
"And there is none co-equal or comparable unto Him."
(Quran 112: 1-4)
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Do you know that this life is temporary?? and we will die and will be raised up again and there is going to be a day of judgement?
Please Research about Islam. See how it makes sense inshaAllah.
I want you to be saved from the hell fire and enter Heaven so I invite you to Islam.
Here are some links for you where you can learn more about Islam inshaAllah
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