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Written by wael on October 30th, 2006 with no comments.
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Me and my husband have been married for 2 and a half months now there has been some problems going on and im pregnant everytime we get into a arugement he tells me to leave the house and go. It has happend more than once and i dont know what to do he has hit me before twice but has stopped but everytime we argue he tells me you will see what im going to do to you and then he says that he’ll fly me back to my families house. What am i supposed to do? I feel lost i have tried talking to him before about this and how it hurts me but it just doesnt go away…
- Anonymous, USA
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Written by wael on July 2nd, 2009 with no comments.
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Asalaamulikum. I am a revert sister in distress - may Allah swt guide me.
My husband is Shia and I an Sunni. When we married I was very new to Islam and my husband was not practising although I was trying to.
After the five years we have had lots of problems such as him spending all his weekends with his friends, violence and aggression from him, close relationships with women (declaring love through text messages to his hindu colleague) etc etc. Now he appears to have changed and is practising, but now we have a lot of conflict because he is now practising jaffari shia beliefs, which include not following sunni and hadith, believing in the 12 imans, mutah etc. This wasn’t too much of a problem when he wasn’t practising because he never discussed them.
I really didn’t know enough about the deen when I reverted to think this would be a problem as those around me (non practising Muslim friends) said my husband was of good character. Now my iman and iklas has grown I am strongly committed to the Sunni branch of Islam and want to now do everything I can to please Allah swt only.
Our relationship is breaking down as I cannot forget the pain and neglect from his past behaviour plus there is a lot of conflict about his views. I have tried being patient for so long that now I have reached my limit. Is there sin on me for requesting seperation? I am worried about the wrath of Allah swt but I know we shouldn’t have to be forced to stay when we are very unhappy.
We have two young sons who I love very deeply.
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Written by jannahjewel on July 1st, 2009 with no comments.
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I am in my 40s and a widow I live in Canada. I lost my husband 2 years ago. About 6 months ago i met a muslim man on line. He is a kind, gentle, caring man and we fell in love and want to marry. He lives in Tunisia and i live in Canada. He is Muslim and I am Anglican Christian. I have been thinking about converting to Islam. I have been reading some and am wondering if we can marry under Islamic beliefs if I am a widow.
When I married my late husband I did take his last name. i know it says in the Quran to keep your fathers name. Should I change my name back to my father’s last name or do I keep my late husband’s or can I take my new husband’s last name? And my first name is a Canadian name should I change it to a Muslim name? My name is Tammy.
I would like to marry my man in Tunisia in front of his parents and then again in Canada in a church in front of my Family is this possible? We are both willing to move to the other’s country if need be or any were in the world so we can be together. He says Tunisia is a hard life, and because he is Muslim coming to Canada my cause a problem not sure what our options are? I hope you can help me.
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Written by Tammy2445 on July 1st, 2009 with no comments.
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Hello,
I need some advice. My husband has 2 different numbers. On his other number he has txts which say “hello sexy” and “nite nite sexy”. There is no name attached to the number and I didn’t send them to him. Should I worry about this? He spends most of his time on the computer and rarely with me. I keep asking him to do overtime shifts so that we dont end up in debt but he keeps making excuses that he is too busy and doesnt have the time. I know this isnt true what should I do?
Please help.
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Written by Sam on July 1st, 2009 with no comments.
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Salam
i know me and my partner cannot have sex before married, but one day 1.5 mrd ago it just happened, May Allah forgive us. so for this we postponed the day of marriage.
but my question is how long do we need to wait till we can married ???
in advance many thanks
Salam
Amir, Dk
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Written by amir on July 1st, 2009 with no comments.
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Assalaamu alaikum,
I am a 27 year old muslim girl who was born and raised in the United States. Thanks to my wonderful father, I was enrolled in a Quranic school from the age of 6 years old and I did pretty well. However, school caused me a great deal of stress and it wasn’t easy for me to balance my studies with my prayers and other family responsibilities. Due to a learning disability, I ended up isolating myself from family and friends so I could get good grades in high school and go to a good college.
