Boyfriend married behind my back, keeps calling me.
I feel I am on a death bed right now, and my life has been stripped of meaning. I am a Sikh girl who is 33 years old, and had been in a 2 year relationship with a Westernised Pakistani from Australia. He promised me the world, said he would fight for me so we could get married, planned our wedding, and I was even looking into Islam and considered converting.
Last year March, he went to Pakistan for 1 month for his 'cousins wedding'. When he came back, we were still seeing each other, him spending nights at mine etc. (on and off relationship) We split up 1 month ago on the basis his family would not accept me due to religion. Only JUST found out it was HIM that got married and NOT his 'cousin', and his wife has finally got her VISA (after waiting 1 year), and moved in with him 1 month ago - when we split up! I found out from his best friend, and all I saw was anger. I feel to go to his house and tell his mum and wife what he has done, and how it has left me in pieces. I feel so betrayed, feel suicidal, and cannot see any light at the end of the tunnel. He wasted my time, effort, put me through sooo much stress and hurt I cannot explain that started to affect my health.
He says he is the eldest in the family, therefore, has to be a good example for the rest of the family. He also says he was emotionally blackmailed by his family to have got this arranged marriage, (his mums last wish, she is ill etc) and realised when he got back it was the biggest mistake he did of his life. He does smoke and occasionally drinks, and also found out he was an ex drug addict. I feel our whole relationship was a lie, and feel like a fool. He tells everyone how much he loves and cares about me still, but I am refusing to speak to him, even though he keeps calling me still.
I would like to know why someone can be so cruel, would he really be happy with someone from back home, and what I can do to heal a broken heart and piece myself back together.
Any advise is appreciated
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