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Can Allah forgive suicide ?

Hello to all my brothers and sister ,

I know I should not be writing that question down . I know I should not even be considering killing myself . I know some people has it way worse than me . But still everyday feel worse than the past day.

For five years I have been bullied in my childhood without never having any help from anyone nor any friends ( to this day I still have trust issues , self harm scars, difficulties to make friends, a fear that my actual friends that I love more than anythong would one day abandon me ) . This period was traumatic .

Due to the fact that my friends live in a different home town which is at one hour from mine I am feeling extremely lonely. I am also going through school failure , I have problems with my parents and we always argue and barely talk they just hate me and when we argue they can be verbally so mean and it break me . My new school which I was forced to move into is really demanding and hard , and I don't really fit there and it is also a part of why I feel so lonely because I don’t really success at making friends. Everyone end up hating me I am totally unable to make something right . I am just so lame , I don’t know how to do anything. Everyone would be better without me. If only I could just disappear and I have sinned a lot the past year ( I started making friends with bad people who drink and smoke a lot , cut off school , lied etc... ) I am not even a good muslim.

i want everything to stop. I don’t see any other way out than to let go. Will God be merciful and forgive me or my fate is just to go to hell for eternity ?

PS : I am sixteen years old right now

Thanks for reading may Allah bless you all.

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  1. May the peace, mercy, and blessings of Allah be upon you.

    Suicide isn't the end of your problems, my sister; it's just the beginning! You haven't even applied Allah's solution to your problems and you already want to commit suicide? : ) Has a single soul in the universe ever proved that it followed Allah's guidance, but its problems didn't go away?

    All you have to do is get guidance from Allah. If you establish a connection with Allah, Allah will not let you down even for a blink of any eye, sister!!! if Allah guides you, is there anybody who can harm you, sister?

    The shaytan is taking advantage of your situation and wants to push you into hellfire, sister!

    Suicide is a major sin, and the one who does that is faced with a warning of eternity in the Fire of Hell, where Allah will punish him with the means that he used to commit suicide.

    It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever throws himself down from a mountain and kills himself will be throwing himself down in the Fire of Hell for ever and ever. Whoever drinks poison and kills himself will be sipping it in the Fire of Hell for ever and ever. Whoever kills himself with a piece of iron will have that iron in his hand, thrusting it into his belly in the Fire of Hell for ever and ever.” (Al-Bukhaari, 5778; Muslim, 109)

    It was narrated that Jundub ibn ‘Abd-Allah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “A man among those who came before you was wounded. He panicked and took a knife and cut his hand, and the bleeding did not stop until he died. ALLAH, MAY HE BE GLORIFIED AND EXALTED, SAID: ‘MY SLAVE HASTENED HIS DEATH; I HAVE FORBIDDEN PARADISE TO HIM.” (Al-Bukhaari (3276) and Muslim (113).

    If you ponder this hadeeth, sister, you will realize the seriousness of the matter. There is nothing standing between you and this punishment except the barrier of death, which could come at any moment. On the other hand, there is nothing standing between you and the promise of paradise and eternal happiness except the same barrier. So why choose for yourself punishment and pain; why deprive yourself of eternal bliss? The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Paradise is closer to one of you than the strap of his sandal, and Hell is the same.” (Al-Bukhaari, 6488)

    Whatever grief we go through, whatever hardship we endure, we must understand that we are never alone. Even if we feel abandoned by the world and those closest to us, Allah is there. He reminds us in the Qur’an,

    “Fear not. Indeed, I am with you [both]; I hear and I see.” (20:46)

    “Or do you think that you will enter Paradise while such [trial] has not yet come to you as came to those who passed on before you? They were touched by poverty and hardship and were shaken until [even their] messenger and those who believed with him said, ‘When is the help of Allah?’ Unquestionably, the help of Allah is near.” [Qur’an, 2:214]

    As human beings, we will be tested. But this doesn’t mean that we are going to live our lives in perpetual hardship, because ‘unquestionably, the help of Allah is near.’ So what does it mean when we are going through hardship? Is Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) angry with us? What if there is no way out?