Thanks to Allah, I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology, but it took me 6 years to get it instead of 4 years because of the learning disability. I ended up having to be put on psychiatric meds from the age of 19 because school was driving me crazy. Even though I have a degree, I cannot work at all because I am under the care of a psychiatrist and therapist and take meds for a mental illness called schizoaffective disorder. I am suffering a lot.
I am having a lot of trouble managing my life. I can’t cook, clean, do laundry..nothing. Sometimes I go crazy because my room is a COMPLETE disaster and I don’t know how to organize it. Due to this disorganized room, I am completely irresponsible. I am lucky I have my mother because she is trying to help me, but she can’t do everything for me since she works 7 days a week. I get very depressed and sleep a lot because I don’t know how to do housework at all. I am no help to her and causing a lot of problems for her life. What should I do?
I met a nice, religious muslim man who loves me so much and cares for my wellbeing (thank Allah a million times!) but how can I be his wife when I am learning disabled and can’t manage a household? He wants me to marry him and live an Islamic life (which I am totally happy about), but I haven’t prayed for many years due to being hospitalized many times for mental illness. I need help…I try to pick myself up and fight with all the problems I have, but it’s just too much. I have not been praying at all…please help me! What should I do?
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Written by iloveallah27 on July 1st, 2009 with 1 comment.
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I am engaged to be married next year to my fiance who is a muslim. he is a very good muslim and a good person. I am christian and because of my love for my fiance I would like some advice on raising our future children in the muslim faith. can you help?
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Written by jas1luv2002 on June 30th, 2009 with no comments.
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asa,
i have been married for 6 years and have a 3 year old son. my husband is a pathological liar. he drinks and i have also caught video clips of him with with his friends and other girls. when i asked him he made up stories to cover up and even hit me because i was angry about it and mad at him. i have still been trying to carry on with him.
recently i met someone on the internet and got involved (texting and chatting) but havent met him. im not sure if i should leave my husband for him or not because if i leave him i will be embarrased and my family. i have no one else to turn for help as i had a love marriage. my parents dont want to know about my problems.
please help
AH
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Written by zenia on June 30th, 2009 with no comments.
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I have been married for 6 years now to a man I have never fell in love with. This is my second marriage. I have been divorced due to physical abuse by my first husband. I got remarried for the wrong reasons.. one was to make my parents happy due to them approving of the man I got married to. After my divorce I fell in love with someone online but never got married to them due to him being in a different country and had no chance of asking for my hand from a far distance, plus from the culture I come from if my parents ever found out I had some type of relation to a man I would get in huge trouble and they would never trust me again.
So, I being dumb gave up that dream to marry the man who I truely fell in love with and told him I cant marry him and was too afraid to tell my parents about him. I went and agreed to marry the man my parents approved of and made them happy. At first my marriage was fine the first year…but after the 3rd year things started to go down hill. Many problems doing with his family and money. Arguements about how I answer him back and mostly fighting over why he swears at me while arguing, he has no respect for me what so ever. Now things are getting worse and I have kids with him. I try not to fight with him in front of them. I love my kids very much and cant imagine how they would feel if they knew I dont love their father. I wake up every day wishing my heart would accept him to enter it, but it is not in my hands I never loved him and I feel I never will. I try not to think of the past and the man I fell in love with, but it is also not in my hands, he is the only one who has truely took over my heart.
I feel sooo guilty and feel like I am cheating on my husband by giving my heart to someone else. I fear Allah will punish me for this. What can I do to avoid this awful feeling of back stabbing him and to help me fall in love with my husband? Is it haram to be in love with someone else while living with a different man?
Jazak Allah khair.
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Written by BinitMuslimah on June 29th, 2009 with 1 comment.
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