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AskBilqis.com Editor’s Note: I’ve recently published several questions without answers. I don’t have time to answer all the questions I receive, so I hope that you readers can look through those unanswered questions and see if you can offer an answer. Jazakum Allah khayr!
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Written by wael on January 20th, 2008 with no comments.
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Alslam Alaikum
I married less than a month ago, my husband is Turkish, I am a Converted Muslimah Alhamdullilah and Guatemalan, and we are having some issues I think, and I would like to find the best way to solve and deal with them Inshallah.
so here are some Issues:
1. No one in his family knows that we are married, nor his friends ( i know friends is not a requirement because they are male and I am female, but he has not told anyone that he is married). I asked him why and he said he was going to do it when he was ready, He wanted to marry previously but his mother according to what he said did not approve, then again he asked and this girl is from somalia and his mother again did not approve. As far as my family they all know. I have been previously married before, have two children from that marriage. and I don’t to what extent might be affecting me.
2. He came one day and told me that he wanted to see how things where in one year, and I read that you cannot condition marriage, it is our duty to commit to each other, respect and love each other, and put things, actions and thoughts in Allah’s hands, then he said that his contract was going to be finished in one year, and I told him that I would go with him.
3. He is very moody and I am very sensitive, he is extremely quiet and sometimes way to serious, I’m a chatter box ( as he calls me) and childish sometimes.
4. I do my duties as a wife, as well as I have a small business in translation, to be honest I take care of my expenses and the kids, he still has the apartment where he used to live and Inshallah he will end the contract by the end of july.
5. He can sleep 4 hours and function perfectly, I am trying, and I am so exausted, I am not a night person at all, but is the only time I have to spend with him, but during the day I have the kids, the business and the house and I need to figure out a way to make sure everything is ok.
6. Language and cultural Issues is very hard
7. Love he says he loves me in between meaning not that he doesn’t love me but he doesn’t love me very much either. then I found an email from the somali gril and they where seeing each other at Isha in the masjid where he used to live and sometimes he goes there and I don’t know if they are seing each other and I am praying to Allah to take those thoughts of my head and heart
Can you advice me please? Inshallah I will be able to find answers for all of my questions
Ma Salama
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Written by noor2704 on January 20th, 2008 with 4 comments.
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Your response will be highly appreciated. Thank you in advance and JazakAllah khair.
I am a 30 yr old woman. I understand my marriage age is way past due..due to various circumstances I didn’t get married though my family tried hard. It is time now and things are working in favor of my marriage, but I have lost complete interest in living a married life..what adds more to my opinion is the real life stories.. I see most people are soo unhappy with their marriage. I witness soo many divorces, personal problems and unhappy social lives.. My brother is Imam and he tells me about the horrible family issues he has to deal with.. I mean sorry to say, but our ummah has soo many crooked people. Allah says he puts Rahma between wife and husband but I dont see it, at least not among the people I know..
Alhamduillah I live a very comfortable and peaceful life, but my parent want me to get married, I am at the stage of life where I make my own decisions and I don’t want to get married, not at least for next few years or until I feel marriage is a good thing. Please tell me about the consequences of delaying my marriage and some benefits of getting married?
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Written by Sultan on January 20th, 2008 with 1 comment.
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i have frnd he has girlfriend and he wants to marry with her but the girl always asking the reasons to getting marry and he dont have any proper answer that whoy they shuld get marry so please give me the details of reasons to marry from islamic point of view as soon as possible
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Written by siraj_amaan on January 17th, 2008 with 1 comment.
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He has spoken to me of marriage can be for a term time set, like 5 years if we wish..
then he spoke he bring me a gift of my choice
we agree to a verbal agreement, contrat
but he does not speak of a formal mosque wedding..what is this and what should I reply to him?
I am a believer (raised in a christian home before) but not converted, he is a muslim man who is of the Islam faith..
I wish to know the truth of marrying because he wish to sleep with me and this to me is not going to happen unless I know this is for real the marriage..
Can someone answer me this, I asked him - but was told of no witnesses or a real Mosque or such marriage..am confused..
thank you
Marilyn
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Written by LadyMarilyn55 on January 17th, 2008 with 1 comment.
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Asalaam – hu – Alaikum1.I would like to know what the rights of men and women are in Islam?
2. Are women born solely for the purpose of pleasing their husbands and children, and therefore through that action please Allah?
3. Is it possible for Allah to grant women with talent and intelligence to succeed at a certain career, since this career helps people in many ways?
I would appreciate some guidance in this regard
Shukran
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Written by Nazreen1708 on January 17th, 2008 with no comments.
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i feel like i am damned and there is no way back for me. i am a muslim man and was dating this sikh woman for 14 months. i have broken up with her but now she has contacted me saying that she is 6 weeks pregnant and is definitely keeping the baby. I dont know what to do as i am only 21 and still in education. my family will probably disown me if they found out, what do i have to do? marry her? i hate her so much i don’t know if i could do that. i feel like she did this to trap me. someone please help me.
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Written by confused09 on January 17th, 2008 with 2 comments.
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Dear Bilqis,
As-Salaam-O-Alaikum
I am a muslim girl, married for 5 years. Recently my husband sent me to my parent’s home, because he wanted to be seperate from me for some time. We have had many small arguments over the time of our marriage, and have no children as well.
I came to my parent’s home and now he is asking me to stop calling or contacting him over the phone. I have been praying to ALLAH that things get better between me and my husband. Is there any strong Dua for hajjat or need or any ayat that i can recite for all the misunderstandings and bad feelings to go away from my husband’s heart. I am very disturbed, and i want forgiveness from ALLAH and my husband for any mistakes of mine and want to be back with my husband. Can you please advice me.
Thank You,
Allah Hafiz,
Naila
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Written by naila82 on January 17th, 2008 with 2 comments.
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Hi, I’ve been married to my husband who’s muslim for nearly three years now. At the time we got married in a registry office, with two male muslim witnesses and one female christian witness. As far as my husband knew, interfaith marriages are allowed.
Later while browsing the internet he confirmed that on some islamic sites it states that a muslim man can marry a christian girl in a registry office, but some other sites clearly denies it. So now we are confused has we don’t want to do anthing that goes against Islam.
We’ve been looking through your website and found some of the answers, but we’re still not sure yet about the marriage validity in Islam. I didnt have my father or a guardian at the marriage, the reason being my parents dont agree with me being with a muslim man. But my other family members who are happy with my decision weren’t present at the marriage.
Because of our uncertainty at the validity of our marriage its putting a strain on our relationship. My husband is confused about whether we are allowed to sleep in the same bed and have a sexual relationship. He is practising his religion and also helping me study Islam because I want to convert. So given the circumstances is our marriage valid under the light of QURAN and SUNNAH?
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Written by Gem on January 17th, 2008 with comments disabled.
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