    Whenever we go through hardship, there are things we need to know with certainty. Allah (swt) tells us in the Qur’an:

    “[…] Allah will bring about, after hardship, ease.” [Qur’an, 65:7]

    Certain hardships are so consuming that we cannot focus on anything but the difficulty. But we have to remember that if we were to enumerate the blessings of Allah (swt), we would not be able to count them. Reminding ourselves of the other blessings in our lives helps us to see the test within the context of the grand scheme of things. Just the fact that you can make sajda (prostration), and call out, “O Allah!” is a blessing that surpasses all others.

    There is a purpose behind the trial, and this purpose corresponds to our internal state and our relationship with Allah (swt). Allah (swt) has 99 Beautiful Names, and it should suffice us to know that He is the Most Merciful, the Most Just and the Most Wise. Your test is not being put upon you by a random being, but by the Almighty Allah, who is closer to us than our jugular vein.

    Tests are a way to purify us. The Prophet ﷺ said, “No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah expiates some of his sins for that,” [Bukhari]. Our ultimate aim is to earn Allah’s pleasure and Jannah (paradise), and all of us fall short in truly worshiping Allah (swt) as He should be worshiped. Many of us fail to ask for forgiveness regularly, or to reflect on our state and return to Allah (swt). These tests, as burdensome as they are, ease our burden on the Day of Judgment, if we respond with patience.

    Trials also have a way of reminding us of our purpose. If we are far from Allah (swt), the test is usually to bring us close to Him. Whatever heedlessness we are engaging in, the test should make us realize we have no one, no one at all, but Him.

    So going back to guidance, how do you get guidance from Allah?

    Allah says in the Quran, Surah Yunus, verse 9: "Verily, those who believe and
    do deeds of righteousness, their Lord will guide them through their Faith; under them will flow rivers in the Gardens of delight (Paradise).

    So, you believe Alhamdullilah, and what do you have to do next to get guidance? Well, You have to do good deeds, deeds of righteousness in order to receive guidance! And what is the easiest but heaviest deed you can do? It's a good Character.

    Abu Darda reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Nothing is heavier upon the scale of the believer on the Day of Resurrection than his good character. Verily, Allah hates the vulgar, obscene person.” Sahih (authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi.

    So after you read this, try this for the next day and you'll be shocked to see the results in only one day! and write to me about your experience, okay? You have to pray the 5 Salah for this to work. So make an intention to receive guidance and do a good deed, like restrain your anger and let's say lower your gaze when looking at haraam things, which is part of character, right? And then Allah slowly turns your heart, sister!.

    The Prophet Muhammad (upon him be blessings and peace) said, “All the hearts of the offspring of Adam are between two fingers of Ar-Rahman. He turns it (in any direction) as He wills.” (Muslim and Ahmad)

    Then Allah’s Messenger said:

    Ya Muqallib al-Quluub, thabbit qalbi `ala Deenik.
    ‘O Turner of the Hearts – keep my heart firm on Your way.’ [Sahih Muslim]

    O you who have believed, respond to Allah and to the Messenger when he calls you to that which gives you life. And know that Allah intervenes between a man and his heart and that to Him you will be gathered.” (Qur’an, 8:24)

    Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said:“When a person spends his entire day with no other concern but Allah alone, Allah, may He be glorified, will take care of all his needs and take care of all that is worrying him; He will empty his heart so that it will be filled only with love for Him, free his tongue so that it will speak only in remembrance of Him (dhikr) and cause all his faculties to work only in obedience to Him. But if a person spends his entire day with no other concern but this world, Allah will make him bear its distress, anxiety and pain; He will leave him to sort himself out, and cause his heart to be distracted from the love of Allah towards the love of some created being, cause his tongue to speak only in remembering people instead of remembering Allah, and cause him to use his talents and energy in obeying and serving them. So he will strive hard, laboring like some work animal, to serve something other than Allah…Everyone who turns away from being a true slave of Allah and obeying Him and loving Him will be burdened with servitude, love and obedience to some created being.

    I'll waiting for your reply, Salaam. Take care.

  2. Wow really man,
    Suicide is the only haram act in which a person dont get the opportunity to do Tauba,
    Wow isn't so good.
    Meaning eternally sin..

    Don't be so fool, open up your eyes, make good decision..
    If you think you dont have any other option,
    I'll give you some.

    Migrate to some other country
    Get married to a beautiful girl
    Go somewhere
    Get yourself busy with some work.

    Suicide is sucks man,
    Just think about the when you die you will no longer do sex with wife.
    No enjoyment of food.

    Bro dont make your life hell before hell.

    Think and ask people.

    For you..
    Ask at least 5 different people daily about the things bothering you.
    Learn atleast 5 different things and teach your youngers ones.

    This is mandatory for you to do..
    Or this is my order for you to do it..


  3. Noooo !!!look and think what your saying...Allah give everybody life to live and is put here for a test to see who will live a life of obedience the pattern of Muhammad s.a.w . TO simply say I had enough and end your life is wrong thinking...this thinking was inspired whispered by shaitan ..the big enemy of Allah.It also tells me alot about you....Your purpose of life is frail it has no foundation...your enviroment of weak people bad influence has distorted you.You must have balance in life .The basic medication to solve your problem is easy....1st surround yourself with people who have taqwa positive energy good influence fear of Allah ..they will never say bad or hurt you.They will only talk when needed too because they fear Allah...attend sunni mosque .5 times a day is cumpulsory read morning and evening before bed Quran and to zikr 3 types the scholors say 100× each morning n evening bare min Astagfir durood and 3rd kalimah...give sadaqah daily read manzil to protect yourself from blk magic and other dark arts in case someone is trying to destroy can listen on you tube uts 18min long...Manzil. prophets selected duas to cure sihr..and most of all do the work of dawah. ALLAH SAYS YOU HELP MY DEEN I WILL HELP YOU. Marry so you can find peace n comfort..marry practicing women she will bring the barakah in your life and raise pious children..I would know I married a Alima women scholor. I was 30 and she was 19 just finished 7yrs in England was I thankful to Allah that he excepted me...of course...Dua is a weapon of a believer provided you are a good honest upright practising muslim.Lastly eat 100%halal n fast properly Monday or both days thurs if you can to clean your cupping every year your choice clean blood is good health...keep away from junk food and fast food....and avoid interest..this is the big one...if you have problems refer to a scholor because they are guided and carry the insight of things...this fact...and know your invisible enemy is by you at all times trying to keep you away from Allah .Pursue your courier .or studies and seek Allah to guide you and make the right choices...remeber halal lifestyle is important or you will be cursed like the majority of people...who are all messed up..they only portray a fake image of B.s

    • i have a question
      can i make toba before sucide mean if a person do tobah before sucide and than commit sucide do this person had forgived by Allah please answer me acording to islam

      • No, you CANNOT make tawbah for a sin before committing the sin, because it violates the very idea of tawbah. Among the conditions of tawba are that you are sorry for doing the sin, and you intend never to do it again. Obviously, you cannot have the intention to never do it again, while at the same time you are planning to do it.

        There is no excuse for sin. Allah does not burden us with anything greater than we can bear. Turn to Allah, make dua, and you will find a way out of your difficulties. There is always a way. We are Muslims. Suicide is not our way.

        Wael Editor

  4. Assalaamualaikum.

    So how are you now, brother/sister? Is it true that you are as yet battling with misery? All things considered, on the off chance that you don't answer, we will accept it as a yes that you are not doing great and we will be so worried over you. It would be ideal if you let us know how you are getting along. Please let us know how you are doing.


  5. Life is short enough without thinking about things like that ..... why let these people win and take your life your worth more than that and life won’t always feel that way it will get better but only if you want it to. I am 46 and believe me I have been through so much in my life .. being bullied at school, cheating husband , horrible step mum and am on anti depressants and anxiety tablets but you know what all that hot me down ain’t worth it. I have come through a stronger person and have 4 beautiful children which are my life and the most important things in my life and I live for them and for me .
    So be strong, talk to someone and live your life the best way you can and show people I’m stronger than you think and I can do this as life will get better for me one day because I will make sure of it .
    Take care young one my thoughts are with you

    • Salaam. Don’t think of suicide! You have your whole life ahead of you inshaAllah and you are our brother we love you :).

      Sis Lisa how are you? Can I ask what you did with your cheating husband? I’m in my 30s and wondering what to do with my husband if you look at my post cheating husband and std ... any advice or experience shared would be good

  6. Assalam Alaikum sister\brother. I am saddened to hear that yo u have given up hope at such a young age. please know that after hardship comes ease. It is Allah's promise to us. you will not always feel like this. Everything written above is beautiful advice. Perfect strangers taking the time to send you useful, loving and caring words. This alone should prove to you that your place is in this world. It is Allah's responsibility to take life,, not yours. Please answer back and tell us that you are okay. We send you our duas.

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